What are the reunion words in saving the ex after falling out of love?

How can we effectively save our predecessors? The most critical step is to ask each other out to meet during the recovery process.

What do you talk about and do when you meet? All this determines whether you can succeed next!

After breaking up, I really want to meet. After many efforts, the other party finally agreed to the invitation. Wait, don't get too excited. You know, this is just the beginning of redemption, and it's far from your real reunion.

The other party agrees to the invitation, but how to look at it, what to talk about and what to do should be done step by step, and we should not take it lightly, otherwise it will be easy to give up all previous efforts and destroy the other party's remaining goodwill for you for the second time.

Then the emotional experts focused on it. After the date agreed by your redemption partner:

What did you talk about on your date?

What can I do on a date?

What's the date about? Do what?

I successfully asked him out to meet him. What did you do and say after meeting him?

If you don't talk well, it's easy to arouse the negative anchor of the other party and dump you again. You can't talk about it completely, and you can't mention it. So there must be some skills and methods in communication. The key is to let him see your new attraction, new emotional value and create a positive anchor.

First, find a topic with * * *.

What is the most important thing for two people to chat? Just chatting, some chatting, not embarrassing each other, will build comfort for each other, and comfort is the premise of the smooth progress of love.

Although two people once loved each other, it doesn't mean that they will be comfortable if they don't talk again. That was a thing of the past, and it may not be so harmonious to meet again now. So if I want the date to go smoothly, I have to think about the topics he is interested in and the topics you can talk about in advance.

Here we should pay attention to the following points: "* * * the same topic" must stimulate the desire of both sides to chat, not simply picking out his favorite chat, but your unilateral catering, so that he can easily see your intentions and make him feel uncomfortable talking to himself.

Talking about memories

Talking about movies

You know, the biggest advantage of saving money is that your killer is your understanding of him and your memories together. Grasping these leads to the topic. For example, your favorite film director has heard that a new film will be made. The theme of this story is ... with his favorite movies and the stories you talked about together, I believe that familiar feeling will definitely come back.

Second, to * * * sound, * * love, to provide him with emotional value.

There is a topic discussion about "Love Chatting Method" on the Internet. A girl sent a circle of friends to vomit herself, saying that she was a dog who worked overtime every day. I really want to go out!

Then many friends left her messages below:

A said, "You are much better than me, and I don't rest on weekends";

B said, "You have classes and you can earn money. What are you complaining about? "

C said: "don't complain all day, either compromise or give up!" " "

D said, "Give you a hug. It is really hard to work overtime every day. I also have times when I don't want to go to work. "

If it's you, whose message do you like? Isn't that d? The reason is that although this answer has no practical suggestions, it gives people a feeling of warmth, understanding and concern, which is the emotional chat method. I think your situation has something to do with our mood.

Then, according to the principle of "* * * love, * * * sound", the application of S is very useful when you meet and chat with your ex. No matter how much he rejects you and hates you, at this time, if he talks about unhappy things, you can encourage him from his point of view and express "I care about you, I feel the same way with you, and you are not alone", then he will be very moved.

Third, let him find you interesting and see your new attraction.

It's not that "one in a thousand, one in a thousand", "interesting" people are very popular everywhere. In love, some people say a few words to make the other person think you are so interesting. You are born with a sense of humor, but some people don't have this potential. Talking is boring, easy to be silent, and every sentence is really wanting to know you.

In addition, if you are dealing with an ex who has broken up, he already knows all your characteristics like the back of his hand, and your interest may become dull to him, so it is not easy to really make the other person think you are cute and interesting.

Can't arouse each other's interest.

How did this become interesting?

1. can tell stories

Ng>3. Enrich yourself with connotation. The unexpected answer made him shine.

Say it in detail:

Can tell stories.

Many girls are fascinated by each other, because the boy can tell stories, whether about himself or his friends, whether he hears or sees them online. In short, they have a natural guiding force, and when they speak, they bring the other person into their own preset situation, so that the other person is attracted by themselves in that story.

