How do girls take the initiative in love?

How can girls be proactive in love?

How can girls be proactive in love? If a boy takes the initiative, he can send flowers and text messages to girls every day, but girls cannot. So how can a girl take the initiative? How can we take the initiative? Below I have compiled articles for you on how girls can take the initiative in love. I hope it will be helpful to you.

How do girls take the initiative in love 1

When a man takes the initiative, he can send flowers to the woman every day, send text messages, wait for the woman on her way home, and use candles to make a heart shape. Write "I LOVE YOU" in the middle for everyone in the building to see.

But women cannot take the initiative like this. A woman's initiative is not the same as a man's initiative. You can imagine a woman making a heart shape with candles downstairs and writing "I LOVE YOU" in the middle. How does a man feel? I once asked the men present at a lecture, and one of them replied, "I really want to find a crack in the ground and crawl into it."

Yes, men will feel ashamed. Men's sense of shame lies in the fact that women are using men's methods to conquer men, and men feel very embarrassed about this.

Women must take the initiative without making men feel conquered. This is the most subtle and technical aspect of women's initiative. That is to say, it is the woman who is obviously taking the initiative, but the man must also feel that it is the man who took the initiative and conquered the woman.

If the act of actively pursuing the opposite sex is compared to chasing a sheep running outside the sheepfold, a man can directly catch up with the sheep, pick it up and throw it into the sheepfold, while a woman can The method is very different.

The woman's method is to walk up to the sheep with a handful of green, fat grass and shake it. When the sheep sees the grass and comes over to eat, the woman steps back.

In the process of slowly retreating to the sheepfold, the sheep should not be allowed to finish the grass in their hands, nor should the sheep feel that there is no hope and turn to other grass. If the sheep really feels that there is no hope midway and wants to turn in another direction, the woman will have to put the grass closer.

In this way, when the sheep moved forward little by little, the woman retreated little by little, and finally retreated into the sheepfold, put the grass on the ground, came out by herself, closed the door of the sheepfold, and the task was completed.

In the end, the sheep eats the green grass, but its feeling is the result of its own efforts, and wise women can do this: even if they take the initiative, they can make men feel that they have worked hard to catch up.

Therefore, a woman can take the initiative to send a text message to a man first, and then wait for the man to take the initiative to call;

A woman can also take the initiative to call first, and then wait on the phone for the man to take the initiative to ask her out. ;

A woman can even take the initiative to ask a man to watch a movie, and when the man takes the initiative to reach out and hug her while watching the movie, she can also symbolically refuse, and then accept.

When the above methods are not effective, women can even use their last resort. If you have tried all your tricks and a man is still not interested in women, he probably really doesn't like you, or the woman he likes is not a woman at all.

There once was a female student who did even more aggressive things after listening to my class on how women can take the initiative. The moment she said goodbye to each other after the date, she gave him a quick kiss when he wasn't looking, and then quickly ran away. As a result, men began to change their attitude from passive to active.

Overall, a woman’s initiative must follow an important principle: focus on quality rather than quantity.

Women should not stalk every day like men. Instead, they should be like martial arts masters, rarely making moves, but once they do, they must have some quality. This quality refers to the romantic beauty of the process, and the most important thing is to make a man's heart beat wildly.

Don’t take the initiative to chat with him on the phone every day. If you want to chat, chat with him for three or four hours at a time. If you chat with him all night, congratulations.

Don’t take the initiative to ask him out every week. Of course, if he dares to come out, don’t just eat, drink tea, watch movies, sing, and don’t forget to get closer to his body. If you really meet a man who looks like a piece of wood, no matter how you hint, it's useless, so don't give any hints. Just kiss him on the way home, but only once, and let him take the initiative for the rest.

There is no need to worry about men not cherishing women if they take the initiative. All women take the initiative to do is to attract. Men still need to work hard to get them completely. Besides, whether you cherish her or not also depends on the charm of the woman. For a woman who looks beautiful but is painful to get along with, a man will not cherish her even if he takes the initiative.

If a woman’s initiative is well grasped throughout the entire process and the relationship progress management to be discussed later is done, a man will feel like a sheep that has eaten grass but still thinks it is. How to take the initiative in love with a girl who got it only after her own hard work 2

1. Take the initiative to contact

No matter whether you already know each other or just have a casual relationship, as long as you If you are interested in this boy and want to develop a relationship with this boy, then the first thing you have to do is to actively contact the boy.

Only when you are in contact can you have the possibility of development. Otherwise, no matter how strong your love is, you will be just two parallel lines that will never intersect.

