A better way to subdue a man than acting coquettishly: What words should you say to him?

Don’t use rhetorical questions to accuse the other party

“Don’t you know how busy I am in a day? I work from morning to night and am so tired that I have to lie down after all the hard work. , I still need to serve you. It’s hard enough to take care of the baby for one day. Not only do we not share the burden, but we also need to make the room a mess and you don’t help to clean it up.” In fact, at this time, the man felt aggrieved. And for no reason, I don't know what I did wrong. At this time, the correct approach should be: Husband, I am really tired today. I got up at 5 o'clock in the morning, put all the clothes in the house into the washing machine, then swept and mopped the floor, made breakfast, sent the children to school, and I still need to go to school in the middle. Shopping... After sharing your whole day's itinerary with your husband, tell him that you haven't sat down to rest all day, and I hope he understands.

From an objective point of view, a woman’s original intention is not to quarrel with her husband. She just hopes that her husband can see her hardships, understand her hardships, and provide comfort and sharing. However, the way the sentence is spoken seriously affects the effect of the listener. Communicating in a questioning and rhetorical tone can only cause resistance in the other party. Even a good-tempered man will not understand what a woman wants to say. When men and women communicate, they should try to speak with understanding instead of communicating with mentality. Change "rebuke" to "request", and the tone of speech will be much gentler, making it easier for boys to listen.

Say "what you want" to your face, don't say "you don't have what you want"

Generally speaking, people's ability to "give advice" will always be better than "giving methods" "The ability is much better. When it comes to interactions between couples and friends of the opposite sex, there are many people who are good at giving negative comments, but very few people know how to do it. Especially women, when communicating with men, they will subconsciously look at it from a "harsh" perspective. For example, a boy went into the kitchen to cook a lot of hard work, but concluded that he put too much salt in the food and made the food salty.

Women who don’t know how to communicate with boys always say: What kind of food is this? It’s so salty. Could you please make it less salty next time? Obviously, the hobby came after all the hard work. Cooking a meal for the family, but in the end, I was criticized for doing it. It is better not to do it. This kind of communication will either severely dampen the enthusiasm of boys, or make men feel dissatisfied and cause two people to quarrel. At this time, the correct communication method should be: She said: Husband, the meat you fried today was very tender. My children and I both like to eat it. However, I have a small suggestion. I can and must put less salt next time. The difference between the two expression methods is very obvious:

The former one uses a hurtful tone to speak to the man, and only expresses "no need to be salty", but does not say what he likes or wants. What is it. The latter kind, from the first sentence, tell your husband that you like to eat tenderer meat, which is a compliment to the man, and lays a psychological foundation of support in the man's heart, and then changes the tone of discussion to a man. When a man makes a suggestion, he expresses his "no need". If you praise first and propose later, the actual results achieved will be completely different. The charm of Chinese language still lies in this.

The same meaning and the same regulations are expressed in various ways and perspectives, so the listeners will have different experiences and the actual effects achieved will be different. When communicating with men, you must pay special attention to how you express what you are thinking. You must express your meaning clearly and do not let men guess.

Whatever you want, just say it to your face. Don’t say, “So-and-so’s husband bought a necklace for so-and-so.” Say to your face: Husband, I want that necklace. At that time, a man will clearly know what you are thinking, and whether he needs to buy it for you or not depends on him. At least, there is no misunderstanding between the two of them. The most intuitive problem caused by insufficient communication is misunderstanding. Women originally only want a man to change, but men think that no matter what they do, women will not be satisfied. In such a situation, emotions can only become noisier and weaker, and the more interactions become, the more boring they become. When men and women get along, say positive words more and less negative words.