How to educate rebellious children

Have you found the right way to educate rebellious children? Let me introduce how to educate rebellious children. I hope it helps you!

1, how to educate rebellious children

1. 1, communicate with children like friends.

When parents find that their children have a desire for independence, don't forcibly suppress their children's ideas. Instead, you should share your true wishes with your friends and cultivate a correct way of thinking, instead of suppressing her with your parents' airs. The blow will only make children feel disgusted and disgusted.

1.2, listen more and talk less.

When a girl has a desire for independence, her parents should observe her behavior and listen to her heart. Listen to your parents, and a girl will think that she is respected. When she feels the respect from her parents, she will go back and look at her thoughts and behaviors rationally. But in fact, many parents will adopt a preaching method that girls can't accept or even resent, which runs counter to girls' desire for independence. Therefore, listening more and talking less is also helping girls to become independent as soon as possible.

1.3, look at the problem from the child's point of view

It is not difficult to understand a girl's desire for independence. When parents find that a girl has a desire for independence, it is best not to rush to evaluate and deny it. If there is a rebellious situation, they can only forgive or understand and let her experience it herself. With your persuasion, she will understand when she grows up. If she does something wrong, don't beat and scold, be considerate of her, and she will think quietly and gradually understand. People's thoughts will mature with growth, and rebellious period is the necessary stage for children to grow up.

1.4, put down the shelf

Faced with girls' strong desire for independence, many parents will show disdain and even rely on the authority of their elders to suppress their children. This is not right. The girl's longing for independence shows that she is very eager to grow up. Parents should be the "mentors" of girls' growth, standing behind the girls and giving them correct guidance and support, instead of suppressing her with parents' airs.

1.5, trust children

Children grow up and pay more attention to privacy. Some parents peeked at their children's diaries and found some secrets of their children. They couldn't hold their breath and flew into a rage. This is the most unwise way to educate children. If you think that only by reading your child's diary can you understand what the child is thinking, that's fine, but it's best not to get angry, let yourself calm down, analyze the reasons and think about ways to deal with it. And most importantly, don't let your child know that you have seen something she doesn't want to see. Otherwise, it is easy for her to have a crisis of trust in you and have a rebellious mentality.

2. Children's rebellious period

People have three rebellious periods. Different rebellious periods have different characteristics of personality development and psychological and physiological development, and parents have different coping styles.

2-3 years old, rebellious behavior is the performance of the first rebellious period in life, which is called "baby rebellious period".

When you are 6-8 years old, you will come to the second rebellious period of your life, which is called "children's rebellious period".

12- 18 years old is the third rebellious period of life, which is also the most common and famous "rebellious period of youth".

3. Why do children rebel during the rebellious period?

Parents and children lack two-way communication, resulting in ideological contradictions. As children grow up, their sense of independence becomes stronger and stronger. They need to have their own way of doing things, and they don't want to be controlled too much. Some parents do everything for their children's protection, so that children's desire for independence and parents' improper kindness and care will lead to ideological conflicts and contradictions. Maybe some parents seldom talk to their children because of their busy work, and just make some strict rules to restrain their children's behavior. Therefore, children who lack communication with their parents are prone to rebellious psychology and behavior.

Parents' mistakes in understanding lead to improper educational methods. Some parents lack common psychological knowledge, are eager to achieve success in their children's education, and adopt simple and rude methods, often ignoring their children's self-esteem and psychological endurance.

How to communicate with rebellious children

1. Respect children's privacy. If the child really doesn't want to communicate with you, don't be too reluctant. Respect children and earn respect for yourself.

2. In the contact with children, discover the advantages of children as much as possible, encourage them more, and reduce their resistance to you.

3. Don't always talk about academic performance when communicating with children, which will only make children feel psychological pressure to doubt your "sincerity".

4. Pay more attention to children's situation at school, but don't let children feel that "parents and teachers collude".

After children enter the rebellious period of youth, parents should pay attention to delegating all kinds of rights to them to help them transition from ignorance to maturity.

6. Avoid "you should", "you must" and "what do you know".

How did the rebellious child behave?

1, and parents.

Don't do what your parents ask, the more you are forbidden to do, the more you have to do; Ignoring parents, I prefer to play by myself rather than with my parents.

2. Challenge rules and authority

Deliberately breaking the rules set before; Put forward new requirements in an endless stream; Make a deal with your parents and do nothing until you meet the requirements.

3. Conflict with other children

When playing with other children, they will compete for the same toy and order. They don't want to share toys with others, but they like to grab other people's toys, and even hit people in serious cases.

4. Strong destructiveness

Littering, unpacking toys, scribbling, tearing books, deliberately throwing toys all over the floor.

Emotional reaction is fierce: stick to certain things, even if they look the same; Insist on wearing a certain dress and a pair of shoes, even when it is out of season; Do what you want to do, or you will cry and make trouble; Sitting on the ground in public, playing tricks and hitting people.