My friend's 88-year-old boy is very introverted. He can't talk, can't fall in love, and it is very difficult to send her a text message after a blind date.

It must be said that almost all silent people are caused by lack of love. One of the most direct concerns, such as: it's cold, pay attention to put on more clothes and be careful of catching a cold. Something like this, something like this. Human expression is not innate, but acquired. Just like a speech, if you keep training, you will have a powerful mouth.

Loneliness is a character, a kind of vigilance against people, afraid of others entering their hearts, and eager for love at the same time. He must be different. He really wants to communicate with you, but he is not good at it. In fact, his heart is also very anxious. It seems that you haven't been in contact with him for a long time, in other words, he has not formed trust in you. Your boyfriend is so old, silence has become a habit, and sudden communication makes him very uncomfortable. Although such people are troublesome to get along with, they have a great advantage. They are all very fragile and easily moved. The most silent person will have a heart to tell, and that is his mother. The reason why this happens is actually due to a deep trust, also called subconscious trust.

You text him or call him, and then he is silent. Do you want to know what he is thinking?

(In simulation: What should I do? What should I say? Oh, what does she like? I don't know. What should I say? What if I say something wrong? I don't know what to say. )

In just a few minutes, his heart fluctuated. They are easily moved, but they are also afraid of losing. This subconscious fear makes them choose their words very carefully. There is a very interesting psychological game: how to play with stone scissors and cloth without losing money. Tell your opponent before you go out, I already know what you will do and I will win. After that, as long as the cloth is delivered, there is a 90% chance of winning. Because before people go out, their hands are clenched. Because of your words, he became suspicious. Does he really know what will happen to me? No Because it takes more time to consider these problems than to punch, people always put out their hands before deciding on rock, paper and scissors. Because they started with clenched fists, the probability of throwing stones was close to 100%, so they could win by throwing cloth. Do you understand? )

So is your boyfriend. He was silent because he was thinking about what to say, so during this period of thinking, his mind didn't give instructions to his mouth. What are you talking about? Like a computer, it crashed.

But if he wants to talk to his parents, it must be different. Because they have entered his heart. Parents will not ignore him. So his subconscious fear didn't show. You can say as much as you want.

What you have to do is: first, enter his heart.

Specific methods: pay attention to small things, pay attention to details, tell him to take an umbrella when it is cold, and tell him to wear more clothes when it is cold. Using a more coquettish tone can stimulate his desire for protection, thus stimulating his initiative. According to scientific truth, the lack of love in a lonely person's heart is a kind of subtle love, and his feelings are very subtle. So doing these things can just fill the hole in his heart. At the same time, men have a desire for revenge on women. Therefore, boys will like girls, which can stimulate the desire for revenge and turn initiative into passivity.

Second: Go for a walk in the wild and try to create a world for two. (According to scientific truth: withdrawn is a kind of personality, and there will be tension when there are many people. On the contrary, it is easy for two people to cultivate their dependence on you and let them open their hearts. )

Third: gain the initiative to speak. Try to speak in declarative sentences and don't ask him questions. Treat him as an audience and let him listen to you. According to the scientific truth, the sudden problems made him feel extremely nervous and uncomfortable. When he is with you, he will be very nervous. On the contrary, he will be relaxed and happy. )

Fourth: take the initiative to find him and talk to him. Let him get into the habit slowly, and then suddenly reduce the frequency, he will feel very uncomfortable, subconsciously he will think that he will lose you, so in theory he will take the initiative to find you. That's the truth about playing hard to get.

Theoretically, following the above methods can not only make him open his heart, but also make him be dead set on you. PS: There is another characteristic of a silent and withdrawn person: he won't change his mind easily.