If my friend doesn't reply to the message I sent him, what's behind him?

Nothing is more important than sending a message to a friend. As a result, our friend's delay in replying makes us scratch our hearts. We will come up with all kinds of ideas in our minds:

Am I not important to him? Does he look down on me? I know he has been using his mobile phone and brushing his circle of friends! He must have seen it. Why didn't he reply? Does he have any ideas? He doesn't want to, unhappy?

Why do we have such thoughts and reactions? Because a friend doesn't reply within a certain period of time, it is like a personal attack on our own value.

Online instant messaging methods such as WeChat have replaced the previous forms of face-to-face conversation and phone calls, so the other party's failure to reply has no less impact on our self-esteem than giving us face in face-to-face conversation or hanging up without saying hello when calling.

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Anyone who is mentally sound and emotionally stable will reply after seeing the information unless he is too busy to delay. But no matter how many hours have passed, he will reply to you when he sees it, and attach a sentence "Sorry, I was too busy to see it" as an explanation for not replying in time.

So basically all unanswered questions are ignored intentionally or unintentionally, that is, subconsciously feel bored or unnecessary, put aside temporarily after reading them, and forget them after a long time.

If you ask why you didn't reply afterwards, he will say, "The phone is dead." In fact, it is very rare for a real mobile phone to have no electricity. After all, while he deliberately ignores your information, he is also worried about missing information that is important to him. If the phone is dead, it will be very insecure.

Of course, before you think about it without receiving a reply, you should also click on the chat box to confirm whether it was sent successfully. It does happen that you crackle and edit a long paragraph and then forget to press the send button, or the signal is just bad and the transmission fails. Then it was staged that you thought you were rich, and then you thought about various possibilities, but you missed the other party and didn't receive this big oolong at all.

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What is the psychology behind the other party's ignoring your information and deliberately not replying?

First, I really don't like you;

Second, by ignoring one of your messages, as revenge for ignoring his message before;

Third, I feel bored communicating with you online and don't want to waste time;

Fourth, play a brain game with you, let you wait for a reply, let you think, and frustrate your spirit and emotions;

Fifth, I am too lazy to respect you enough, so I don't reply;

Sixth, when we added friends to WeChat, we forgot the names of the notes. I haven't contacted for a long time, and it has forgotten who it really is.

Seventh, I bother you more. I don't want to be disturbed by you. I will treat you in a cold way;

Eighth, the content and tone in your message are too demanding and radical, and you can refuse by not replying;

Ninth, the other person is a kind and enthusiastic person, and will not intentionally ignore any information, but his subconscious mind makes him forget to reply. Afterwards, he will sincerely apologize to you and say, "I don't know what happened, I thought I replied." Indeed, he really forgot;

Tenth, I am too afraid to reply, afraid to face your questions and situations, or uncomfortable to communicate with you, so that this communication will be terminated by my own non-reply from the beginning.

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It's normal not to reply once or twice. Maybe the other person is really busy or forgets. After all, everyone has their own things to deal with, and it is impossible to be by your side all the time and be on standby at any time. But if the other person often doesn't reply, it's time to reflect on your relationship. Reflection can help your relationship not deteriorate, and it can also prevent you from doing some inappropriate behavior.

You can think about whether you are too radical and demanding in the process of communication, ignoring each other's feelings and personal space. No one likes others to force themselves or to be too attached to themselves. If you are always like this, even the most tolerant people will want to ignore you and avoid you.

Therefore, if others don't reply to you, don't be paranoid, and don't resent each other for it, feeling that the other person looks down on you and is inhuman. Find your own reasons first.