See the words as they appear: When I get married and obey my husband, I hope you will forgive my daughter for her unfilial piety.

Dear Dad:

This is the first time I write to you, and it is also the first time in my life. First of all, I want to say to you: Thank you! Thank you and my mother for bringing me to this wonderful world. Thank you for your uncompromising efforts over the years and for enduring the humiliation and burden to protect us as we grew up!

Time flies like an arrow, as if more than twenty years were just yesterday. When I grew up, before I had time to act coquettishly to you a few more times, I reached the age of marriage. Before I had time to accompany you more, the ruthless years made you grow old without our consent. Not only that, the disease also took away your wife, our mother...

When I was a child, I never thought that such a day would come, and this day will eventually come. Since we grew up, we began to go our separate ways in life, leaving our hometowns, and it has become the norm with you to get together less and stay away more. You have become a lonely old man, and even more so since your mother passed away that year, you have always been alone by your side...

We see that kind of loneliness and coldness, and it hurts in our hearts. , but there is nothing you can do about it...!

We all know that it is not because we are unfilial, nor because you do not love your children, but because we will eventually grow up! As you grow up, you will always experience life, separation, and death. It’s not that you can’t refuse or accept it, it’s just human nature. So, your mom dies and you get older overnight!

? From a young age, you taught us how to become a better version of ourselves and live the way you expected, neither happy nor happy. Because when we grow up, we have to face everything that life brings, everything around us... just like you shouldered the burden of raising children, family life, and your own life alone...! Happiness and frustration!

I remember that when I was at the first turning point in my life, my mother advised me that my two younger brothers should also study and go to college. If I continued my dream of studying, I would not be able to bear the burden given my family’s extremely limited conditions. I'm sorry, I hope I give up my college dream and go out to work. I thought about it for a long time that night, so I sent you a text message when you were working in Shenzhen. I asked you: Dad, how should I choose? Should I continue studying or should I go out to work?

? You replied to me like this, you said: "Daughter, you have grown up. Dad can no longer help you choose. You must learn to choose for yourself. No matter what choice you make, dad will support you." .

After I read your text message that night, I cried for a long time. It turns out that growing up makes me so sad. I want to start learning how to help you share the burden of the family and enable your two younger brothers to study well and graduate from college smoothly.

During the years when I went out to work, I never told you about any difficulties, big or small, that I encountered outside, and I didn’t want to talk about them. I always reported good things but not bad things. If your family needs money to support the family and if your brothers’ tuition fees are not enough, you will call me and tell me. I will transfer the money back to you as soon as I hang up the phone.

(Because my sisters all had their own lives and families before and after their mother passed away, it was difficult to take care of both sides.) You always tell the folks and neighbors that you are lucky to have a filial and sensible little girl like me. Daughter, otherwise I don’t know what to do with the daily expenses and the education expenses of my brothers over the years. Where to come from.

But I don’t think I’m doing that well! At the beginning, I thought that when I grew up and worked, I could make everything better at home, but things went against my wishes. I had more than I wanted, but I was not strong enough to bring changes to my family and let you live a better life. Better life.

Nowadays, the two younger brothers have graduated from college and are working. They have become sensible and know how to shoulder the important responsibilities of the family. With everyone’s joint efforts, everything in the family has slowly begun to improve. Moving forward, life is no longer as difficult as it was when I was a kid!

As for me, who is now twenty-seven years old, I know that you hope that your daughter can have a good man who treats me well, loves me for you, loves me and regards me as a treasure, and then has a happy and beautiful life. Xiaojia lives his own life.

Until one day, you said to me on the phone: "Men should marry when they are young, women should marry when they are young. I am old, in poor health, and have no ability (to make money). I have no requirements." , I just hope you can have a good life!”

That day, when I hung up the phone, I couldn’t help but burst into tears. I know that you feel sorry for me and feel guilty for letting your daughter experience and grow up alone in the past ten years. I don’t know what words to use to comfort you. Thank you!

I have finally grown up, just like you can never go back to your youth when you are old...

I dare not think that when I really get married, I will obey my husband. What will it be like that day, and how sad will you be? The man who will always be in my heart, he is really old...!

It turns out that growing up is not only the lonely journey of children, but also the lonely aging of fathers!

Dad, thank you for your nurturing grace for more than 20 years, and I hope you will forgive your daughter for growing up and not being able to be by your side often!

When one day I really get married, thank you for your support and giving me the courage to pursue the happiness I want and live my own life.

? ? ? But before that, I hope you can listen to your daughter's words: (I have experienced the pain and unpreparedness of losing my mother...I have also experienced your first hospitalization in 2017. I will stay with you. The ward dares not move away from you to take care of you in a panic...) If you are not in good health, you should see a doctor as soon as possible if you feel uncomfortable. If you have anything, you must tell us in time, and don't be reluctant to spend money all your life! We have grown up and are able to make money for you to shoulder the burden on your shoulders. You are still reluctant to spend money. You have suffered all your life. If you are not healthy and safe, how dare you call me your daughter? Easily choose your own life and live the life you want?

In the past few years, you have worked hard for your family life and your children, and you are exhausted! Now that your children have grown up and know how to take responsibility and are able to bear it, you should rest assured and keep yourself healthy and safe for the sake of your children!

Because your health and safety are the best fulfillment for us as your children!

Sincerely, my unfilial daughter who loves you

January 15, 2019 (the tenth day of the twelfth lunar month in 2018)