How to chat if you want to remarry with your ex-wife (the reason why my ex-wife remarried with me voluntarily)

I'm from the xi Pavilion in Donglin. If you have a story, come to me.

Emotional things are staged every day, and the drama of "some people are happy and some people are sad" is being staged. Some people really want to remarry their ex-wives after divorce, but they can't wait to see them. Some people don't want to remarry their ex-wife after divorce, but her ex-wife comes to him to remarry. Others want to remarry their ex-wives, but they don't take the initiative to attack, but take a retreat.

There are many cases of failed remarriage and many cases of successful remarriage. The following story about the remarriage of a reader and his ex-wife is quite different from others' stories. Let's take a look together.

Miss Lin Dong: I've read many stories you wrote about divorced men remarrying with their ex-wives. Seeing those stories of failed remarriage, I sympathize with them. As a bystander, I can see what is wrong with them. Some men are not sincere about remarriage with their ex-wives, some men just remarry for the sake of remarriage, and some men want to remarry with their ex-wives, and it is normal to fail in the end.

What you said in your previous article about the remarriage of divorced men and their ex-wives is very reasonable and can increase the possibility of successful remarriage. But from my own experience, my ex-wife and I remarried successfully, and I have my own method.

I admit that when I first married her, I was still immature. I always care about something. I'm very suspicious. I'm always jealous and angry. Besides, she is the kind of person who has many friends. I didn't care too much before I got married, because every day together, I didn't have a chance to be jealous and lose my temper. But after marriage, I realized that marriage needs to be managed and I can't stay with her all the time, so I always have ideas when I'm not together.

Once she went out to eat with her friends and came home very late. When I saw a man driving her home, I became jealous and kept losing my temper with her. First she quarreled with me, then she had a cold war with me and ignored me for several days.

Although I knew at that time that I might have misjudged her, it made me sad to think that she had been sent home after drinking so much with other men. After that, as long as she is not at home, I can't help wondering. So, because of this kind of thing, we often quarrel.

The worst quarrel was the one that led to our divorce. When I doubted her again, she stopped arguing with me and said, "You don't have to doubt, I just cheated. Are you satisfied? I just don't want to be married to you. I just want to divorce you and marry someone else. Isn't that what you want? In that case, I will help you. "

After she said these words, she deliberately told many details about her being with others. I was furious and threatened to divorce, and she agreed at that time. It was in that impulsive state that we divorced.

In fact, on the day of the divorce, after I calmed down, I regretted the divorce. It wasn't a big problem. I have always been guessing and doubting without evidence. In order to verify that what she said was not true, I went to the man she said was cheating, and found that they had no abnormal relationship, just friends.

I made a terrible mistake. I want to apologize to her at once and beg her to remarry with me. However, I know what her personality is. If I take the initiative to find her, she will definitely not want to remarry with me. She doesn't like being asked to make decisions. She likes to think carefully before making a decision.

After that, I kept the possibility of remarriage with her and began to train my mind. I've been studying why I'm so suspicious and jealous, and finally I find that it's all because of my lack of confidence and self-confidence. I think I need to make a change in this respect. Only when I get rid of these two problems can I be qualified to remarry with her.

I've made up my mind that when I feel I won't be suspicious anymore, I'll go to find her and remarry. If she has remarried by then, I'll give up.

Later, in the process of adjusting myself, I gradually found that it is not enough to adjust myself. I just adjusted myself to remarry with her. I need to do other things to increase my hope of remarriage.

I did two things: First, I got into the habit of keeping a diary every day. Every day's diary will be posted in the circle of friends, all about the ex-wife, mainly about her good, analyzing her own mistakes and hurting her; Secondly, I often buy gifts for her friends, all of which she likes. She can receive gifts and read my diary. I think even if these two things can't impress her, I deliberately give myself more hope of remarriage.

I have been insisting for two years, and I am going to find her to remarry myself. I didn't expect her to come to me to remarry before me.

She can contact me on her own initiative, so I guess we have to start over. However, I didn't get carried away, but treated her like I had never been divorced, joking with her and chatting with her easily. She may be testing me. After chatting for a while, she asked for remarriage.

I agreed and told her, "I have been preparing to remarry with you, and I have been waiting to remarry with you." I originally wanted to come to you, but I didn't expect you to come to me first. "

She said, "Thank you for always defending my reputation, and thank you for waiting for me to remarry!" " I also reflected on the reasons for my previous divorce. It's not all your fault. I'm also wrong, because I didn't keep a proper distance from the opposite sex outside marriage. "

In this way, we remarried smoothly. Although the story of our remarriage is simple, and there is no deep hatred between us, this is not the point, but the point is my efforts to remarriage after my divorce. After two years of divorce, my ex-wife asked me to remarry because I did those three things right.

I think other men who want to remarry their ex-wives can refer to it. You can't take it for granted that you want to remarry your ex-wife. You must take action, otherwise you just say you want to remarry. Why did your ex-wife listen and remarry you? Whether the previous divorce is your fault or not, if you want to remarry, you have to pay.

? The emotional implication of Donglin xi Pavilion is that the reader can finally remarry his ex-wife smoothly, which depends on several conditions being met at the same time: First, the contradiction between the two people may be resolved; Second, both of them have the will to remarry; Third, both of them took action.

This reader is not 100% sure that he will remarry his ex-wife. He just changed, increasing the possibility of remarriage with his ex-wife. Not only did he not speak ill of his ex-wife, but he kept defending her reputation while paying, waiting for the right time. These, in fact, your ex-wife can see. She can use actions and changes to realize that you are asking for remarriage, which is more effective than asking her directly with your mouth.

Anyway, this kind of thing is the best arrangement if you can treat it calmly, no matter what the final result is. All your efforts for remarriage, if remarriage is successful, will naturally be a good thing. Even if remarriage is unsuccessful, you are changing yourself and managing yourself, which is also good for your later life. In short, it is a good thing to take this opportunity to improve yourself. (Text/Donglin xi Pavilion, if you have a story, come to me)