I have been informed by multiple companies that I have been accepted at the same time. How should I reject those companies that I won’t go to?

For professionals, it is easy to accept an offer but difficult to refuse an offer. How to reject an offer reasonably and reasonably?

Yesterday, a friend asked Lao Wang how to reject an offer without offending others? This question aroused Lao Wang's interest.

Before answering how to reject an offer reasonably, let’s take a look at why the candidate rejects the offer in hand? Lao Wang believes that the reasons why candidates reject the offer are generally divided into:

1. The salary does not meet the candidate's expectations.

2. The position has not been promoted.

3. Through the background investigation of the future new company, you find that the new company is not the company you want to join. For example, there are too many negative news about online companies and their CEOs, or the company culture is deformed, or internal struggles within the company are fierce, etc.

4. Family reasons, such as too far to work, declining family happiness index, etc.

5. After investigation and understanding, I found that the company’s current projects are not considered or the company cannot endorse my future career development, etc.

6. Other reasons.

It is these reasons that cause candidates to refuse to accept the olive branch offered by the company and reject the company's offer. But many people don’t know exactly how to reject an offer.

For headhunters, regardless of whether the candidate matches the position, a reply must be given to the candidate to explain the reasons why he is not suitable for the position. The same goes for a candidate who refuses an offer. He must not say yes, then not go, or tell the headhunter or the company.

A few years ago, Lao Wang contacted a candidate and received an offer from the company. The night before joining the company, Lao Wang also called to inform the candidates that they would go to the company to join the company at 8:30 tomorrow morning. The candidate was very happy when he received the call and said that he would definitely report there tomorrow.

At about 6:00 the next morning, Lao Wang received an unsolicited text message from the candidate saying that he had gotten up and was preparing to report to the company. But around 10:00 in the morning, I received a call from the client’s HR saying that the candidate did not report, and asked Lao Wang to ask what was going on.

When Lao Wang called the candidate, he found that the phone was turned off. He called the other party's wife, and his wife's phone was also turned off. Lao Wang was worried that something would happen to the candidate, but did not consider whether the candidate would join the job at all. At around 3:00 p.m., the candidate's cell phone was turned on and Lao Wang called, but he kept hanging up. Finally, he sent a text message saying that his wife would not let him join the company.

As a headhunter, you may also encounter this kind of thing. If you have never encountered candidates giving up their offers, it means you are still a newbie in headhunting.

However, Lao Wang advises candidates that if you want to reject an offer, please reject it in advance. Don’t be like the candidate Lao Wang met, who only found a dumbfounding reason on the day of employment. Reject the offer.

Other candidates felt embarrassed to refuse the offer, so they kept putting it off and didn't answer the phone. Only when they had no choice did they say they were not going. After that, the headhunter was blocked. Such a candidate was a bit too...

As a candidate, how should you reject the offer? Before answering the question of rejecting the offer, Lao Wang should talk about the time when the candidate rejected the offer.

As a candidate, if you are not considering this position, you should:

1. If you don’t want to go or have not figured out whether to join the new company, don’t accept the other party’s offer at all. So as not to find reasons to reject the offer.

2. Reject the offer within two days after receiving it, but no more than 3 days at most.

3. Never ask your old boss to give you a raise when you get a new offer. These are stupid things to do.

Now that we know the reasons why the candidate rejected the offer and the time when he rejected the offer, Lao Wang will talk about how to reject the offer reasonably.

Lao Wang believes that to reject an offer, you must do the following three steps.

1. Sincerity. Many people in the workplace are "afraid of soft skills rather than hard skills." If you insist on doing hard work, your network of contacts will probably be very narrow. Based on Lao Wang’s observations and conclusions, Lao Wang discovered a huge secret: those who usually speak very harshly generally do poorly in the workplace and have no friends. And those who are "well-spoken" fare better than those who speak tough words.

The same goes for rejecting an offer. Don’t be forceful or say it directly. Instead, you must sincerely state your reasons while respecting the other party. For example: After discussing with my family, considering the actual situation of the family, I can't join your company yet. I hope you understand. Do you think this will work? If this position continues to be recruited, I will ask my friends around me. If anyone is considering this position, can I recommend someone to you?

There is another question. Lao Wang suggested that when rejecting an offer, do not use official language, such as "your company" or "your organization", etc. This shows that you have no sincerity at all. You must speak as you normally would, without any official accent or pretentiousness. Once you don't speak in an official tone or act pretentious, the other party will be very disgusted with you.

2. Reasonable. Many people have been thinking about the reasons for rejecting the offer, but since everyone's situation is different, the reasonable reasons they find are also different, but there is only one principle, which is to find a reasonable reason when they are sincere. In this way, the other person can understand you. You must not find a reason to offend the other party, such as saying that the salary you gave is too low, or that through understanding, you find that your company is relatively chaotic, etc.

Since you have rejected the offer, the chaos of the other company has nothing to do with you. You only need to find a reasonable reason to refuse. Never say anything bad about the other party or challenge the other party's words.

However, there are also such fools in the workplace. A candidate learned about some undeclared secrets of a company through internal connections, and directly rejected the company's HR for this reason. In the end, because of this incident, the person who revealed the company's "unclassified" secrets to the candidate was found, and he was fired from the company for leaking company secrets.

So, professionals, don’t be so stupid as to betray others to justify yourself. In this case, who would still want to be friends with you?

3. Express gratitude and apology, and keep in touch with the other party. After rejecting the offer given by the other party, you must find a way to express your gratitude and apology, so that the other party will definitely understand. For example, thank you very much for the opportunity given by your company, but due to family problems, I can only say sorry to you and express my apology. It is fate that we know each other. We will keep in touch in the future. If anything happens, just communicate directly.

If you say this, no matter how angry people are, they will not be angry. This is the fundamental reason why many people hate those who dare to be strong, but sympathize with the weak (soft). The stronger your performance, the greater the number and probability of your opponent challenging you. We have all read martial arts novels, and those who died were masters of swordsmanship; we have seen those who drowned, and most of them were people who could swim.

So, if you express your apology and gratitude to the other party in a gentle way, the other party will understand.

Write it at the end

Rejecting an offer is more painful than receiving an offer. Especially when rejecting an offer, you must think clearly, otherwise you may end up in trouble because of rejecting the offer. Offend people" or reduce your influence in the circle. The correct way to reject an offer is to be sincere first, reasonable second, and finally express your gratitude to the other party and keep in touch.