An in-depth essay written for the third anniversary of the death of my father

An in-depth essay written for the third anniversary of the death of my father

My father was born on the 16th day of the ninth lunar month (?) in 1938 and died on the 10th day of the lunar calendar in 2011. January 14th, at the age of seventy-three.

In the blink of an eye, it has been three years since my father passed away. Over the past three years, my father's voice, smile, gestures, and earnest teachings have often appeared in front of me, and I often see him in my dreams.

To be exact, even my father doesn’t know when his birthday is? I also asked the second uncle, the only living brother among my father’s three brothers, and he didn’t know his father’s birthday either. But everyone has to have a birthday, so my mother’s birthday became my father’s birthday and they were celebrated together.

My father had an unfortunate childhood and experienced many hardships. Father, the youngest of three brothers, lost both his parents when he was six years old. Since then, he has been living in cold weather, with no clothes to cover his body, and no food to eat. When children of the same age gathered around their parents' knees to act like children, his father was already a child. After experiencing many hardships in the world, he was separated from his eldest and second uncle in the later period and became homeless. Fortunately, he was adopted by a kind-hearted family more than 20 miles away from home. Although he had a so-called "home" from then on, his life was difficult and he lacked the love of his parents. My young heart is still accompanied by bitterness and sadness! It wasn't until I joined the army at the age of 18 and during the political review process of the commune's armed forces department that I met my second uncle by chance. In that era when material life was very scarce, survival was the first need. Both parents were deceased and two older brothers were still alive. When I was young, besides my parents, would anyone remember my father’s birthday? It should be said that my father's life has been full of ups and downs and hardships since childhood.

My father is gentle, humble and loving. It may be that his childhood misfortune created his father's tenacity and gentleness as an adult. My father is famous for his good temper. I have never seen my father get angry since I was a child. He is always kind and has a smile on his face. Even if we do something wrong, we never beat or scold us, or even scold us loudly, but we will tell us a lot of principles of life afterwards. My father, who has not been loved by his parents since he was a child, buries the misfortunes he has encountered in the bottom of his heart. He is reluctant to beat and scold his children, but he loves us even more.

My father is tenacious and kind-hearted. My father left home at the age of 6 and joined the army at the age of 18. After he retired, he served as a village cadre in the village for many years and was very popular. The factional struggles in the village during the Cultural Revolution, the estrangement of the village cadres he personally trained, and the bullying of powerful people in the village... My father was always generous and tolerant of all these things, dealt with them openly, and never held a grudge or cared about them. , showing a tough and tenacious character. "You can judge right and wrong directly, and it will become clear over time." Sure enough, many years later, each had different results. At this point, I understood many ways of being a human being, but I admired my father's broad mind even more.

My father is kind to others and is not greedy or possessive. My father has an easy-going temperament and is principled in his work. He has served as a village cadre for many years and never takes advantage of the collective. He has a good reputation. When I was working in the countryside in the 1980s, a large amount of cash that had just been received but had not yet been counted was placed in the open drawer of my office colleague. When my father discovered it, he found a lock and locked it, waiting for his colleague to return before handing it over to him. My colleague was very grateful. Even after many years when my colleague and his father returned to the village to work in farming, they continued to maintain in-depth communication. My father was kind, enthusiastic, and willing to help. When people in Nanzhuang, Beituan, or in the neighborhood asked for help, he always tried his best to help. A family in the neighboring village still treated him as a relative because of his great help.

My father is knowledgeable and sensible, open-minded and optimistic. Although my father didn't read much, he was able to understand things, distinguish right from wrong, and write well. He was considered an educated person in the village at that time. It should be said that the hardships and ups and downs of childhood had a great impact on my father. It should be the father's best wish at that time to hope that his son would become a successful person and escape from farming. We have many children in our family, and they were all born in the difficult period of the 1960s and 1970s. The material conditions and living standards at that time were extremely poor. Providing food and clothing for the whole family was the father's first priority and main responsibility, but my father (except for the eldest sister) could Although life was difficult when each of his children was sent to school, his father tried every means to train us to study and let us do our best to complete our studies, which reflected his ardent expectations for our children.

I remember when I was in the third grade of elementary school, my teacher asked me to bring 2 yuan for books the next day, otherwise I would not be allowed to come to school. Because I needed it urgently, my father went to a neighbor’s house early in the morning and borrowed the money for me without delay. go to school. When I was in junior high school, the conditions at home were much better. My father also went to work in the countryside and was very close to the school. So he would improve the food for me every now and then, while I was frugal. But I was very unsatisfied and was too playful. Study, but ultimately did not meet his father's expectations.

