I can't help peeking at my children's diaries and letters. What should I do?

I wonder, what the hell is going on here? After a while, she led a group of junior high school students, male and female. Oh, there are quite a lot of people! It seems that confusion and trouble will not be less. I think. The first question is the newly arrived female classmate. Her face flushed and she was obviously very excited. She said: I hate my mother. Every time my classmates call me, my mother always walks around me doing nothing. What do parents think? We understand the feeling of being a parent and the difficulty of being a parent. Parents peek at their children's diaries and letters, not out of curiosity, not to punish their children for grasping their handles, but to understand their children. They really want to know what their children are thinking, what they are doing outside, whether they have made bad friends or puppy love. However, watching children grow up day by day, their physiology tends to be mature, but their psychology is childish and unstable. What worries parents even more is that children think they have grown up and want to seek independence of personality. They often hide their parents' inquiries in their hearts, lock their drawers, avoid their parents when talking to their classmates on the phone, and rarely tell their parents what they are talking about except using simple words such as yes and no. This series of performances has aroused parents' worries and doubts. They are well aware of the complexity of society, and teenagers who lack immunity and discrimination can easily go astray. Parents can't get to know their children from other channels, so they have to turn to their children's diaries and letters (or telephone calls). Parents do have difficulties, but reading diaries and opening letters in private is by no means a good idea. Although many parents are relieved after reading it, the gap between children and parents has deepened, children's distrust of their parents has increased, and children's psychological precautions against their parents have become stricter. You know, these behaviors of adults are distrust and disrespect for children, which seriously hurts children's self-esteem. In fact, in most children's diaries, there are few skeletons in their closets, some are just children's thoughts and feelings, and some are just little secrets that children don't want their parents to know, but just want to have. Parents should allow their children to have their own little secrets. Because they have grown up and grown into adults. Adolescent boys and girls always put a lock on the drawer at home, as if there were some secrets hidden inside. In fact, this is often just a manifestation of a child's sense of independence and self-esteem, announcing that he (she) has grown into an adult with personal behaviors and secrets, and will never be willing to open his heart to his parents at any time and place like a child, and will never be pushed around by his parents like a child. As they grow older, they hope to have a world of their own, an independent kingdom, and they will also put forward many rules for their parents, draw a warning line, and do not allow their parents to cross at will or invade their privacy at will. A child is an independent person, and parents can't replace everything. Children should think independently, participate independently, have their own secrets and privacy. With the growth of age, children have a growing demand for confidentiality, such as their diaries, letters, and contacts with classmates, and are often reluctant to disclose them to their parents. Parents should never use espionage to understand their children's mentality and secrets. They should change their roles, don't pretend to be parents, but get along with their children as friends, establish a democratic, harmonious and harmonious relationship, communicate with their children equally, let them open their hearts and tell you the privacy of their inner world. If the child doesn't talk, don't force it. Because it means that you don't have the full trust of your child. The last thing that human beings can hurt is self-esteem. To establish a family paradise, we should start with respecting the privacy of children and children. If a child is respected from an early age, he can understand self-esteem and respect others; If parents want their children to respect you, you should respect them first. The following phenomenon often occurs in the family: parents let their children knock on the door before entering their parents' bedroom. Then, when you enter the child's room, did you knock at the door first: parents always blame their children for rummaging through their own things, so do you often rummage through their children's things? Parents often complain that their children don't listen to adults, so have you listened to your children carefully? In short, as parents, there is no need to make a fuss about children's privacy and secrets when their children grow up and their outlook on life is gradually formed. Parents should show more respect to their children. Respecting and protecting children's privacy is respect and understanding for children, and parents will win their respect and love.