Only by creating a connection first will the development of your relationship have unlimited possibilities.

Of course, the active contact mentioned here does not mean that you should run directly to the boy and say: "Hey, handsome guy, let's get to know each other?". This will only appear abrupt and unstyled.

So how can we get to know boys naturally and effectively and become familiar with them? Here are two tips for you:

①Ask

I believe everyone knows this trick, which is to deliberately ask a boy for advice on something you don’t know or understand. , to strike up a conversation with boys. For example, you can pretend that your phone is out of battery and ask the boy what time it is?

Or you may ask boys for advice by pretending that there are some problems in work or life that you don’t understand (it happens that boys know this problem or are better at it).

②Ask for help

Find something to ask the other person to help you with, such as asking the other person to help you install computer software, asking the other person to help you carry heavy objects, etc.

In short, it is to find something easy for the other party to do and not very complicated to trouble him.

By doing this, firstly, you can let him know you and deepen his impression of you. Secondly, it can also break the ice in your relationship.

2. Extended contact

Mere understanding is not enough. What you have to do next is to extend this contact, so that your relationship can get closer.

How to extend contact? The answer is: create "trouble" for him and make him bond.

For example, borrowing something is actually very useful. For example, when you are writing something, you happen to not have a pen, and you ask him to borrow it. Then you "forget" to return it to him, and you will ask him to return it to him next time. Or for work and study, ask him to borrow notes and materials, and then return them later, etc.

Otherwise, you could also leave it behind on purpose, or lend him something for him to keep. One of my students used this trick very well before. When she was in a meeting with a boy, she deliberately "forgot" her little notebook next to the boy and did not take it away. Afterwards, the boy sent her a WeChat message to tell her about it, but she asked him to keep it for her first, and then she would get it from him.

Then, because of this book, she drank coffee and had dinner with the boy again.

You must know that the feelings between men and women are often gradually born in the process of borrowing and repaying.

Bai Suzhen has used this trick a long time ago. When Xu Xian fell in love with Bai Suzhen, wasn't it because she deliberately cast a spell to make it rain and borrowed an umbrella from Xu Xian, and then they had more contact with her? ?

3. Integrate into his life

Integrating you into his life does not mean that you are eager to make friends or family around him.

Because when the relationship between you has not reached a certain level, this kind of behavior will seem a bit aggressive and hasty.

What you have to do is to start with the other person’s interests and hobbies, find out the overlap between the other person’s interests and hobbies and yours, and then give full play to them.

For example, if he likes fitness, and you happen to like it too, then you can talk more about fitness with him, or even make an appointment to go to the gym together. Or maybe you both like traveling, so you can talk to him more about the places you have been to, or ask him for advice on a guide to a place he has been to, etc.

In this way, it is easy for a boy to classify you and himself as the same kind of people in his heart, and quickly shorten the distance between you.

But at the same time, one thing to note here is that you must not force yourself to agree with the other person's likes, and don't forcefully pretend to be interested when you clearly have no interest at all.

Because doing this is not only a kind of torture for yourself, but after a long time or if you really get together later, you will easily reveal your secrets and create a bad impression on the other person.

4. Care for others

When people are vulnerable, they are more likely to accept the care and kindness of others. But if on the contrary, when he is going smoothly and is very proud, if you care about him and help him, it will easily become flattering and the icing on the cake. Not only is it thankless, but it also fails to make the other person feel grateful to you and feel that you are sincere.

Therefore, if you want a boy to have a good impression of you and quickly improve the relationship between you, then it is best to care about him and provide him with help when he really needs help.

For example, when he is sad and frustrated, or when he is feeling unwell and sick, believe me, your caring actions at this time will definitely make him feel differently about you.

5. Ambiguous hints

In the early stage of your relationship, you are already familiar enough and have established a certain good impression in the boy's heart. So at this time, what you need to do is to create ambiguity, which is both implicit and direct, so that he can feel that there is the possibility of further development in the relationship between you.

How to do it?

That is to use the details of your relationship in life to subtly penetrate the ambiguity between you. This will not cause psychological pressure to the other party like a serious confession and make the other party lose their conquest of you. desire, and it can make the relationship between you easier and simpler, without burden.

The relationship between a man and a woman is like making tea. You must first have a pot of water and then use the appropriate heat to make a pot of fragrant tea.

Of course, everyone’s specific situation is different. For the above methods and steps, you can adjust the arrangement according to your own situation, and do not blindly follow the steps. After all, many times, only by doing it can we know the specific subsequent development.