My father worked hard all his life and suffered from poverty. After my mother passed away, I originally wanted my father to come and live in the city, but my father only stayed there for more than 20 days before he missed the vegetable garden at home and went back. He originally agreed to go home and collect the vegetables before returning to the city to live, but he never thought about that. Going home has become a farewell forever. I am not the kind of person who has the ability. Without money, I cannot give my parents material satisfaction and security. Without power, I cannot give my father the glory and pride of our ancestors. So for many years, my parents have been living in an ordinary house in my hometown, with poor living conditions and environment. It has never improved; even if there is still a little bit of thought about wanting parents to live a good life, sometimes it is beyond their capabilities. All they can do is use their free time to go home as many times as possible to satisfy their parents as much as possible. I tried my best to satisfy my parents’ simple needs, but in the end I didn’t let my parents achieve whatever they wanted in material life. I feel really guilty when I think about it!

My father is considerate and considerate. Since my mother's condition metastasized after surgery in 2006, my father has never been away from my mother. Although the family no longer farms and raises livestock, his restless father still organizes the vegetable garden and occasionally grows sweet potatoes and soybeans on the roadside; whenever my mother needs it, When going to the market or visiting relatives, my father would take my mother with him in a tricycle. Especially when my mother was seriously ill and her health deteriorated, she had to go to the hospital for injections or infusions almost every week. My father always accompanied him alone and never bothered his children. In the later period, my mother was in unbearable pain and could not sleep well all night. My father always served with all his heart, worked day and night, and never asked for his children to go home to take care of him. He put all the burdens on his shoulders, without making any demands from us or adding any burdens to us. He bore it alone and silently. All this. "Poor parents in the world" never thought that two months after my mother's death, my father who should have enjoyed life after all the hardships would actually follow my mother...

Father cares about his children more than himself, and always wants us to live happily. I remember that when I first changed my career, I was faced with multiple pressures such as work, children’s schooling, and buying a house. It must have been a difficult period for me. My father asked me many times about my mortgage and work situation. It was obvious that he was worried about my financial ability at that time. and quality of life, and every time he heard that the pressure on my mortgage loan had eased and my economic conditions had improved, my father would express relief.

Although my father’s life was extremely ordinary and he did not leave us anything valuable, his tenacious, kind-hearted, optimistic and open-minded character is our precious treasure; although he suffered many hardships since childhood , but never bowed to fate; although his family was poor, he worked hard and shouldered the burden of the entire family with his slightly hunched back. These excellent qualities of our father are invisible and precious wealth to us.

We didn’t feel anything when our father was around. Seeing that his father was still in good health and still young, we always felt that we had plenty of time. Some ideas and plans were not put into practice, and we delayed them again and again, and finally left him. Deep regret. Looking back on the past, I really didn’t know how blessed I was. At that time, for the so-called work, I could always find various reasons in my heart to relieve myself, which reduced the chance of going home to reunite with my parents. Now I am a "child". I want to support you but my relatives are not here." This is really heartbreaking.

Where has the time gone? Before I had time to honor my father properly, he left me. No matter how much time I have in the future, I will never be able to honor my parents.

Children without parents lose a lot of color in their lives. Festivals and celebrations always feel different from others, adding a touch of sadness and longing; Duo thought also had to face the reality of losing his parents.

People say: "Time is the best medicine for healing." For me, time does not really help me solve any problems. It just slowly fades away the problems and things that I couldn't figure out before, and they become incomprehensible. It couldn't be more important; time has made me gradually get used to loneliness and learned to be strong; time has made me understand that life is impermanent and things are unpredictable; time has also made me learn to adapt and accept everything that happens.

My father's sudden death is the most painful thing in my life. Every time I write an article to pay tribute to my father in the past three years, it is a baptism for my soul, and it can also touch the most painful memory deep in my heart. "Only when you really feel pain do you know what 'pain' is." This feeling cannot be expressed in words, it can only be experienced and felt.

When flowers bloom and fall, the world is vast and unknown; it is another snowy day (my father passed away on a snowy night), and I think about my father alone with tears in my eyes.

