My first love, a crush on a boy, what should I do?

You don't know much about him. You only know the movements around him, but you don't know his connections. I mean, just like the relationship between seven aunts and eight aunts in the family, how do you know the density between them, you will know something bigger. It's also that you feel good about yourself, so with your imagination and judgment, you think you know him like the back of your hand, but in fact you can't know who he is. Love at first sight is not just talk, but a doorway and a head start.

What is love at first sight? Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? You got it? Don't jump to conclusions, it will mislead your reason. You need to calm down and clear your mind. If you really want to be his girlfriend, don't stop dreaming.

Age is not a gap, but psychological age can not be ignored. The psychological gap will still affect your feelings. You are four years apart in age, but how big is the gap in your psychological maturity? What is your deviation from emotional rationality? Feelings are not maintained by emotions, and sometimes it is necessary to treat emotional problems rationally, not by impulsiveness. However, it seems that you haven't known him long. After all, it's only seven months.

Just like we usually make friends, how can you judge that he (she) can be your friend without ten days and a half? Even if you make an ordinary friend, you need to do it, have a heart-to-heart talk, and understand the character of this friend. This is an indispensable "program". You can't judge by feeling good about yourself.

Let alone fall in love.

Just like online dating. Don't you contact each other through the internet? He is also hot and cold to you. How can you be so sure whether his character is good or bad? Girls can't be too active in their feelings, but they can't be too simple. People nowadays are too complicated. Don't make the mistake of jumping to conclusions without knowing your face.

I just want to remind you that you should take care of your own emotional affairs. The man you mentioned is the same age as me. I used to know a student of University of Science and Technology Beijing. He is two years older than me, and several of them are engineering students, so he still speaks the same language. However, as you said, the connection between us is "hot and cold", and I feel the same as you. It's good, but it's not like that. Afterwards, I realized that it was just that I felt too good about myself, and to put it bluntly, it was "too simple"

People who have gone to college are a newspaper full of words, while prospective college students (freshmen) who have not gone to college are like a blank sheet of paper. University is a sub-society, all kinds of people live in a small circle, and what they have experienced and are experiencing will affect a person. His personality, life orientation, beliefs, personality and so on are beyond your self-feeling, so I advise you not to trust such feelings too much.

If you really want to pour out your heart for such feelings, let alone first love, you should be careful. If you have the courage, you can find an opportunity to ask him directly by qq chat and make the question clear.

Here I suggest you ask him like this:

First, visit him and ask him if he is busy with his studies and graduation. If he answers you "yes", you can continue to lean down and talk about the topic, and then lead to emotional problems. You can try asking him if he has any prejudice against the age gap. I guess if you ask him that (if he is not an emotional idiot), he should know what you mean. If he deliberately avoids your question, it means that you have no chance. If so, you should stop clinging to this feeling.

I suggest you ask him sometime.

Good luck!