How to refuse a friend's private chat without hurting feelings?

Personally, I think that refusing to please personality begins with refusing to chat and socializing ineffectively.

Two days ago, I changed the introduction of my circle of friends to "Refuse to talk awkwardly and socialize ineffectively". Before that, it was "please explain your purpose" and "please introduce yourself".

I don't know when I started doing it. Self-introduction, a particularly basic courtesy, has become something that needs to be emphasized. In the past two years, because of purchasing, I left my micro-signal on many strategies of poor douban. Until this year, people have been adding it intermittently.

I used to be a good person and never knew how to refuse, so there are thousands of strangers in my circle of friends, which is nothing wrong, because we may all become friends in the future, and I will not refuse the possibility of becoming friends with every interesting soul.

But some people really have a kind of negative energy, and a word will kill you. I decided not to be a good person from this year, but to be a person with a temper. Recently, several newly added strangers were deleted, and they were deleted before we took a screenshot of the chat record. The dialogue is as follows:

I have a question for you, how to pronounce the rest, and is there any skill you can master me quickly: "?" "big tongue sound"

Me: "First of all, I don't know you, I don't owe you, and I'm not your foreign language teacher. If you have any questions, you need to ask. Is it polite to introduce yourself first and explain your purpose? " Ask when you learn to be polite. "

Then I deleted her. In my opinion, saying those two words to her is a waste of my time. It is a kind of person to extend your hand impolitely. Another kind of people, belonging to the inexplicable type, I don't know them, they have a sense of justice.

I didn't spend your money or eat your food, so I really have no obligation to explain these things and prove my innocence. I feel that the good mood that day was ruined by him. From then on, I made up my mind not to waste my energy on this ineffective social interaction with strangers I have never met.

In fact, I am a gregarious person, but most people I have interacted with (usually people I find interesting or at least kind) can become good friends, but on the other hand, I am a poor "after-sales service" to my friends, because I seldom take the initiative to contact friends and chat with people online.

Because I want to live in the present, whether I participate in the local people's life or feel the scenery at the moment, instead of holding a mobile phone and expecting the perfect grounded and friendly guy in others' mouths and eyes.

If I really focus on this ineffective social interaction, I will feel extremely guilty about my real friends.

Socialization is really annoying. I'm sorry if I sometimes forget to reply to your message. I just don't want to stare at my mobile phone to reply messages when I am eating, playing and chatting with my friends, but my habit is to check all the messages today and reply one by one when I go home at night.