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But I want to emphasize that it is easier to forget than to look back; For a person, what is terrible is not people, but people's thoughts. This is especially true in love! If a person pays attention to results in love, you will never be happy. People always say that people should learn to enjoy themselves! Then why can't you do it? In fact, the reason is very simple, that is, when a person falls in love with another person, he can't afford to lose her (of course, nothing is absolute). This makes people focus on the results rather than enjoying the process. This can only be normal! I can also be divided into two types in love, one is realistic romanticism and the other is romantic romanticism. Realistic romantics are what people often say: people who are not good at expressing love value future love and want to make each other happy through their own efforts. This means making each other happy through the material world! Realistic romanticism ignores the people around him, thus making the other person feel that he only values his work, not himself. People who are with such people should learn to understand him. After all, he is also trying to make you happy. Some people will say: that's not what I want. What I want is that he always cares about me, supports me and chats with me. . This is a call for happiness! But for the realistic romantic, he only considers giving, and he can do anything as long as you are happy, but he ignores what is inside. He values the future, and his happiness is based on material things, which is his shortcoming. Strength is to ensure your future life. If you choose him, you should choose everything about him when you are in love. If you love him, you should love everything about him. Romantic romantics, needless to say, know that they are people who pursue fashion and romance. For them, happiness in the present is more important than happiness in the future. It is wrong to pursue romance and ignore the existence of reality. If falling in love is not romantic, who will talk about it! However, what is romance and why not? For me, romance is based on reality. While pursuing romance, we should pay attention to the emergence of problems and solutions, rather than blindly pursuing romance. If you want to be romantic for a long time, you should learn to live a romantic life and deal with problems with reality. Of course, you should also consider what you should do in the future, instead of setting your goals in front of you. The advantage of romanticism is to learn to enjoy and meet spiritually. The disadvantage is that you ignore the reality and pay no attention to the future. The combination of the two can facilitate you to deal with problems. As for how, my thoughts are as follows: First, when falling in love, we should pay attention to our emotions and thoughts, and both sides should establish trust institutions. For example, we can make an appointment to exchange our voices and opinions on time and find reasons and solutions for each other, so as to enhance mutual trust and understanding. The second is to deal with the problems found at the same time when pursuing romance, and remain humble to each other. Don't think of a small problem and ignore its existence! Not small is not big. Third, we should exchange ideas about both sides and the future, find their common ground and cultivate their common ground, and resolve and understand their differences. The fourth is to properly separate. Proper separation is also a kind of love, which can enhance your love. Of course, too long and too frequent may be counterproductive! Being together for a long time will ignore many problems, while being apart properly will find many problems. At this time, mutual trust institutions will play a role, and there will be a better foundation and conditions for analyzing and solving problems. Of course, this should be based on mutual trust, dare to admit it, and be humble. Recognition and humility are not humiliation, but love. If you really love someone, you will love her regardless of face, and so should you when you find a problem. Fifth, the two should aim at being together for a long time and jointly build your love house. Love is a combination of the two, and both are indispensable. The withdrawal of one party will break and forget the house of love. Therefore, it is necessary for both parties to operate together. As long as you really love each other, the cornerstone of this house of love will be established. When encountering and solving problems, their emotions and thoughts are the bricks to build a house of love. What kind of love house you want to build depends on how you use those bricks. Sixth, there should be no problem with thinking! Say what? As long as we love each other forever, there will be no problem. But what about reality? Problems arise from reality and should be treated and solved with a realistic attitude. It is not easy for them to fall in love, so they should trust and support each other, understand and tolerate each other. Love is eternal, and so is the moment of love. Seventh, sense of responsibility: As a person, we should not only be responsible for ourselves, but also learn to be responsible for others. The world is not just your own, but everyone's. In charge of a hundred things, responsibility is the premise of mediation: a responsible person will be responsible for you. The same is true in love, a person who makes people feel safe will be chosen by others. Eight is happiness! If you feel unhappy together, you can see if you love each other. People who love each other will have a sense of