Write a letter of apology and apology to your boyfriend. Your recovery is already half successful.

Why is this? You ask yourself this question on countless sleepless nights, but you can’t figure it out. Some people can send a few text messages to their ex to get their ex's change and approval, but no matter how you send it, it will only make him go further and further away.

Text messages to your ex

Almost every lovelorn person will go through a period of sadness and sadness after a breakup, as if their heart was suddenly empty. In order to make myself feel less uncomfortable, I started sending a lot of text messages to my ex.

Some are apologizing, some are blaming, and some are begging. They use the method they think to constantly increase the burden on the other party. Some even threaten, but still cannot get the other person's approval, and the ex is still determined to leave.

Why is this happening? You ask yourself this question on countless sleepless nights, but you can’t figure it out. Some people can send a few text messages to their ex to get their ex's change and approval, but no matter how you send it, it will only make him go further and further away.

How can texting help you regain success? What text messages should you send to your ex to get a response from him? What does your ex want to hear from you and see what you send to him?

In fact, the answer is very simple, that is, send the right text message at the right time and do the right recovery behavior at the right time. I don’t know if you have experienced this kind of scene, if not, you can imagine it.

Scene: When a person comes over very angry, stands in front of you, puts his hands on his waist and says: You are doing well! How would you feel? Do you think why this person is mocking you like this?

Another scene: When a person comes over with a smile, stands in front of you, pats you on the shoulder and says: Well done to you! How do you feel? Do you feel like this person is affirming you?

Different emotions, different scenes, but the same sentence has different understandings. When you want to use text messages to win back your ex, you should pay attention to the different content sent in different recovery stages, as well as the emotions that the content should cover.

Moving yourself may not necessarily move your ex

When sending a recovery message to your ex, don’t think that you can just send it to him if you have moved yourself, so that he can also be moved by you. Look at it differently. This is unrealistic, and it will make him feel that you are bursting with need. If your needs are too strong, he will feel pressure. This is an invisible pressure.

Recovery is not necessarily based on moving the other person. Although being moved may make your ex temporarily soften, your core problem has not been resolved. Even if you can get back together, it will only be temporary, not to mention that being moved may bring The greater risk is that he becomes increasingly resentful.

Don’t beg him for forgiveness, promise that you will change

When you feel that this breakup is because you were wrong, because you didn’t know how to cherish it before, so when you try to recover, Ask him to forgive you and promise you will change. Not saying whether he believes in your promise or whether he believes you will change.

But your begging like this shows that you have a strong need for him, and secondly, it seems to him that you are making trouble. It's a gesture just because he wants to redeem you. The most he can do is give you comfort. After all, he is your ex. But it is unrealistic to ask him to give you an answer just because of your promise.

In the text message to your ex, do not reveal your strong needs in the early stage. Because your relationship has already failed once, if you want to start over without summarizing the reasons first after the failure, this will be a sense of fear for your ex.

Please talk to the tree hole to express your emotions. He has no responsibility to comfort you.

You feel so uncomfortable every day that you can’t eat, you often make mistakes at work, and you cry in the middle of the night when you go to bed. Awake. Yes, you are having a hard time because he broke up with you. Because he broke up with you, you experienced heartbreaking feelings.

While you resent him for being so heartless, you are even more reluctant to let go of how good he was to you. But when he thought that the person sleeping next to him might be his new girlfriend and that he wanted to pamper someone else, tears still flowed out unsatisfactorily.

You want to send a text message to your ex, telling him how much you miss him, how sad you are because of him, and how much you need his comfort. Stop, after all, you have broken up. If the text messages you send to your ex are just to express your emotions, then he will feel that there is no need to reply to you.

To redeem the text messages you sent to your ex in the early stage, admit your mistakes

When you have been separated for a week or two and realize that you are really at fault, the recovery text messages sent at this time, You should focus on admitting your mistakes and summarizing, and even thank him for letting you grow. This is equivalent to giving a summary of the past, letting him feel that you are not addicted to the past and unable to extricate yourself, but are starting over and growing.

Eg: During this period of separation, I seriously considered the reason for our breakup. It was indeed because I was ignorant before and often committed suicide in order to attract your attention and get more love from you. To be honest, I can't stand this kind of me. I am too dependent on you and have no life of my own. How can I be charming like this?

Thank you for suddenly waking me up from being lost. Although growing up will be painful, I believe I can persevere. I think we are not enemies when we break up. There is no need to stay away from each other forever. If I still use my previous XXX (your name) to contact you, please push me away. Look forward to my growth!

In the early stage of a breakup, when sending a redeeming text message to your ex, in addition to acknowledging your mistake, you should also use a light tone, do not talk about feelings, and do not reveal your needs. Just inform the other party that you are aware of the problem and lay the groundwork. Do not send multiple messages in a row. One message admitting your mistake is enough.

Such text messages are intended to dispel his guard and eliminate his disgust. At the same time, let him know that you are really aware of the problem. Regardless of whether he replies to you or not, his subconscious has actually left the impression that you are changing.