"A female classmate almost ruined a marriage." What do middle-aged people fear most about marriage?

After marriage, not a man and a woman live an enviable life. Married life is full of quarrels, bumps and even broken pots. We need long-term running-in to achieve perfection. In marriage, we need to smooth our edges and corners, get to know each other through small details in life, and let each other feel love. A happy marriage is hidden in the details.

The biggest harm in marriage is silence. The most important thing in a sustainable relationship is not appearance, material conditions or even loyalty, but whether two people know how to enjoy it. Because whether in the passionate period of feelings or when the marriage is dull, if you don't share it, two people are like ordinary tenants and strangers. This sense of gap is the biggest harm to feelings.

The most wronged thing in marriage is to lose yourself. The biggest harm in feelings is being ignored, paying too much, and even losing yourself, but in the other person's view, this is not a great thing. In the choice of career and family, most of the roles paid are women, and they often have to give up more and pay more. What they care about most is never who has more, but whether their efforts in marriage can lead to happiness in the future.

The most feared thing in marriage is that there is no sense of ceremony. No matter whether you are married or in love, what you are most afraid of after marriage is decades of white water, which is not fresh at all. It turns out that it's not that I don't love, but that mysterious and attractive love has gradually disappeared and has been ignored and forgotten by us. Ritual sense plays an important role in feelings. On every special day, even a small bunch of wild flowers can make each other's initial love shine in the darkness of every night.