pride and happiness together. They always want to be with her and feel that they can't live without her. Of course, we must also distinguish between love and dependence! The lack of human heart can also lead to the lack of love. However, since it is the lack of people's heart, we should pay attention to people's heart and know what we are thinking, live high, how to live and how to live. In fact, in everyone's mind, the key is what you use to understand and live. The success of a relationship is not whether it is still holding hands, but whether it is good or bad. Many times, holding hands does not mean success, and breaking up does not mean failure. The key is to see whether you have completed two important psychological tasks of love in this relationship. Do you know your needs better? Have you learned to love others? The opposite of love should not be hate, but forgetting; Then why do some people's love turn into hatred instead of forgetting? That's because they lack confidence in love ... We need to complete two important psychological tasks in love: First, we should know ourselves better. In addition to the concept of self-awareness, the self in sexual love can be presented more completely and clearly. Second, cultivate our lover's ability. Get used to being loved since childhood and learn to love. There are three benchmarks to see whether a man is a good man: responsibility, respect and stability. Being responsible means that he can be responsible for what he said. Respect means that he can respect his partner, which is what we usually call respect. You have established a "partnership" with him, and you are equal. Besides, he should be an emotionally stable person. Some people are prone to emotional ups and downs, so it is difficult for such people to maintain long-term relationships. These are just benchmarks for a good man. If we raise the conditions to a sophisticated person, we can also sum up the so-called "half-hearted" benchmark. First of all, the initial heart is happiness. He should be a cheerful person himself, which will make people who get along with him feel happy. The second heart is caring. Caring means caring, which is easy for all girls to understand. The third heart is empathy. What is empathy? It is the ability to put yourself in others' shoes. Empathy is the source of respect and the most important ability for couples to solve conflicts. There are two meanings. The first meaning is sincerity. Sincerity means sincerity, and sincerity is the basis of responsibility. The second meaning is goodwill, that is, it can explain the couple's behavior in a kind way. For many people, this is very difficult to do when getting along with couples. For example, if the other party is late accidentally, it will start to interpret and accuse the other party maliciously, and you don't care about me! Someone buys a stock that keeps losing money, just like facing an irreparable marriage. Whether to sell it puzzles all the costs he spends on things, such as time and money, just like whether to divorce. When these costs cannot be recovered, they are called silent costs in psychology. Why we don't want to leave an unhealthy marriage, why we don't want to give up a worthless stock, because we don't want to admit that these silent costs can never be recovered. The emotional needs of boys in love are as follows: First, their own abilities are affirmed. He often cares whether anyone deserves respect. Second, talent is appreciated. Maybe he has some hobbies and talents that don't work at all, but you still need to learn to love and respect. Third, try to be appreciated. His efforts to you and this relationship need to be appreciated. The emotional needs of girls in love: First, they are often concerned. Although it is a daily nagging, please listen patiently. Second, repeatedly affirm. She may ask you again and again if you love her. In fact, she just needs affirmation again and again, and you need to give her confidence. Third, ideas are respected. (Enhance each other's feelings when sharing emotions) The way to keep love eternal is to make a three-by-three preservation plan. Three times a day, three minutes each time. Three -a plan, first attention, concentration. In our daily life, I often think that the best gift we can give others is time, put down all the work at hand, turn off the mobile phone and listen to each other attentively. Secondly, kinship is a kind of nonverbal communication, that is, body language communication. It's okay. Give each other more hugs. Third, admire and appreciate each other. Every mature woman has a very naive little girl, and every naive little girl has a naive little question mark. That is whether I am likable or not. At this time, you need to learn to praise each other. Of course, it is a good choice to compliment each other's appearance and figure. Or her ability to take care of the family can not be ignored. Of course, every mature man has a very naive little boy in his body, and every naive little boy has a ridiculous little question mark in his body, that is, am I looked down upon by others? No matter how mature a man becomes, this little question mark still exists. Learn to give him affirmation. Nothing is more touching than love. If you feel that there is something incomplete in your present life, it is probably that you haven't finished this homework yet. In fact, love has rules to follow. If you follow these psychological and emotional needs, when we say I love you to each other for the last time, we will not regret it.

I hope I can help you. If you are satisfied, please adopt it. If you are not satisfied, keep asking. I wish you happiness!