What do you dislike most about socializing?

What do you dislike most about socializing?

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The most typical ineffective social behavior of 568 is sending holiday blessing messages in groups. 365 days a year, whether it is a traditional festival or a foreign festival, a big festival or a small holiday without a holiday, you can see mass blessing messages, especially around the Spring Festival. Not surprisingly, everyone will be bombarded by New Year's messages, and of course they may be bombarded by others. From the era of short messages to the era of WeChat, the platform of flowing water, and the group-sending New Year messages made of iron. This has almost become the New Year custom of China people in the era of communication popularization. I can't refuse or complain about the mass short messages that come with blessings and goodwill. But a long time ago, I stopped sending New Year's greetings and holiday wishes. 0 1 group texting is an invalid social interaction. Without exception, I have sent mass New Year greetings, and I have painstakingly synthesized the auspicious words in several versions of the New Year greetings, and even read them through several times after editing, striving to be careful with words and fluent in sentences, making me look very talented and literary. What impressed me even more was that I was assigned by my uncle who couldn't use the group sending function to rewrite, edit and send a short message in the address book to everyone for him. There are two requirements: to emphasize congratulations to others for making a fortune; Change the suffix to his name. Later, with the growth of age, more and more people know each other, and the number of group news received every year is also rising. Needless to say, copying and pasting is similar, and the editing is slightly humanized, and the effect is greatly reduced because of the nature of the masses? Buckle it. People are increasingly disgusted with this. On the Spring Festival Evening of 20 14, singer Hao Yun even wrote a song "I don't reply to mass messages": originally, this was a mass message, but you forgot to modify the suffix. Suddenly I feel that the New Year is boring, just like drinking a bowl of warm water. One year on New Year's Eve, fireworks and firecrackers broke out one after another, and blessing messages broke out one after another. I picked up my mobile phone to send a group message, and suddenly I felt very funny. Clearly know that the mass-sent New Year message, even if full of auspicious words, has no temperature at all; Obviously, I received a lot of content that I didn't mean, and I refused to resent it. Why should I follow everyone? The essence of mass New Year greetings is the king's new clothes, which is a hypocritical game between adults. Let's come and go together to create an illusion of sincerity and mutual mourning. What is the purpose of mass texting? I just want to maintain or enhance the relationship by sending blessings. However, mass texting has long lost this function and even started to have negative effects. Really, forget strangers. If a close friend throws me a cold mass message, I will be angry and sad for a long time. Therefore, mass texting has long deviated from the original intention and has no meaning. Can't people see this? I do not think this is necessarily the case. But why continue to do so? Maybe the word "relationship" is working. It is no accident that mass texting is so rampant. China is a relational society, and it doesn't matter until you leave. When people in China hear the word "connections", their eyes will light up. Everyone is proud of maintaining a large circle of friends, but everyone's energy is limited. So we use mass communication to maintain our relationship, but we don't know that this indiscriminate way is actually an ineffective social interaction. Social interaction that takes a lot of time and is not intentional is ineffective. Learn to break up. Maybe we should learn to break up. The concept of breaking up is popular all over the world because of a Japanese bestseller, which is generally used for the management of living space, but in fact, this concept can also be extended to relationship management. When managing space, we can ask for extra things out of our room; We can ask some people out of our lives when we are in business relations. Learning to break away from relationships means no longer catering to everyone, no longer trying to satisfy everyone, and no longer clinging to every relationship. Learning to break away from relationships means giving up those people we don't like in our hearts, treating those who are dispensable in our lives with fate, and then taking seriously those important people, those who you really care about. Relatives and friends have differences and priorities. If you maintain a simple relationship circle, you may not be so tired. When it's time to send a mass message to celebrate the New Year, important friends will come out to catch up, important relatives will walk around each other, and important leading customers will visit. One-on-one telephone chat is not acceptable. When you begin to attach importance to this matter in your heart, you can naturally find the most suitable way. The truest feelings are tamed by each other. Why does mass texting make people feel insincere? Because of the most sincere feelings, we are very special to each other. I have read The Little Prince many times. This little book has insight into people and the relationship between people. To the fox, all chickens are the same, and all people are the same. He has no contact with them and has no feelings for them. When the little prince tames him, they establish contact and they will become true friends. He will recognize the little prince's footsteps. "The footsteps of others will make me hide in the ground, and your footsteps will make me come out of the ground." Everything related to the little prince will become meaningful. "Do you see the wheat field over there ... the wheat field won't remind me of anything, it's really hard. But you have blond hair. Once you tame me, it will be wonderful. Wheat is also golden. It reminds me of you. Moreover, I will also like the sound of the wind blowing the wheat waves ... "Taming is to establish a strong connection. When firecrackers sound, I will think of the vegetables you put in my bowl; When it rains, I will think of that slow song you stuffed into my ear; When the button is wrong, I will think of your unbridled laughter at that time; When I smell chalk dust, I will think of your kindness in those days. In important relationships, we are special to each other, and we already have or are creating exclusive memories. These can't be given by mass texting. I don't send new year messages in groups anymore. I'm not maverick or cynical. I just missed the real thing.