How to apologize to the elders on the wine table?

I don't think a senior needs to hear why you did something wrong. He may know better than you.

Don't apologize with a purpose, don't expect to get any results after apologizing,

Apologizing means apologizing, just expressing regret for your previous behavior and guilt for influencing others.

I think when you apologize with this attitude, there may be unexpected results, but in any case, we must clearly know that we are not going to apologize for that result.