To grow, we must know how to stop losses in time so that we can live easily and freely.

On Saturday night, a few good friends rarely got together, so they played cards and had some fun.

During this period, Xiao Lu's phone suddenly rang, and he immediately put down the cards in his hand and walked out of the balcony to pick it up. It must have been a call from the leader.

"Hey, I have to work overtime again!" Xiao Lu came back after answering the phone, looking depressed.

Xiaowei asked: "Going to work overtime now? As soon as you leave, we will be short of three."

"Not now, but tomorrow morning!" Although I will work overtime only tomorrow, But after a long time, Xiao Lu still looked distracted and often made wrong cards, making his "teammate" A Bin anxious.

"Hey, I'm drunk today. I'll work overtime tomorrow! Come on, play cards and be dedicated and dedicated..." A Bin spoke a little heartlessly. He has always had a "carpe diem" mentality. It's arrogant, but there is some truth in what he said.

I also comforted Xiao Lu and said that indeed no one wants to be suddenly notified to work overtime, but sometimes there is no way to do it. Who said that we are all grassroots employees? We have to do the work tomorrow Is it much?

Xiao Lu said, in fact, it’s not much, just changing a few numbers in a document. The leader will take it away when he goes on a business trip tomorrow night. He has to go to the company to change it, print it out and put it on the leader’s desk.

I said, that’s it, it wouldn’t take much time and no one would die! But if you put all your time and mood tonight into it, you will really suffer a big loss!

Xiao Lu thought about it, so he concentrated on playing cards with everyone again, "saving" a happy weekend night.

To be honest, no one will be happy if their private time or personal space is occupied for no reason. However, as human beings and members of society, we play various status roles. Contractual relationships, affiliation relationships, and family relationships may all have a positive or negative impact on us, and our time and space may be "occupied" at any time. "We must pay attention to good control and balance in normal times.

The worst thing to do is that the thing originally only "lost" you a little time, but you spent half a day getting angry and depressed, losing your wife and losing your troops. What's more, such a little accident will give rise to more negative emotions and cause a lot of unnecessary troubles. In the end, more time and energy will be lost, and the whole person will feel bad.

The wisest approach is to stop losses in time, do what you need to do, complete it efficiently, and don’t think too much before and after. This is actually a kind of emotional timely stop loss, thereby reducing time loss as much as possible and avoiding falling into the cycle of "loss-time-wasting-loss-time-wasting".

An old cousin opened a car beauty shop in partnership with others. The location of the shop is quite good, with roads extending in all directions and a lot of traffic. Logically speaking, business should be good.

However, within a few months of opening, business was slow and there were very few people. It was almost impossible to survive.

It turns out that the skills of the three partners are not up to standard. Originally, a senior chef was hired to lead the team, but before the team was familiar with the team, the chef felt that he was not in the same pot as the young people, so he left first. It's like a hotel chef suddenly changes his job, and your boss doesn't know how to cook. If this happens, the business will be out of business.

Recruitment advertisements have been posted for several months, but no suitable masters have been found.

Although there are still three or two customers who are unfamiliar with the situation coming from time to time, they see a group of young children with no hands and feet. Not only have the original faults not been solved, but other faults have arisen. , as time went by, its reputation became worse and worse, and in the end it could only take on a little car washing business.

My boss asked for my opinion. I say, for a business like yours that relies on technology, either the boss is a master, or you find a master as a partner. If you don’t have either of these, then stop your losses in time and don’t continue.

Indeed, with a store rent of several thousand yuan per month and a few half-baked workers, the boss can temporarily take no money, but the store rent costs money every month, and the workers need money every month. , it’s like raising a rooster and hoping it will lay eggs, but you will definitely have to pay for the eggs yourself.

A person's skills cannot be developed overnight, and partners cannot force themselves to become experts in a short period of time.

Some people feel that they are losing money if they let the master be a partner and they don't invest a penny but they have to share the money with themselves. If you have this kind of thinking, your business will really be out of business. So, after struggling for five months, they transferred the store, received some transfer fees, and the loss was not too great.

Many times, we just consider that we have invested so much in the early stage, and always think that the "sunk costs" cannot be lost in vain, and as a result, more and more will be filled in.

