The essence of marriage is a play.

I. Introduction

Mr. A: I cheated not because of desire, let alone because I was out of control. My infidelity was planned. I hate the current state of life, lifeless, like a stagnant pool. We get off work, eat separately, and go home without greeting or making out. She watches TV, I play games and go to bed at eight o'clock. She faces left and I face right. Strange strange bedfellows, that's it. I decided to cheat and get some change.

Mr b: Zhihu has a question. Why do men always smoke a cigarette in the car before going back from work? At that time, an answer touched me, because when I got home, that person was the father and the husband, and in the car, that person was just himself. My wife and I have been married for more than ten years. As far as passion is concerned, we must have lost it long ago, but now we are caught in a contradiction where many details can be quarreled. For example, if I wear a dress, she thinks it's ugly and has to change it for something she likes.

Second, marriage is "played".

Mr. C: I forgot her birthday because I worked late and went home at three in the morning. Throw a cake in my face, ............ I want to make money. I'm a man. Can't women be considerate? Spoiled into a princess and a daughter every day. However, this day. It suddenly occurred to me what an emotional writer said: Many times, it is not the differences between * * * and interests and opinions that crush marriage. Marriage collapsed not because of blushing, but because of a meal, a good night, a dress and getting up early.

Boredom, impatience, loss of confidence, insecurity, these negative feelings, from the small moment of life, latent growth, and ultimately dominate the direction of marriage. Some people say that the essence of marriage is the workplace, and appropriateness is very important. I have no objection. But from this activity, I suddenly found that the deeper essence of marriage is show. As a husband or wife, it is very important to pay attention to the details of this role. Many beautiful marriages are staged.

Third, a special sense of ceremony.

"What is the best preservative for marriage?" The reporter interviewed an American couple in their 70s. The two old people looked at each other and said in unison, "Say good night before going to bed every day." This agreement was reached when they started to get married. "At that time, we felt that if we want to make our marriage last, we should try our best to do one thing, even a small thing. So, we thought of saying good night to each other. "

The reporter asked: "What if there is a quarrel?" Smith said, "We have quarreled many times." The reporter asked, "Do you say good night after the quarrel?" Smith said, "Every day, no matter how serious the quarrel is, I will say good night to each other. If I really don't want to talk, I will write it on a note and put it on her bedside, or send her a text message. But I will definitely say good night. Sometimes I get angry, but I will convince myself that it's okay. Just pretend. This is the agreement.

Tiffany: "at this time, I will feel that he still loves me, and my anger will be half gone." I will reply to him and then quietly pour him a glass of milk and put it on his bedside.

Fourth, keep your promise.

A long and happy marriage will be caught in beautiful fireworks and daily chores. These trivial matters constitute the unstable factors of marriage and the sporadic sparks of married life. Many times, a good couple is not a particularly big role, but a small person. Even if you can't be perfect, you should play this role well, such as insisting on saying good night and keeping your promise even if you don't want to.

For many people, this seems to be a performance. Yes, maybe, but it's a ceremony. This ceremony will remind you every day that this is your lover and will accompany you for life. At a certain moment, your little gesture may be worthless to others, and it will open a small gap in the dark side of marriage and let the sun in. A lot of things will suddenly become clear.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) is a neglected detail.

Tianjin Satellite TV's "Battle of Love" has a program in which the husband and wife quarrel and get on the show. The host asked the woman, "What is the reason for your divorce? He's not good enough? Not rich enough? Not enough to give you security, or? " The woman said, "Well, neither. I only remember that every time I bought new clothes since my wedding day, I asked him how he was. He took a look, but didn't speak. " Say that finish, tears came down.

The woman went on to say, "will it kill you to say nice things?" Will it kill you to praise your wife for her beauty? Even if it is fake! " I am not the most beautiful person in the world. You think women don't know? Do you still need to say it? But she wants to be the most beautiful in your eyes. A very popular short video "You have changed, let's divorce".

The man said to the woman, "Let's get a divorce. We are not happy at all, are we? " ? "The hostess thought for a night, then went to bed and said," Give us another month. Can you do everything according to my words this month? "The man wanted to think, anyway, just a month," good ".

Conclusion of intransitive verbs

Getting married is always a trivial matter. In this month, the hostess asked the man to hug her and kiss her every day when she went out. He must go home for dinner, say "good night" before going to bed and hold hands. A month later, the man said to the woman, "I can't imagine life without you."

Love is the joy of two little people, not a so-called vigorous legend. A good marriage is a journey that can continue in those exciting moments. Maybe you are busy, tired and aesthetic, but don't give up these moments. Say good night before going to bed, go out to hug, walk together and hold hands every day. After cooking, she said "thank you".

These little hearts are stars dotted in the marriage sky. Writer Yang said: "Getting married is always a trivial matter. You don't have to be a legend and a big coffee, but you have to play this little guy well. This is your home and a stage for happiness.