Boys are ruthless after a breakup (men are ruthless and cut off all contact after a breakup)

Someone asked me, what is the mentality of a man cutting off all contact after a breakup?

Text/Cao Huaining, national second-level psychological counselor

What is the psychology of a man cutting off all contact after a breakup? It's a girl who wants to ask this question. He probably doesn't want to ask this question: How can it be so cleanly broken and never leak out?

In fact, not only men, but also women. At this point, everyone is human, and there are only the following psychological possibilities:

1. He no longer knows how to face you, and he doesn’t know how to run a relationship with you that is not a romantic relationship. < /p>

Too many worries, too much embarrassment, and too much confusion make people very tired and irritable. In this case, it's better to break it off and paint a clean picture. If you miss it, your patience will wear off and you will get better over time.

Secondly, there is no way for him to see anything related to you. As long as he comes into contact, he will have strong emotions. In order to protect himself, he can only choose to avoid it.

3. He has completely let go of you. He no longer has mixed feelings or resentment, but has nothing to say. There is absolutely no expectation, no need to connect.

4. From your perspective, he thinks that not contacting you is the best for you, so he chooses to do so.

There may be many, many possibilities. After all, there are all kinds of people in the world. Therefore, it is necessary for "you" to make the effort to explore and think about what that particular person thinks.

But is it really necessary? Maybe you should ask yourself, if you want to understand his psychology so much, what is it that you can't let go of? Is it him, his love, his recognition of you, or your unique possession of him?

When you think that he may completely deny you and suspect that you are a bad person and an unworthy person, do you feel like a knife in your heart? Is it a muddy feeling that you might belong to someone else, so the fear burns in your gut and feels like you've been completely denied and abandoned? How much energy and effort do you put into preventing these terrible situations from happening?

Perhaps, what we really want to explore is not what kind of person he is, but what kind of person you are.

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