What information should you never disclose to your colleagues in the workplace?

In the workplace, the relationship between colleagues is very subtle. Colleagues and colleagues, as the name impli

What information should you never disclose to your colleagues in the workplace?

In the workplace, the relationship between colleagues is very subtle. Colleagues and colleagues, as the name implies, just do things together. Although we get along with each other every day, we can't be as close as friends, because there is always direct or indirect interest and competition between colleagues. With this relationship, it is doomed that both sides must keep a certain distance.

In addition, to put it bluntly, everyone is working together today, and we are all colleagues. When they are not working together, they just know each other. It's not very nice, but it's true. So, what information can't be disclosed between colleagues? Let me explain one by one:

1, family conflicts. As the old saying goes, "Don't wash your dirty linen in public", and family conflicts can't be told to colleagues. You can't tell him such a thing, and people can't tell if they are laughing behind their backs and gloating. We must know that people are "not good to others, and we hope that others will be bad." Secondly, if the other person is a big mouth, then everyone knows a little shit in your home, which will inevitably attract some criticism and strange eyes, which will have some influence on your work and life more or less.

2. Conflicts between colleagues. You can't tell your colleague about the contradictions and frictions between you and other colleagues, because you don't know what the relationship is between him and that colleague. If you tell him, it will spread to the other person's ear, and the contradiction will be deeper then. If you meet someone who doesn't blame you for your kindness, you will go there on purpose to sow discord between you.

3. Personal secrets. You can't tell your secret not only to your colleagues, but also to anyone. Don't tell him just because you are on good terms with him. Since you can tell him, he can tell his best friend. At that time, the secret is no longer a secret. Many times, telling a secret to one person means telling everyone.

4. Other people's secrets. You can't tell anyone except your own secrets. People tell you that they trust you and treat you as a brother and friend. You can't betray their trust. This is an honest question. Otherwise, once it is leaked, it may bring big trouble to others. If he finds out, your relationship is over.

5. Family income. As the old saying goes, "wealth makes a close mouth." No matter whether your family is rich or poor, don't tell your colleagues. This can avoid a lot of unnecessary troubles, because everyone is jealous and has a chain of contempt. Your family is rich, others will be jealous of you when they know it, and others will despise you when they know it. Nothing will happen if people don't know.

6. The boss told me. What the boss told you, some things are company secrets, some things are not suitable for others to know, some things are related to the development of the company ... and so on, these things can't be told to anyone else. You know, the boss hates people with big mouths. If you reveal what the boss told you, and the boss knows it, it is a trivial matter to be scolded, for fear that the boss will no longer trust you, then it will be a big loss.

7. Talk about others behind their backs. Since ancient times, gossip is the most annoying, and people who like to talk about others behind their backs are the least welcome. If you talk about others in front of your colleagues, although he caters to you on the surface, he will despise you and dislike you from the heart, because he will guess how you talk about him in front of others. Secondly, if what you say about a person reaches the other person's ear, people will secretly come to you.

8, complaining about the company is not good. It is foolish to complain about bad companies in front of colleagues. On the one hand, it will make colleagues think that you have too much negative energy, and then you don't want to associate with you. On the other hand, if it reaches the ears of leaders, waiting for your affirmation is another criticism. So don't complain, you can quit if you have the ability. If you are unable to leave, don't complain blindly, it will only lower your level.

Keeping your mouth shut is an important skill in the workplace. You should say a lot of things you shouldn't say, or you will get into a lot of trouble, especially with your colleagues. Remember this sentence "Don't throw all my heart to everyone", which is the way to survive in the workplace.

1, family conflicts, try not to talk to colleagues.

2, the financial situation at home, don't tell colleagues, it will lead to envy and hate.

3. Don't talk about the relationship with the leading colleagues of the unit, which will cause suspicion and gossip.

4, personal emotional problems, private life, try not to say.

5. Where do you live, where do your children go to school, and so on. Try not to say, people are unpredictable, safety first.

6. It's best not to say how much money you earn, whether you have a sideline or not, and whether you have a loan. No one at work really wants you to have a good life.

7. It's no good telling the complaints of the unit and the secrets of the leaders.

8. Don't waste your time gossiping about others.

9. Don't judge others' right and wrong. Some things others can do, but they can't.

The workplace is an interesting field. No friends, only interests. Many things, to put it bluntly, are asking for trouble!

Of course, the relationship between colleagues is not as good as that between lips and teeth, and teeth are still fighting with tongues. Therefore, in the workplace, because of some kind of interest exchange, colleagues have changed their faces or betrayed friendship, leading to irreconcilable examples. Therefore, in order to protect yourself from unreasonable harm, the following three kinds of information must not be disclosed to colleagues.

