How do parents tell their children the reasons for divorce?

It is suggested that both parents tell their children frankly the reasons for divorce, and explain that divorce is their own choice and the result of consensus between the two sides. Whether divorced or not, dad or your dad, mom or your mom, they will devote as much emotion and time as possible to you.

That is to say, this will not only reduce the psychological burden of children, but also tell children with examples that marriage has the spirit of equal contract, and at the same time assure children that their parents' love will not decrease. This is the best psychological protection for children.

At the same time, when you tell your child the reasons for divorce, you should pay attention to the following points:

1, according to children's cognitive development instructions, expressed in a way that children can understand, frank and peaceful.

What matters is not what you say, but what you say. Parents had better talk with their children, and their statements and attitudes should be consistent.

Don't complain to each other, let the children feel that their parents are happier and care more about themselves after divorce.

In fact, it is very difficult to do this, and the mainstream culture in China still denies divorce. You can explain the reasons for divorce to your children, and you may feel more and more unhappy living together instead of quarreling or fighting every day. It also makes children live in unhappiness or worry about their parents every day, so the two decided to make themselves happier because they love their children very much.

Many parents' obstacles are that they feel sorry for their children because of divorce. Although divorce has certain harm and influence on children, it is also an important example to learn that parents are responsible for their own lives and don't sacrifice themselves for other people's emotions.

3. Respect children's emotions

Children may cry or lose their temper. Please treat it as a normal process. In the face of their two favorite people about to leave, children will be lost and sad. Don't deny or ignore their emotions. Children have the right to be sad and lost. This is her own loss, and no one can deprive her, even her parents.

When sadness and loss can be released and children know that they are still loved, they will find a new balance point for themselves after their emotions. Parents are also requested to respect this process and not to suppress their emotions because of anxiety.