Is it cheating for my husband to take a bath and go to the toilet with his mobile phone?

Talker: Meng Xiao (pseudonym), female, 28 years old, company employee Text: Anxin Yesterday, my husband's cell phone rang at very late as usual. He didn't answer, and his cell phone kept ringing stubbornly. I looked at him coldly, and he finally could not stand it. He picked up the phone, "mm-hmm" twice and said, "Is that okay? Nothing, I hang up. " He smiled at me after hanging up the phone. My heart is crying, but I still smiled at him and pretended not to care. "Who is it?" He said, "Oh, a friend." I don't know if I should ask any more questions or just check his cell phone. While hesitating, he went to the bathroom. Of course, he went to the bathroom with his cell phone. I confirmed my guess. That phone call must be from that woman named Xiaomi (a pseudonym) again. That was six months ago, my husband's cell phone often rang at night, and the text messages kept ringing. Because of his work, he has a lot of phone calls, so I didn't care. But then I found out that his mobile phone never leaves his body, even when he takes a shower and goes to the toilet, and he sleeps tightly under the pillow at night. Once, he was awakened by a phone call in the morning, and the company had something to ask him to arrive early. In desperation, he left his mobile phone at home. On the way to send his mobile phone to work, I accidentally opened his inbox, and as a result, the overwhelming news of Xiaomi flooded into my eyes. Such ambiguous words, such intimate tone, are full of ridicule between the lines. I can hardly believe my eyes. He has always been very kind to me. We have been married for two years and always go out hand in hand. If I feel a little sick, he will always be busy. I couldn't help crying when I gave him my mobile phone. He was worried, hugged me and asked, "What's the matter? Is it uncomfortable? " His thoughtfulness made me even more sad. I sobbed and asked, "What's wrong with the text message in your mobile phone?" He paused, as if he had just remembered those short messages in his mobile phone, and opened them and said, "It's all for fun. Don't take it seriously She is a joking woman, just like many people. " I know a kind of woman who likes to joke with men and is like a duck to water among men. They are good at playing ambiguous games and using feminine charm to get men to help them solve many problems. My husband said that Xiaomi is like this, and I believed it. Because we have always had a good relationship, he is really good to me. He watches the weather forecast every night and then tells me to add and subtract clothes. He buys me things I like regularly. Every holiday, he gives me carefully prepared gifts. He likes me to spoil him and say that he will love me all his life ... He will talk for a while, but how can such a good husband flirt with other women? How could another woman say "I love you, pig head" to him in a text message? I think, now, which man doesn't cheat? If he only plays occasionally and doesn't really have an affair, there is no need to dispute with him. After all, our marriage and happy life are real, and I don't want to lose it or destroy it. Yes, I am a gentle woman. I played a joke on him before and asked him what to do if he had another woman. He said, "Because another woman dumped you? Only fools have talents! " So, after discovering those messages for the first time, I believed him and forgave him. He said he would never contact that Xiaomi again, and she wouldn't respond if she pestered him again. I said, "Delete her cell phone number!" He happily took out his mobile phone and deleted the number. I know, this practice is just a form, but ... it's better to have a form than nothing, which is at least an attitude. The days have returned to the calm and happiness of the past. My husband and I are still an enviable couple. Let's go out hand in hand, and he is as good to me as before. I think it's over. Whose marriage has not experienced some storms? If it rains, that would be great. But unexpectedly, it has been raining. That is, two or three months later, I saw an email from Xiaomi in my husband's mailbox, and those sweet words were still warm. I began to suspect that she did this not to all the men around her, but only to him. Somehow, my anger was much less last time. I just feel cold and don't even bother to question him. I wish I could turn myself into an ostrich, bury my head in the sand and be "out of sight, out of mind" for all annoying things. But I am his wife after all, and I can't pretend I don't know such a thing. So I asked him calmly, "Are you still in touch?" He was silent for a while and said, "I didn't, it was all her." "Don't you have any response?" "Nothing, it's not what you think. Just don't contact in the future. " I was silent for a few days, and he was worried. He stares at my face every day. I tried not to see him, for fear that tears would fall out when I saw his concern. Finally, he handed me a piece of paper and said, "This is her number. If you don't believe me, ask her. " I called the millet, and a crisp and cheerful voice sounded. I said, "I am someone's wife, and I want to tell you not to contact him in the future." There was a silence, then his voice became low and he said, "It's not what you think, it's just a joke and fun." "Don't play in the future, it will affect our family life." There began to get impatient: "What do you mean? I told you it was a joke! Just don't contact me again, don't call me again, call your husband if you need anything, goodbye! " After hanging up the phone, I thought, maybe I really think too much. If there were no later text messages, I think I would really believe that my husband and Xiaomi were just joking, but those text messages blew my self-deception to pieces like bombs. A few days after I called Xiaomi, I peeked at my husband's cell phone after he fell asleep. Sure enough, there is still a short message from Xiaomi, saying, "Why is love so difficult? When can we be together? " "I miss you so much that you can't sleep." I rummaged through the outbox again, and the short message he sent to Xiaomi was still there, saying, "My heart tells me that I love you, and I love you deeply in my heart." I'm a little confused. Is this a joke? The next morning, I asked him, "Do you love Xiaomi?" He replied, "No.""If you love each other, I will quit and fulfill you." "What are you talking about? I am only with you. " After that, he hugged me as usual and went out to work. I really can't figure it out. What are the two people doing? If it's fun, why be so affectionate. If you really love each other, why not fight for it? What am I sandwiched between them? How should I face all this confusion? That day I asked my husband to call Xiaomi in front of me and told her that I would not contact him in the future. He looked at me a little embarrassed and said, "Is this necessary?" I said firmly, "Yes." He dialed Xiaomi's phone, and I couldn't hear what was talking over there. Then he said, "well, don't contact again." My wife is beside me. She asked me to tell you not to contact you again. " After hanging up the phone, he said to me, "OK? Nothing, don't think too much, let's live a good life. " I think, if it is fun, there is no need to play to this point; If it's emotional, call her in front of me and say that she won't contact again, which will definitely break her heart and she won't be entangled again. It's been half a year, and it's already good. It's sunny, and my husband and I are still discussing the preparation of having a baby.