The ancients said: "Sit still, always think about yourself, gossip should not talk about people's right and wrong." That's the person who talks about others' right and wrong behind their backs. He belongs to the right and wrong people. You told a colleague gossip about others' right and wrong. In this way, when they have an argument, they will definitely bring you into the whirlpool. It's embarrassing and a waste of time, and in the end, you will be in a bad mood and lose more than you gain.

Colleagues Yue Ling and Cai Chao expressed their opinions because of competing for higher vocational places. Cai Chao is a compassionate person, but Yue Ling is a nagging woman. Let's talk about it normally, but I don't know that Yue Ling is upset. She often tells Cai Chao behind his back how afraid he is of his wife, and because he plays mahjong regardless of his family, he writes a letter of guarantee to his wife …

This thing that has nothing to do with work should not be said at the beginning. I didn't know that a colleague told Cai Chao, which may have touched a sore spot in Cai Chao. Cai Chao directly questioned Yue Ling and even threatened to start work ... As a result, the office was filled with smoke, and everyone was embarrassed there for a long time.

It's embarrassing for you to report such a thing. One result is that people regard you as a villain who provokes the relationship between husband and wife, and "thank you" in person is actually belittling you; Another result is that the husband and wife go to war and even divorce.

In the second case, your informer must be known by your colleagues, so that you become a lifelong enemy.

In this regard, some colleagues will take the initiative to tell their good colleagues about the disagreement between husband and wife. After being known by people with ulterior motives, they did something wrong in the name of listening and comforting, which eventually accelerated the end of their marriage.

Chen Siwei is the technical manager of the company, and he has mastered all the core technologies, but in the face of competitors, he is very principled and safeguards the interests of the company.

However, a competitor learned that Chen Siwei had an unusual relationship with a female subordinate. So, I paid a lot of money to buy off my female subordinates, and then through the setting of female subordinates, I gradually got the top secret formula from Chen Siwei ... which caused great losses to the company.

The company talked to Chen Siwei, but he refused to admit it. Later, the company reported the case, and soon the public security organs found out the truth. As a result, Chen Si, a female subordinate, not only lost all her savings, but also assumed criminal responsibility …

What is the relationship between colleagues? It is a competitive relationship! It is not pure friendship between classmates, nor brothers who risk their lives together like comrades in arms.

Therefore, not everything can be said between colleagues.

Some people, others praise you, you regard him as a bole.

Some people, when others call you fellow villagers, you call them relatives.

Some people, others tell you bad things about their leaders, and you treat them as your bosom friends, making them "four unlike!" " "

………

What kind of person is this? This is a person with low emotional intelligence.

There is no friendship between colleagues. There are also many colleagues who get along well and are like brothers. However, these situations are all under the premise of no competition. When you and your colleagues have nothing to say, this friendship can last. Once the situation changes, it's hard to say.

Don't tell your colleagues the following information easily, otherwise, one day, this information will become his secret weapon to defeat you:

1. You have made new achievements and new research results. Some people excitedly told their hard-working research results to the "iron buddy", but it turned out to be his research results. Let you feel the feeling of "flattering others to make wedding clothes"

You are dissatisfied with the leader, and you can't tell your complaints to your competitors. If you are like a dissatisfied housewife, it will be a thorn in the side of the leader sooner or later if everyone speaks ill of him. This is the real meaning of "disaster comes from the mouth".

3. The leader wants to promote you and talk to you in advance. Only heaven and earth know these things, you know, and so do the leaders. Otherwise, you will understand what "the cooked duck flies" means.

Don't introduce your wife (husband) to your brothers (sisters), and don't think that they will regard your wife as a "sister-in-law". Maybe one day, she will be your "sister-in-law".

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In short, the friendship between colleagues is established under certain circumstances, not forever. As the environment changes, you may become competitive. Therefore, don't say anything that will harm the competition among colleagues at any time.

If it's just a colleague relationship, it's best not to disclose anything except work information.

Why? There is no eternal friendship in the workplace, only eternal interests, let alone colleagues?

If you really want to ask what information you can't disclose, don't say the following information:

1, personal privacy. Including some special experiences, personal things and secrets in my heart.

2. Social relations and background. For example, about your family and social relations.

3. Personal relationship with the leader. For example, what the leader said to you alone, personal contact experience with the leader and so on.

