How to deal with mistress in the original match

How to deal with mistress in the original match

What should the original match do with mistress? The appearance of mistress is a great blow to a parent. Many people choose to submit to humiliation in order to protect their families, but this will only bring harm again and again. So how should the original match deal with the mistress?

How to deal with mistress 1 1 know yourself and know yourself?

Many former partners, on hearing the news of their husbands' infidelity, felt that they were at the end of their tether and their lifelong happiness collapsed. In fact, there is no need to panic in this situation. It is very important to inquire about the enemy. A bosom friend is to know whether her husband is dissatisfied with himself, whether it is an aging face, living habits or a dull life without freshness. Both sides are responsible for emotional problems, and we can only solve them rationally if we understand our own problems first.

To know yourself is to know who San Xiao is and what San Xiao has brought to her husband. You can secretly take her husband's mobile phone to get San Xiao's micro-signal, and add it as a friend to see her circle of friends, so as to know what kind of girl she is and what she does with her husband every day. You can even investigate San Xiao's economic situation and work situation, and then prescribe the right medicine.

2, don't cry, don't make trouble, keep your distance.

Never choose the way of crying after knowing that your husband is cheating, let alone playing mistress. Women's tears are only useful to those who love themselves and feel guilty for their survival. Usually face her husband rationally, do housework and even cook her husband's favorite dishes every day. But keep a distance between words and actions, don't patrol his post every day to give him full freedom, don't ask him not to go home at night, and go home with a smile. Don't be too enthusiastic or too cold. What men can't get is always the best. The more you push him, the more he thinks mistress is true love. Instead, he will be unhappy if you make a gesture of letting go. The intimate relationship filled him with doubts, so that when he was with mistress, he would be uneasy and even self-reflective.

3, in the mistress's life.

What San Xiao cares about most is that her lover still cares about her family, and she can tie her husband up with big and small things at home after knowing that the original match is cheating. If you have children, you can let them call you husband for a while and act like a spoiled brat. On the phone, the child will chat with her husband normally to show concern. Occasionally, you can ask her husband to go home with you on the grounds that the child is ill. If the original match has a good relationship with her parents-in-law, she can also ask her parents-in-law to call her husband home to eat with the elderly. It doesn't need too many times. Doing it once in a short time will make San Xiao feel that her husband will never leave home, which will make their relationship more anxious. If there are no children and the relationship between in-laws is average, then the original match can give all the family affairs and contacts between relatives to her husband on the grounds of business trip. The husband is too busy and emotional, and the relationship between the two will naturally separate.

How does the original match deal with Xiao San 2? How does the original match deal with mistress

First, write an anonymous letter to Xiao San.

If you want mistress to resign, you must do something. First of all, you can write an anonymous letter to San Xiao and tell her clearly in the letter that this is just a reminder. If the other party refuses to stop there and is still entangled with your husband, then you can announce this to all colleagues in San Xiao. After all, there is no public opinion, which will ruin San Xiao's position in the company in the future. And you have to let the other person know that you are not alarmist, but you can do it when you say it. To stop you, it depends on the performance of mistress. If mistress is really scared, she will know that you are not easy to mess with. If you are not easy to mess with, you'll have to run away. Naturally, you dare not treat extramarital affairs as a joke.

Second, dress yourself up and keep in good shape.

As a wife, you may forget to dress up because of your devotion to your family. One day, I was sloppy and plain. At first, your husband may think you are too tired and considerate. But after a long time, they will get bored and ignore you. At this time, the appearance of a third party in your marriage is more likely to attract your husband's attention. You should pay attention to yourself at this time and pick up the cosmetic bag. Every day is not about being enchanting, but about making you look young and energetic. Make yourself beautiful, and he will naturally notice your change and put it in his eyes. In addition, be sure to keep fit. Women who have given birth to children tend to lose their shape, so we should exercise more at ordinary times, not only to keep fit, but also to get in better shape. If you do, your husband will definitely want to see you, not those wild flowers outside.

Third, playing the family card affects the husband. Don't be in power and tide wait for no man.

At the beginning of the derailment, it originated from temptation. The so-called relationship with mistress is only passion at best. Compared with the true feelings of husband and wife who have been in trouble for many years, it is simply dwarfed. Therefore, a woman should play the family card and let her husband's conscience find out.

Fourth, pay more attention to in-laws.

Pay more attention to your in-laws and tolerate them. Naturally, they will also read your good. When your husband is having an affair, they will help you persuade him and put pressure on him. And even if the husband doesn't care about your husband and wife's mutual affection, he won't care about his parents' feelings.

Fifth, never lose your manners in front of your mistress.

Tell her thank you. Being brave and strong is your motto at present. In the face of mistress's questioning or provocation, you can say thank you to her even if you are angry and sad. How to get it, how to lose it, transfer the mood of lambasting to your sister Tao, and it is good not bad not to be rude in front of you.