Master Xuecheng: Don't cry when you are wronged.

Our life, from birth to death, has experienced all kinds of ups and downs, suffered all kinds of hardships, suffered all kinds of bitterness and suffered all kinds of pains. Our family and career often have all kinds of disappointments. When we get along with relatives, friends, classmates and colleagues around us, we are often misunderstood, wronged and even accused and slandered by others.

When children quarreled, their parents came up with a scolding, and their eyes immediately burst into tears. At school, we are diligent and eager to learn, burning the midnight oil, but we are often unknown on the list; To the unit, we are conscientious and diligent, but we are always not appreciated and are criticized by the leaders abnormally; Even when he left home and helped others bravely, he was blackmailed. All this is really wronged and helpless. When these unpleasant things happen to themselves, those who are light will grieve with tears, and those who are heavy will rise up in anger and retaliate against others.

but what's the use of crying? It will only increase sadness. If you don't learn to endure grievances from now on, you will only accumulate a little inner resentment. When the power of resentment accumulates to a certain extent, it will eventually explode and hurt others. We often think that if we are hurt, we must retaliate against each other in order to make up for the pain. But after a bitter revenge, are our wounds healed? No, instead, I sprinkled a handful of salt on my wound, which made my injury worse. As a result, the relationship between them gradually drifted away, and eventually they fell apart from their families, were fired by their leaders, or turned against their friends. If you start to suffer a little injustice, learn to endure it and things will pass; If the grievances can't be overcome and the inner resentment keeps increasing, that is the beginning of evil and the beginning of real pain.

From birth to death, we have joys and sorrows, but it is always bittersweet. Then how do we deal with it when we are wronged? Tao Te Ching said: "Qu is complete, waste is right, depression is surplus, cover is new, less is gained, and more is confused." It means that you can stand the injustice and save yourself; Only by standing up to grievances can things be straightened out; Low depressions can be full, old ones can be new, less can be gained, and greed can be confusing.

Buddha told us that all the pains in the world are caused by our own karma, and karma is caused by troubles. Inner troubles such as greed, ignorance, etc. promote the career, and the career will feel bitter at present, and there will be hidden dangers of bitterness in the future, and there will be more bitter rewards, and more greed, ignorance and stupidity will increase.

when we feel wronged, we are actually driven by troubles, and the evil deeds such as slander, slander and scolding created in the past are felt in the present. The reason why we are wronged and prone to tears is because we are caught in our own emotions and strongly cling to ourselves. Originally, I expected to get the affirmation and admiration of the other party, but I didn't get it. Instead, I was criticized, accused and hurt by some people who thought it was unreasonable. What we want is not satisfied, but hurt, which is exactly what we have created before.

Therefore, after understanding this truth, it is oneself who really should blame. If it is a cause, if it is a result, knowing that all the pains and pleasures are self-inflicted, it will no longer fall into emotions and increase sadness. I will no longer encourage hatred and push myself to the fire kang of hell. The Buddha told us that "the first way to endure humiliation" is to subdue our inner hatred and guide the other side to improve with compassion and wisdom. Isn't it better to treat others more? Bodhisattva still wants to practice "humiliation" after walking for six times, not to mention us?

Whether you are tolerant or wronged when the realm comes is not the difference in external behavior, but your inner state. Beyond the heart, let go, you can tolerate each other. If your heart has been caring and resisting, but your appearance is forbearing, you will feel wronged and hurt. Therefore, whether it is external rejection or self-persecution, it is actually self-persistence.

So we should increase our kindness, gratitude and joy in the ordinary realm; Always be grateful for each other's help and think about each other's goodwill; Always think for others everywhere, without hurting others. Even if you see others' faults, don't change your kindness, let alone affect your mood because of others' troubles.

the so-called "seeking perfection through grievances", if it is really "seeking perfection", there will be no grievances. The so-called "magnanimity can accommodate", if it is really "magnanimous", it will be empty. As Master You Yi said, "Let go of the whole body and mind and make a transcendent view."

Everything in the world is changeable. If you let go of your self-attachment, the pain will naturally leave, the dark clouds of grievances will not drive away, and the radiant light will light up your heart.