Dad, everything has been going well at home in the past three years, and the whole family is happy; Jia (Jia) has gone to a more ideal university; Rui (Jia Geng) has also entered the second grade of elementary school. He is smart and studious. The results are excellent, and this Go competition has also achieved excellent results, so you can go with confidence.

Dad, today my brothers, sisters and all relatives and friends came to visit you at your grave. Even my second uncle came to your grave in person and gave you a lot of paper money and all the things you asked for. The necessary supplies are enough for you to enjoy your life in heaven!

I heard from the old people that after the third anniversary of the death of a person, the soul will also be far away. Therefore, on the third anniversary of my father's death, I wrote this article to commemorate my father and say goodbye to him. .

I wish my father a happy life in heaven and everything goes well!

Everything is over, life will go on...

An unfilial son’s couplet about the third anniversary of his father’s death (the 7-character couplet is the best)

1. A life of frugality will set an example, and half a life of hard work will pass down the legacy

2 , Live diligently and frugally, follow the instructions of the legacy, work hard and repay the kindness

3. The career has been passed down to the predecessors, and the examples will be left for future generations to see

4. After the end of the world, I will leave you with peace and grace. Descendants

5. The works are immortal and the legacy will last forever

6. Farewell for a while is still a dream. Why will we meet again in the future?

7. Peach Blossoms and Flowing Waters Go Wherever the Bright Moon and Spring Breeze Go. Couplets to commemorate the third anniversary of the death of a loved one

Missing my loved ones and crying in the middle of the night

Three years of blessings to Jiuquan Zhi

Posted by Hello, as far as I know, the couplets must be balanced in order to be elegant. Try to draw up a couplet, it takes a little effort.

This couplet is as follows according to Pingshui rhyme, please adopt it:

中仄平平任仄

中平任仄仄平平

——Original tribute from Shuimuxuan If you want to reprint, please indicate the author's father and mother's three-week commemorative couplets = Couplets commemorating the third anniversary of his father's death

Here is a part for you, please refer to:

1 I still pay tribute to my remains in front of the Longshang Hall where I left my legacy

2 A life of frugality left a role model and a half-life example of hard work and good deeds

3 Live a frugal life and follow my legacy and work hard to repay my kindness.

4 The career has been passed down to the predecessors, and the examples are recorded and left for future generations to see

5 After the end of the world, the peace and wind benefit the descendants

6 The writings are as good as the ones that will never grow old. The descendants will maintain the business forever

7 Farewell for a while is like a startling dream. How can we meet again in the future?

8 Where can the peach blossoms and flowing water go to the bright moon and the spring breeze?

9 The wind is sad, the color is sad, the willows are hanging, the moon is hanging at night, and the cuckoos are crying

10 The three-path cold pines are weeping with dew, and the remaining bamboos in the half-window are carrying the wind whistle

11 The white horse and plain carriage are sad in the dream, the blue sky and the blue sea Reluctantly summoning the soul

12 The bright moon is not round, and after the Mid-Autumn Festival, there is no high wind to look up to. How can we say goodbye and never see each other again

13. The old friend has been gone for three years, and the sorrow will always remain. I haven’t shed any tears for a thousand days and three years, and I can see through them thousands of miles apart

First couplet: Tearing goodbye to my father (mother) riding on a crane

Second couplet: Time It’s only three autumns in a hundred years

Analysis: After the death of father or parents, grief often appears. Although it has only been three years, it feels like a hundred years have passed! A message from my missing mother on the third anniversary of my mother’s death

The north wind howls, the frosty branches of the jade trees. The filial piety of all the people in the world, mourning the death of my loving mother for three years, she lay down at her desk with tears in her eyes and wrote a memorial poem.

Time flies, and three years have passed. At that moment, my liver and intestines were so painful to say goodbye to my mother, and my eyes were wet with tears. I exhorted you from the bottom of my heart, lamented and lamented the regrets of this life, and it was hard to forget in my mind. The feeling of nostalgia freezes the moment when life ends, and the eyes full of love are my unchanging halo as a young adult. It turns and disappears, leaving me feeling confused and lost, and also feeling like a human being! The pain of losing a mother is like the heaven and earth falling apart!