4. The economic situation of individuals and families. Such as assets, investments, etc.

5. Things worth showing off or reflecting on in the process of personal growth. You'd better not say these words, because what you think is worth showing off will not only arouse others' interest, but also cause jealousy sometimes. As for things worthy of reflection, if they are known, they may become the talk of others in the future.

6. I know the secrets of leaders and other colleagues. If you say it carelessly, you will have to pay the bill in the end to prevent it from being rendered by others.

7. What others have said about the company or colleagues in front of you. Remember never to be a "mouthpiece" in the workplace. No matter what anyone says, you have listened, so stop here to prevent being betrayed.

8. Your future development plan. Because no matter how grand any plan is, it is a castle in the air if it is not realized. It is meaningless to say it, and actions speak louder than words.

9. Complaints or dissatisfaction with the unit and leaders by yourself or from others. Because learning to control emotions is conducive to personal growth. No matter what others say, you don't want to get involved.

10, information about the help and support given by "noble people". This must not be said, because others have helped you, and many times you don't want others to know.

People often say that the workplace is like a battlefield, and the battlefield needs strategies. Good strategies can make you step by step.

What information can't be disclosed among colleagues in the workplace? Brother Dong will summarize some points for you.

Personal salary Many companies have a salary secrecy system, which requires employees to keep their salaries confidential. Of course, some enterprises do not pay attention to confidentiality. Generally speaking, the salary system of such enterprises is very perfect, and you get the corresponding salary when you reach the corresponding level! There are also some positions, such as sales. His income is the basic salary plus a percentage. The basic salary is similar to everyone else's, and his income depends on his performance, which everyone can see.

Let's take a look at the purpose of the company's request for salary confidentiality.

For an individual, if a close colleague asks about your salary in private, do you want to keep it a secret?

Brother Dong's personal opinion: It is also confidential! Why? No matter what purpose the enterprise advocates secrecy, for us personally, there is no harm without comparison. He is lower than you, he is uncomfortable, he is higher than you, and you are uncomfortable! As much, just complaining about the low salary. So no matter who is tall or low, the final result is that there is always one unhappy person.

Personal Privacy Colleagues should not disclose personal privacy beyond personal salary. Privacy of personal life Many people may think it's nothing. If they want to talk to their colleagues, it's no big deal to get on well. What they are afraid of is that when the two of them regard each other as enemies, the life privacy you told him may be made public, so it is best not to disclose personal privacy with colleagues.

Personal privacy probably includes family property, family members and personal feelings.

Just pass most colleagues by vaguely, and there is no need to talk about it in depth, unless you recognize his character very much and regard him as a friend you can trust and talk to.

Comment on the company and other colleagues. It is also very important for colleagues not to easily tell colleagues the comments and opinions of others in the company.

When the intersection is good, it is very peaceful; When enemies turn against each other, they will expose each other's old roots. Most of human nature is like this, so the seemingly friendly relationship between colleagues, especially when it comes to economic interests, is easy to break down here. This is why some of the above information and colleagues should never be disclosed.

The above is Brother Dong's answer, I hope it will help you.

There are five things you can't disclose in the workplace. Seeing them is winning them.

First, don't tell your colleagues about your personal privacy.

There is a beautiful female colleague in our company, whose family is a relocated household in a village in the city. She is very talented. She just wants to find a tall and handsome man, so she has never been in love in her thirties. However, such a person with high vision and temperament actually had a relationship with a short and fat colleague.

They had sex after drinking, so she refused to admit it the next day. If she didn't say anything about it, no one in the company would know, but she told a middle-aged female colleague to ask if the middle-aged female colleague would be pregnant.

I don't know if she really doesn't know or wants to spread the news. In short, she won't let this middle-aged female colleague tell anyone, but in the end, everyone in the company knows that she has become a joke in our company. Everyone says that she has a poor eye, a heavy taste, a desire for food, stupidity and childishness. Anyway, everyone thinks she's faking it

Second, don't tell your colleagues about your family.

There is a supervisor in the company who sends his daughter to study in Australia. As he said in the company, someone asked him how much tuition and living expenses he had a year. He said that the tuition fee is 30 thousand a year and the living expenses are 10 thousand a month, which is actually true.

But as soon as this was said, someone immediately settled accounts. This is a third-tier city. His monthly salary is less than 7000 yuan. How can he afford such high tuition and living expenses? He just bought a house and a car. Some people say that he must have taken kickbacks and embezzled. The story spread more and more in the company, and the boss heard the wind. He happened to be in charge of purchasing when the boss became suspicious. He checked many of his purchase records and found that there was something fishy in it, so he was taken off the shelf.

