Found out that his wife and male classmates had ambiguous information. What should I do?

I have been in love with my wife for 17 years, only to find that she has an ambiguous message with her male classmates. What should I do?

It has been 17 years since my wife and I met and fell in love. It's not easy to walk all the way. But it seems that since two months ago, her mobile phone has never left her hand. She seems to be possessed by WeChat, and she doesn't have much to say to me. I haven't watched TV together since I got home. I always have a hard time in my heart. I know some of her classmates are chatting with her. Of course, it should be male students who chat the most. What should I do? The teacher gave me some advice. Don't show me the chat content. In fact, I accidentally saw some chat content. After reading it, I don't know anything but the feeling of heartache. But I absolutely believe that my wife has done nothing. After all these years of husband and wife, I still believe her. Besides, she has no chance. Her classmates are not in our place, which is more than 0/00 kilometers away from us/kloc. My wife has been with me. I talked to her, and I told her that normal chatting between classmates and friends doesn't matter. I'm not that stingy, but don't overdo it. Don't say ambiguous or even naked words. I will be jealous and uncomfortable. She said that I should give her some space and leave her alone, and that I was selfish. He also said that I didn't trust her and looked at her mobile phone.

/F2 deb 48 F8 c 5494 eecb 8374d 026 F5 E0 Fe 98257 e 5 1？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85 I really didn't mean to look at her mobile phone. We were in the living room with our son that day. My son and I are watching TV and she is playing with her mobile phone. There is also a variety show on TV that she used to like to watch. She hasn't watched much TV since she started chatting. She said that she was tired and had to go to bed first. About twenty minutes after she went to bed, my son and I didn't watch it for fear of affecting her sleep. I went into the room to get ready for bed, and her mobile phone on the bedside table received WeChat light. The provocative message of the day caught my attention. I was cheated at that time, feeling the end of the world in the dark? I didn't make any noise and fell asleep gently. Although I told myself countless times that it was nothing, I thought too much about it myself. This is just a joke played by a classmate. But I can't sleep again and again. I feel so distressed that I can't say anything. I still can't help but get up slowly to get her mobile phone and go to the living room to see the chat record of that person, only the one of the day, not the one before. I think it was deleted.

/ 1 c 950 a7b 02087 BF 4c 07 e 2 c 20 f 9d 3572 c 10 DFC f6d？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85 I ended the chat that day with trembling hands, angina pectoris and suppressed silent sobs. That night? Smoking on the sofa all night? My wife had her period that day. The next morning, after we came to the store together, I went to the supermarket to buy red dates, brown sugar and medlar for her to drink. I heard that this kind of tea will make you feel better. I don't know if I should tell her I saw the chat. I'm afraid it will affect her mood. I feel sick these days. Tangled? When I talked to her before, she said that I only knew my job and never cared about her. It is true that our conditions are not good. Now we have worked together to get everything. I really ignored her when I was busy working outside. I really didn't do this well. Calm down once in a while, you will feel a little guilty and not take enough care of her. I didn't go out to work this day, and then I bought food and cooked. I don't know how to spend the day. The next night was the same sleepless night.

Bian Xiao has something to say:

Let's analyze the interests of all parties.

Women's interests: continue to benefit from cooperation with men. Judging from your description, the material benefits outweigh the emotional benefits, or the woman just sets the man as a "guarantee" to get a sense of security, and the way to get a higher return is to get it from the outside world.

/b 03533 fa 828 ba 6 1ef 0 13b 3e 64 a 34970 a 3 14e 597d？ X-BCE-process = image/resize, m _ lfit, w _ 450, h _ 600, limit _ 1/quality, q _ 85 I don't know how great men always feel when so many men always say "I can give women a sense of security" and women say "men should give them a sense of security". In fact, this is just a meal ticket-style security strategy, which is universal and easy (almost certain) to betray-in fact, it can't be called betrayal, and the other party has no intention of cooperating at a higher level. However, because the outside world forcibly raises the threshold of separation (marriage contract), it needs to implement false promises, and because it is objectively clear, it is more appropriate to call it fraud than betrayal.

Of course, in view of the fact that there are so many fraudulent behaviors in marriage contracts caused by the forced increase of separation costs by both parties, we can certainly accept such behaviors in human feelings, and at the same time, in order to make the other party feel that they will not take the lead in raising the separation threshold or recover benefits from the other party at a higher level, we will create a lot of beautiful words (that is, show some behaviors that they think are stupid and noble) to beautify specific behaviors, such as a sense of responsibility. Sacrifice the rest of your life alive, and so on-because the threshold has been raised, you don't need to invest as much energy as when you are in love. Whoever takes it back first can occupy greater interests, so marriage should be the grave of love. If not, marriage is definitely unhealthy, because it means that both parties are over-invested in maintaining their feelings. This impulse is not good for maintaining any kind of long-term contract, so is the marriage contract.

Therefore, no matter whether a woman has mastered the economic power (even prepared), her best choice is always to "live well" and provide an opportunity to slow down her troops to take action at a time that is beneficial to her, such as two years later (at this time, the child has grown up relatively, and the previous infidelity has been forgotten a lot, and it is even difficult to obtain evidence).

/24 1 f 95 CAD 1 c 8 a 786 a 88 b 3 1 c 76 c 09 c 93d 7 1 cf 505 1？ X-BCE-process = image/resize，m _ lfit，w _ 450，h _ 600，limit _ 1/quality，q _ 85。 On the other hand, men actually want to ensure the subsequent loyalty of women.

Women are much more flexible than men, so you can't understand what their wives' real goal is-not just to separate people from their stomachs, but that women's practical choices are indeed beneficial in a wide range of angles, so even if she thinks it is permanent loyalty today, reality will remind her of another choice tomorrow.

A woman who changes her mind is not worth keeping. You treat her wholeheartedly, and if she doesn't "love" you, she will only think you are more disgusting. She said she was willing to come back to you because her cheating partner didn't have the courage to start a family with her. Your so-called "She's not easy virtue" is a very confusing person. Real cheating experts always hide themselves because of guilt. On the contrary, they are normal people, and they will not make themselves so specific as "not easy to be virtuous".

If this woman is a little dark inside, make use of your goodwill and the stereotype of men in the whole society (you are incompetent when a woman cheats) and make proper use of you.

What you should do now is to find a lawyer first (I don't know what kind of lawyer you can find to talk to me privately), save the evidence that is beneficial to you, talk to the other party in front of the enemy, and reasonably protect your property rights and the custody of your children. There is no shame in not talking to the court.

At this moment, your mood may collapse, but you can't control it. Let it collapse when it should. Find a friend you trust to drink and spit, cry where no one is, and collapse several times, which is only a year or two. Try not to delay your work when you collapse, and don't let the other party take advantage of you in a moment of confusion. No matter what kind of life you choose, it will only be better than your previous bad marriage. Let's go