Because the process of telling stories is actually "showing" yourself, showing your eloquence, experience, knowledge and three views. If this story is about yourself, you'd better bring some self-mockery and ridicule. Focus on the other person's feelings, infect him, get his attention, and then show him the interesting and charming you.

2. Meet a terrier and have an entertaining conversation.

If someone says something serious, if you answer it seriously, the atmosphere will definitely be a little cold and awkward, but if you use an entertaining joke to resolve it, the atmosphere will ease, and the other party will think that you are fun, easy to get along with, and very relaxed and happy with you.

For example, your predecessor said, "You seem different now" and you asked, "What's different?" He said "I don't know", and then you replied humorously, "I told you, I became beautiful unconsciously!"

Grasp the interesting stem that can extend from the other side's sentence and have an entertaining conversation with the other side, which not only shows your own changes, but also makes the other side feel more familiar and intimate with you in a joke. This skill is not difficult. Look at the online jokes, interesting variety shows. If it's not very interesting, just try to make the other person feel relaxed.

3. Enrich yourself with connotation

One in a million interesting souls must have content. It doesn't mean that if you say something vulgar, the other person will get to know you again and find your goodness. But you really need to enrich yourself and improve yourself. Even if you don't succeed in the end, it will be good for you in the future.

After you leave him, don't just think about applying redemption skills. Read more books and increase your knowledge when you have time, even if you watch more news. At least talk to him about something, and don't let him think that you don't care about anything but love.

Remember: both men and women, starting from the face value, are trapped in talent, which makes him feel that what you say is very profound and informative, and he will feel that chatting with you is a process of benefit and enjoyment.

The unexpected answer made him shine.

Anyone who has seen idol dramas knows that before a boy is attracted to a girl, it is because the other person's behavior and words are beyond his imagination. This boy will think that she is funny, different from others, and should get to know her.

The same is true for saved chats. If you want to impress him and make him think that you have become so interesting today, you must not play according to his routine. He thought you would answer, but you didn't. He thought you would say that, so you said it from the opposite angle. In a word, it is ok for him to shine at your eyes without leaving his three views and causing his disgust!

Many chats are deadlocked because they can't change the subject. They often meet a serious person and may even quarrel, especially when chatting with their ex. Don't care too much, learn to change the subject in time.

For example, he said to you, "I have a female colleague recently. She makes excellent desserts and brings them to us every day." Then you really respond "I can do it, and I can do it better than her", or "You think she is good, you can try to develop with her!" Doesn't this chat turn into confrontation, anger and jealousy? This not only exposes your sense of need, but also stifles the dialogue.

Your answer should be "I think the girl who can cook dessert is cute, but it would be better if she loves it as much as I do." I recently found a new sushi restaurant, and I tell you it's great ... "-The topic was changed successfully, and I didn't waste time on useless things.

6. Leave a mystery and a tick to make him look forward to seeing you next time.

Men and women want to save each other, in addition to trying to show their own changes, emotional value and new attraction in dating, there is another thing to pay attention to, don't show too much, let the other party see all of you, and your subsequent dating will become lackluster. So leave some mystery to each other, learn to stop abruptly, and press the pause button when the conversation is good and hot.

You can tell your best friend/buddy when to call you in advance, and then pretend that the opposite sex who asks you out says, "Sorry, I have another meeting. He is anxious to see me, and I can't help it. We will have a chance to talk again in the future! " On the one hand, this feeling of scratching his boots will make him feel unfinished about chatting, on the other hand, it will arouse his curiosity and want to know who you are going to see.

Mystery is a hook that can arouse each other's curiosity and possessiveness. You've been together. Who do you want to be with now? This is what he wants to know. If you inadvertently reveal it to him, then his sense of need will suddenly come up and he is eager to see you next time and ask clearly.