Extramarital affairs: get together for profit, break up for profit

These three types of extramarital affairs are the most difficult for men to end

Seeing the problems is the meaning of self-growth

Some people say that extramarital affairs are a whirlpool of desire, and you get trapped in them. It is difficult to get out; some people say that extramarital affairs are an ideal paradise, and the more addicted they are, the harder it is to extricate themselves. Some people also say that extramarital affairs are a game between desire and reason. If you lose to desire, it will be difficult for a person to look back...

We all understand the truth, but extramarital affairs are difficult to end. The reason is that Human nature: Desire is paramount and cannot be contained.

When the word "desire" obscures the eyes, people's hearts will become greedy. They want a stable marriage while being addicted to the excitement of extramarital affairs. They know that there is an abyss in front of them, but they still jump into it one after another.

These three kinds of extramarital affairs for men are very difficult to end once they start

01. Meeting a woman you can’t love

A reader wrote to me: "I My husband and I met on a blind date, but less than two years after we got married, he cheated on me. I found ambiguous text messages and travel records on his phone. The girl was his crush in college, and she was already married and had a family. She was obviously her husband. Why do two impossible people have to be entangled together?

In fact, the answer is obvious. This is also a common problem in extramarital affairs: to be more affectionate to the person you can’t get. There is this lyric in "Red Rose": “Those who are not favored are always in turmoil, and those who are favored are confident.

Revealing one of the truths about extramarital affairs.

For many people, those who cannot get it have a greater sense of conquest and freshness. If they have tried the excitement and joy of extramarital affairs, it will be difficult to endure the dullness and boringness of marriage, and they do not want to go back to it. Realistic daily necessities.

This is why it is so difficult to stop some extramarital affairs once they begin.

After watching a movie about an extramarital affair, "Like a Shadow", a violinist named Lu Song met the female painter Wen Qi in France and fell in love at first sight.

Even when facing his wife, the image of Wen Ying flashed through his mind. But in fact, Wen Ying was already married, and her husband was a surgeon.

The literary utensils with rich literary and artistic flavor have since become a light in Lu Song’s heart. Their desires are constantly entangled, and Lu Song even hesitates to stage a divorce battle with his original wife.

It is said that extramarital affairs will inspire a person's selfishness and desire, and eventually greed will make people lose their reason.

I deeply agree. Because extramarital affairs make people full of idealization, it can make those who are escaping temporarily forget the troubles of reality.

In addition, married life is a mess, and it is easy to be disappointed with the boring status quo. At this time, extramarital affairs are like a sugar-coated medicine, which temporarily anesthetizes the emptiness in the heart. .

So, once a man meets a woman he doesn’t love in an extramarital affair, it is basically difficult to end it. He will either get it or lose it completely, otherwise he will continue to be entangled until he falls into the abyss of desire.

02. Meet a woman who is not obsessed with stalking but has a sense of proportion.

There was a question before: What kind of woman is the most terrifying? The top-rated answer is: a woman who has a sense of propriety and a sense of propriety. woman.

A woman who understands propriety will not bore a man. Every step forward, every step back, every move is carefully calculated in her heart. The intercourse between you and me will make people want to stop.

In the TV series "The First Half of My Life", Chen Junsheng was played by Ling Ling and divorced his original wife. The reason is that Ling Ling has too much sense of proportion.

Chen Junsheng was disgusted with Luo Zijun's dependence and demands, and the marriage began to turn red, but Ling Ling used her tenderness and sense of proportion to the extreme.

He is considerate and helpful in everything at work, which makes Chen Junsheng feel a great sense of satisfaction. Emotionally, he always takes steps back to make progress, and wins Chen Junsheng's heart step by step.

A cup of hot tea when you are tired, a box of stomach medicine when you have a stomachache, and a few words of comfort when you are upset, all reflect Ling Ling’s gentleness and understanding.

When Chen Junsheng's extramarital affair was discovered by his wife, in order to comfort him, Ling Ling taught him to put all the blame on herself.

He gives everything without asking for anything in return. He upholds his "deep love" and is very calm.

When a man having an extramarital affair encounters this kind of relentless stalking and a sense of propriety, he is really like a bird in a cage with nowhere to escape.

Some men think that they have to work hard at home, so when faced with the incomprehension of their wives and the boring life day after day, once a gentle and passionate opposite sex appears around them, they want to hide in the land of gentleness.

In reality, marriage is a responsibility and a pressure, but in an extramarital affair, men can be themselves as much as they want. They are neither husbands nor fathers, but men who can do whatever they want and enjoy the joy of indulgence.

Therefore, some men with unstable minds will indulge in it, find it difficult to extricate themselves, and forget about their family and responsibilities.

03. Meet women who can provide career and financial help

Teacher Tu Lei once said: Don’t underestimate men’s ambitions. In fact, they are more realistic than women. This is true.

Even if a man is married, he will still measure the value of a woman. Especially in extramarital affairs, men are generally reluctant to break up with a woman who can provide him with career and financial help.

There is a case in "The Defense of Marriage" about a 32-year-old married man who had an extramarital affair with his female boss for three years behind his wife's back.

During this period, this man achieved three rapid promotions and his salary increased several times. His first wife was kept in the dark until the day when the incident happened.

But the man did not feel ashamed of his wife at all. Instead, he pointed at his wife’s nose and asked: I earn the money and I support the family. What can you give me?

Many viewers expressed their sympathy. The wife fights against the injustice and feels that the power of men is real.

But when a man meets a woman who can help his career and financially, it is like sitting on a rocket and flying forward.

At this time No matter how determined your heart is, it will be shaken, because the measurement of interests will occupy the first place.

There is a saying that goes well: If you want to destroy a person, let him take a shortcut

The temptation of extramarital affairs, coupled with the transfer of benefits, may be just a small profit at first, but As time goes by, greed will gradually become a problem.

Think about the extramarital affair that made him so successful, and then look at the wife at home who cannot provide him with benefits. How can a man stop so easily?

Sexual stimulation, coupled with benefits The bondage is enough to make a man sink into the quagmire and lose his original intention. There is a saying: In fact, emotions are all the same, and they remain true to their roots. Deeply agree.

Some people's extramarital affairs are exciting. As long as they are happy without seeing the results, the happy mood will disappear sooner or later, and love will be helpless.

Some people have extramarital affairs for profit, and they are tied to each other's money and can't part with each other. However, love must not only have benefits, but also be affectionate and righteous. If you gather for profit, you will break up for profit.

Whether it is an extramarital affair, whether it is just for fun or false, it is ultimately a mistake. When making decisions, men must also understand that good relationships need to be created by themselves.