The kingdom of heaven is too far away. Is it okay for my mother to burn paper and hold incense? First of all, before talking about the couplets for the third anniversary of the death of my mother, I want to improve it a little bit, because the death of a relative will actually have a certain impact on your fortune. Of course, this fortune It is trending downward. Therefore, when removing clothes, you can combine your own horoscope and five elements to determine a suitable mascot to wear to help resolve bad luck and improve your personal fortune. This will provide good fortune blessings for your future life and work. Blessed. It is suggested that it is better to go to the official website of Wuxiang Copper Furnace to order a suitable Wuxiang auspicious pendant.

Secondly, the couplets on the third anniversary of the mother’s death are as follows:

1. A hundred days of filial piety will not change the mourning clothes but a thousand years of missing your loved ones

2. Mourning At the end of the day, even though I have taken off my clothes and played the piano, I still feel that I have not made any music

3. At the end of the day, I must perform a hundred days of rituals to pursue the future and always have a single heart

4. After a hundred days of taking off my clothes, I have become a ritual. Filial piety is present throughout the past and present

5. It is difficult to change the filial piety as time passes and the years change.

6. It is difficult to get rid of filial piety; p> 7. Take off your clothes as a filial son to welcome the guests and be careful to pursue the future with one heart

8. In mourning till today, you will not wear clothes and have done your best to pass down your virtues to future generations

9. Thought about hard work and deep kindness but did not repay the kindness of the late king Don’t forget the rituals

10. After serving for three years, follow the ancient mourning rules. In addition to this daily family favor, what poems are there to commemorate the third anniversary of the father’s death?

Poems to commemorate the third anniversary of the death of my father:

1. Ten years of life and death are so vast that they cannot be forgotten without thinking about them.

____Su Shi's "Jiangchengzi·Dreams on the Night of the Twentieth Day of the First Month of Yimao"

2. Once upon a time, the sea was difficult to overcome, except for Wushan, it was not a cloud. ____Yuan Zhen's "Five Poems on Lisi, Part 4"

3. Take the flower bush and look back lazily, half of it is to cultivate Taoism and half to be a king. ____Yuan Zhen's "Five Poems on Lisi·Part 4"

4. You buried your bones in the mud under the spring, but I sent them to the world with a head full of snow. ____Bai Juyi's "Meng Wei Zhi"

5. At night, you have a dream and suddenly return home. Small Xuan window. Dressing up. They looked at each other without words, only a thousand lines of tears. ____Su Shi's "Jiangchengzi·Dreams on the Night of the Twentieth Day of the First Month of Yimao"

6. Don't be frightened by the wine and fall asleep heavily in spring. Gambling books will make the fragrance of tea splash away. At that time, I just thought it was ordinary. ____Nalan Xingde's "Huanxisha·Who cares about the west wind and the cold alone"

7. The green spring waves under the sad bridge were once the shadow of a startled grand. ____Lu You's "Two Poems of Shen Yuan"

8. Like the moon, it will always be bright and clear, and you will be warm to me regardless of the ice and snow. ____Nalan Xingde's "Die Lian Hua·Hard work is the most pity for the moon in the sky"

9. I sincerely know that everyone has this hatred, and poor and lowly couples are sad for everything. ____Yuan Zhen's "Three Poems for Sorrow and Feelings·Part 2"

10. Wei Jiang will always keep his eyes open all night long, repaying the fact that he has never raised his eyebrows in his life. ____Yuan Zhen's "Three Poems for Sorrow and Feeling·Part 3"

11. The dream has faded and the fragrance has faded for forty years, and the old willow in the garden has stopped blowing. ____Lu You's "Two Poems of Shen Yuan"

12. Sitting idle and grieving for the king, he also grieves for himself. How many years is it? ____Yuan Zhen's "Three Poems of Sorrow and Feeling·Part 3"

13. No matter where you look at the same acupuncture point, it will be more difficult to predict his fate. ____Yuan Zhen's "Three Poems on Sorrow and Feeling·Part 3"

14. The article has become popular, and once I missed you, I felt sad. ____Li Chen's "Diao Bai Juyi"

15. Looking at each other without words, only a thousand lines of tears. ____Su Shi's "Jiang Chengzi·Dreams on the Night of the Twentieth Day of the First Month of the First Month of Yi Mao". How should I send an invitation text message to my father for the third anniversary?

It is best to call to inform, I don't think it is appropriate to send a text message. How to write a wreath for the third anniversary of death

First of all, look at the status of the deceased and you

If it is a friend, just write, in deep condolence xxx, dedicated to my old friend xx

If you are a grandfather, write a note of remembrance xxx, a tribute to your great grandson