Child psychological consultation: Babies like to play with mobile phones, what issues should parents pay attention to?

Nowadays, mobile phones have become an indispensable communication and entertainment tool in our lives and work, and for children, mobile phones are even more curious and interesting.

Nowadays, many children are already playing with their parents’ mobile phones when they are less than two years old. They often hold their mobile phones and play quietly for a long time. Many parents think that their children are very well-behaved and smart.

However, child psychological counselors need to remind parents: it is not a good thing for babies to play with mobile phones.

Nowadays, most people realize that primary and secondary school students are seriously addicted to mobile phones, and they will also pay attention to and control children's use of mobile phones.

But for children who are a few months old and one or two years old, many parents find it cute and fun when children play and look at mobile phones. They think this behavior shows that the baby is smart and cute. Some parents even choose to use mobile phones to coax their children when they are busy or when their children are noisy.

“The baby is only 8 months old now. Now I no longer dare to look at my phone or make a phone call in front of my child. I can’t even take my phone into the master bedroom. I can’t let her see me touching my phone, otherwise she will look at it. , one time the screen just turned on, and she couldn't reach out to catch it, so she started crying. Not only that, this child seems to be "fighting" recently. As long as I ignore her while looking at the phone, she will cry and make a fuss. It's saying 'Stop playing and pay attention to me!'"

"My one-year-old grandson often plays with his mobile phone. Sometimes his mother won't let him play with it. Several times he played with his mother's mobile phone. , because he often uses QQ, WeChat, Taobao and other software, he has posted emojis, garbled characters, random video calls on Moments several times, and even made phone calls by mistake. After his mother found out, she stopped giving him a mobile phone to play with, so he chased after her.

I have no choice but to let him play with my mobile phone. He often dials numbers randomly, but most of them play music. Is it good to let him play like this?

Also, he seems to know that his mother’s mobile phone is more fun now, and now he is not willing to play with my mobile phone. He wants to snatch his mother’s mobile phone. I don’t know if this is a good idea. ”

Guangzhou Children’s Psychological Consultation Interpretation. :

Babies who are only a few months old do not understand the specific functions and functions of mobile phones, but they show great interest in this object that emits light and makes sounds and is extremely attractive to their mothers.

Nowadays, many children over one year old have begun to treat mobile phones as a toy. Why can babies be so interested in mobile phones?

1. Mothers’ love for mobile phones affects their children

The reason is also dependent on the parents’ support nourish. Nowadays, mobile phones have become an indispensable communication and entertainment tool for people.

Adults turn on their mobile phones all day long to browse Weibo, play WeChat, and play games. They also keep their phones in their hands in the bedroom, on the toilet, and even while breastfeeding.

According to a survey on a parent-child website, more than 80% of mothers have the experience of playing with their mobile phones while breastfeeding their children.

Nowadays, many people take out their mobile phones to play whenever they have some free time, and the same is true during pregnancy and lactation.

Many pregnant women and parturient women even spend more time playing with their mobile phones than in contact with their babies!

The babies slowly develop this luminous effect under the subtle influence of their mothers. Bright objects arouse interest, and as the baby grows older, he learns to interact with mobile phones.

2. Strengthening of parents’ words and deeds

Jiajia is only one year and five months old, but she has developed a strong interest in mobile phones.

The family accidentally played a few popular Internet songs on their mobile phones. Unexpectedly, the child actually sang and twisted along with them while looking at the mobile phone. The parents thought it was very funny and thought the child was very smart and talented in this area, so they often gave it to the child. Watch videos on your mobile phone and let him perform whenever someone comes.

Coincidentally, there are many parents who regard "being able to play with mobile phones and tablets" as an excellent skill and "show off" to everyone.

Regardless of whether it is because the child can really understand the content on the screen and follow the performance, or it is just because the child accidentally "slides around" to launch certain programs and creates the illusion of being able to operate the mobile phone, there is no doubt that, In gatherings of family and friends, mobile phones have become a tool for children to perform.

3. Use mobile phones to coax children

Due to the strong interest of infants and young children in mobile phones and tablet computers, mobile phones have become "baby coaxing tools" for various families.

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These parents or grandparents have good intentions, and onlookers are also surprised by how smart these young children are. However, they did not realize the harm that such an education method would bring to their children.

Due to parents' excessive addiction to mobile phones and other electronic products, children can easily become "mobile phone addicts" under their "training". They do not like to exercise, play games with children, or communicate with children. They often Keep your head down and play with your phone. This not only affects the child's physical health, but also affects the formation of the child's good character.

In terms of physical health

Children’s physiology has not yet matured, and the infant and early childhood period is a stage of rapid development for children. Research in the British journal "Microwave Theory and Technology" shows that children’s skulls The thickness is significantly lower than that of adults, and the absorption rate of radiation is significantly higher than that of adults.

Children’s nervous systems are still in the developmental stage and are at greater potential risk.

The British "Daily Mail" even wrote an article pointing out that children's use of mobile phones can cause memory loss, sleep disorders and other health problems.

Dr. Gerard Kedu of the University of Warwick in the UK warned that mobile phone radiation will destroy the normal function of the child's nervous system, causing memory loss, headaches, poor sleep and a series of other problems.

A test by the University of Clermont-Ferrand in France showed that when children use mobile phones, their brains absorb 60% more electromagnetic waves from mobile phones than adults.

Large doses of electromagnetic radiation are not only detrimental to children's growth and development, but can also cause diseases such as asthma and leukemia.

Children are in the stage of growth and development, and the water content in their body tissues is richer than that of adults. Microwaves from mobile phones have the characteristic of causing greater damage to organs with more water. Therefore, microwaves are the most harmful to human eyes.

In addition, long-term texting may also cause deformities in the development of children's fingers; bowing their heads to play games, etc., can cause great harm to children's cervical vertebrae.

In terms of character development, mobile phone and tablet games deprive children of the opportunity to communicate and play face-to-face with others, and can easily make children become timid, lonely, and paranoid.

On the other hand, with the development of modern communication technology, mobile phones can also access the Internet anytime and anywhere, which makes downloading games more convenient. Some children may be overly addicted to games, which affects their growth.

Moreover, mobile phones will seriously affect the relationship between children and parents, becoming the "third party" in the parent-child relationship.

When children have a desire to communicate and their parents only play with their mobile phones, the children feel ignored and even think that in the eyes of their parents, they are not as important as their mobile phones.

So every family will encounter the phenomenon of babies “competing” with mobile phones. At first, the child may cry and smash things to attract the parents' attention. If the parents do not respond, the baby may entertain himself by playing mobile phones, playing games, etc. to comfort himself, and the communication with the parents will become more difficult. Less.

It is difficult for parents to understand their children, and it is difficult for children to believe that their parents love and care about them.