No one wants to end things in a hurry, and no one wants to suffer losses in vain. However, if the fundamental problem cannot be solved, then you have to stop the loss in time. Doing business is not about how bold a person is. How productive it is."

In our daily work and life, we must make "break-ups" in a timely manner, so that we can lose less and live more easily.

There is a line in the Star Master movie "Shaolin Football" that is simple and straightforward: "If a person has no dreams, what is the difference between him and a salted fish?"

People are indeed You can't live without pursuit. Only with full dreams and specific goals can you strive with a clear goal, only with hard work can you make progress, and only with hard work can you reap rewards.

We have something to think about every day and something to think about at night. Each of us will have things we like and people we want to love. But no matter what you do or love, the realization of any goal cannot be achieved overnight, and you will experience various difficulties and tests. Therefore, we must first act boldly and love boldly.

However, I must say that there are some people and things that we have tried hard and tried, but still can’t get what we want, so we have to let go of whatever we can’t let go of. This statement may seem a bit unreasonable, but it requires or even forces us to learn to let go no matter what.

Don’t always worry about things you can’t do or people you can’t get, and never forget them. Sometimes, if you keep thinking about it, you may not recall it, but it will only add endless troubles and sorrows.

If we don’t know how to truly let go of some people and things, our lives will not be broad and we will not live truly happy. Rabindranath Tagore once said: "If you cry because you miss the moon, you will also miss the stars."

I am lucky to gain it, but I am destined to lose it. What should be let go, even if you can't let it go, you still have to let it go. This is also a timely stop loss in life.

Originally, life was only a few decades, just like a fleeting moment, a lifetime passed by in a blink of an eye. We must cherish the things in front of us, cherish the people around us, let the past go, let go of everything that should be let go, and live every day in the future, so that your life will not be spent in regrets.

I believe everyone will have had such a bad experience:

You were temporarily assigned an overtime task, but you only had two hours of overtime, but it took you a whole day. Go get angry.

The leader accidentally criticized a few words, but he actually didn’t remember it the next day, but you were depressed for more than a week. There was also a time when I thought that I would be passive and slow down in my work, and even have no future.

My parents would get impatient if they kept saying a few words, and they would reply indiscriminately, but they would feel guilty for a long time afterwards.

When you come home from working overtime at the company, your lover complains that you don’t spend more time with your children, but you yell at her about how hard it is for you to work outside. As a result, I spent several days unable to coax my lover well, and the child was frightened and was not allowed to be held for several days.

Your downstairs neighbor sent you a text message in the morning, asking if there was a noise at your house last night that woke them up in the middle of the night. Feeling that you had been wronged, you burst into flames and responded with several "complaints" about fighting, and vowed to stay away from each other for the rest of your life.

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In fact, these things themselves do not actually cost you much time and energy, but emotional "loss of control" and mental "abnormality" may cost you twice as much. Even fill it with more stuff several times. Therefore, we must stop losses in time to avoid suffering more unnecessary losses.

So how do you manage and control your emotions? American psychologist Ellis proposed the ABC theory of emotions: A represents the inducing event, and B represents some of the individual's beliefs about the inducing event, that is, some opinions and explanations about this matter. C represents the results of your own emotions and actions.

It is precisely because of some unreasonable cognitions and beliefs we often have about people and things that cause us to suffer from emotional distress.

Therefore, we must raise awareness, improve the structure, recognize the essence, weigh the pros and cons, and constantly practice on the matter and mentally, so as to promote B to have a positive reaction and obtain results that are beneficial to our work, life and handling of interpersonal relationships. C. In this way, we can effectively manage our emotions, prevent being impulsive, and avoid serious losses.

In normal times, we can also use some mantras or sayings to effectively intervene and influence B, such as: endure the calm for a while, take a step back and the sky will be brighter; there are so many big things to do in life, don’t do it when it’s not worth it Time and energy are wasted on people and things; life is short, so time and energy should be spent on beautiful people and things; another example: What is the matter in the snail's horns, this is the body in the light of the stone fire...

< p> In the long course of life, we will inevitably suffer various losses, man-made and natural, but we can stop losses in time by improving our cognition, optimizing our concepts, and intervening in our emotions.

As long as the loss is minimized, it will be considered as something we have earned, and we can regain a relaxed and happy life.