Third, don't tell your colleagues about your personal physical condition.

There is a female colleague in the company who can't have children for some reason. She felt depressed, so she went to work and chatted with her colleagues. She also said that because of the heavy mental burden, she had headaches all day and only needed medication.

Do you think other female colleagues will sympathize with this story? Women always give women little shoes. Some female colleagues scold her behind her back all day because they have problems with her at work, saying that she deserves not to have children. Others said that she had cervical cancer and AIDS, so she took medicine all day, whether it was true or not, and it spread all over the company. Everyone looks at her with strange eyes.

Later, the company laid off staff, and their supervisor kicked her out on the grounds of poor health.

Fourth, don't tell your colleagues about your extra abilities.

I used to be an operator, but I learned to program because of my work, so I told my colleagues in the company that I could program and then deal with the problem. That's great. Everyone came to me for problems that I couldn't handle at work, and I was too embarrassed to refuse, so I worked for others all day, which delayed my time.

5. Don't complain to colleagues.

My former supervisor, with excellent skills, once boasted to his colleagues and told them that I felt that the system could not run without moving, so I had this ability.

This soon reached the boss's ears. Once he had a dispute with his boss because of his work, just as the company was disconnected from the network, the whole system could not run. The boss thought it was intentional and quickly replaced him.

In the workplace, you must keep your mouth shut, talk to your colleagues, and try to talk only about work. Colleagues are a community of interests and are not worth entrusting at all, so don't say anything to colleagues outside of work. Sometimes you may lose your job and become a joke to others, so pay attention to your words and deeds.

Remember one sentence, you are here to work, not to make friends.

The first topic taboo: in private life and workplace, you can neither be a transparent person nor a mysterious person. Learn to disclose your relevant information appropriately according to the needs of the occasion.

This information is best related to personal work, not your wonderful experience or dog blood love. Leaders don't need your negative emotions, the pressure is already great. Be an employee who spreads positive energy.

The second topic taboo: labeling colleagues "Xiao Zhang is a relocated household, no wonder he works so carelessly."

"Xiao Liu's father is a director. No wonder the boss always takes care of her."

"Xiao Wang's family is rural, and it must be Phoenix Man."

There are no secrets in the workplace. What you said about your colleagues will eventually reach my ears. If the messenger embellishes it, it is estimated that you will be hated for life. Interpersonal relationships in the workplace follow causality. Colleagues hate you, and sooner or later it will be reflected in their work. Other colleagues will also think you are a villain, thus alienating you.

The third topic taboo: divulging the intention of other colleagues to leave, all things must come to an end. My colleague told you in advance that he was leaving because he trusted you. At this time, you not only don't help him keep the news, but also spread it around, which will put colleagues in an embarrassing situation.

When colleagues are ready to leave their jobs, they can have a heart-to-heart talk and talk about the future. Don't speculate. No matter how good the relationship is, there will be no future.

The fourth topic taboo: vent dissatisfaction with work or colleagues. If you really can't stand the need to vent, please be sure to find someone who has no working relationship to vent.

If you drag a seemingly "enthusiastic" colleague to complain about the boss's mistake, it means that you have something in your hand and the other party will report it immediately if they don't see it, but as long as there is a conflict of interest, you are in a passive position.

In the workplace, everyone should draw a clear topic boundary for themselves and strictly abide by it.

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A lot of information can't be disclosed, which can be roughly divided into three categories!

This information includes your bonus, salary and other benefits.

Many companies have a secret salary system, and everyone's salary is different. If you say it out, it will not only violate company discipline, but also bring unnecessary trouble to others and yourself.

You can't say anything about your development plan except salary, because you don't know if this colleague is your future competitor!

This information may be the content of your work. For example, if you are in charge of personnel work, you know everyone's comprehensive "privacy". In this case, if you "leak" information to other colleagues, you are "dereliction of duty", and the company will hold you accountable if it knows.

If you hear this information from others, you can't tell it to other colleagues as conversation material. Because you are likely to act as a medium of "spreading wrong information" again, complicating the original simple problem.

Of these three kinds of information, this is the last one you should tell your colleagues.

Some right and wrong about leadership, no matter how you get it, may be true or false.

As long as it comes out of your mouth, it's what you said. If your colleagues betray you under the guidance of the external environment, you will be passive and argumentative.

In the article "Knowing these three points, you still can't control your mouth in the workplace, and you deserve bad luck", the harm of "unable to control your mouth" is elaborated in detail. Friends can refer to it!

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