What is the most “please” word that teachers receive from parents?

"The child is naughty, please pay more attention to the teacher." "Teacher, please take more care of my child." School has started, and parents have entrusted their children to school, but they are still worried. They ask the teacher for help, maybe just give instructions, A text message, a phone call, a meal or even some small gifts, I hope the teacher can take more care of the child. "Many parents even have to take care of their children's seats," the teacher said. This is not an isolated case. Today we will take a look at what kind of "pleases" come from parents? What problems do these "pleases" bring?

Phenomena丨Things parents ask teachers for

At the beginning of the new semester, some teachers reported that they received a lot of text messages and phone calls from parents, and were accepting their greetings and blessings. In addition, all kinds of "pleases" will definitely follow. Let’s take a look at how many things teachers are “asked for” by?

Change seats

"Our child's grades have dropped sharply recently, all because his deskmate did not study well and affected him."

"Our child's grades have declined sharply recently. The child has a bad relationship with her deskmate. She often cried to me when she came home last semester. This semester, I will talk to the teacher about finding a new deskmate for her."

"If the child wants to study. Well, you have to have a hard-working and conscientious child to take care of him and give him a deskmate who is good at studying so that he can progress together."

"The child is a bit tall and sits in the back rows of the class. , but the effect of listening to the class is better in the first few rows. It would be great if it could be adjusted forward."

At the beginning of the new semester, the request to adjust seats is often the main demand of parents. For the sake of their children, it is troublesome It seems that teachers have to change their seats every day, and even the so-called "good seats" are often overcrowded.

Take care of learning

"Teacher, our child is not good at math. If he usually makes mistakes, I will ask him to ask you more questions."

"Teacher, Our child didn’t understand what she learned yesterday. Do you have time to talk to her alone?”

“Teacher, our child is not interested in learning Chinese recently. Can you have a chat with him? ? ”

When faced with the “big thing” of learning, parents naturally cannot be careless. When they encounter problems, they go to the teacher and hope that the teacher can give more guidance to their children. This is also something that parents frequently ask the teachers for. .

Inquiring about the results

"Teacher, I heard that the exam was recently taken. How many points did our child get and what is his approximate ranking?"

"Teacher, Our child is quite rebellious and won’t tell us, can you tell me his grades every time?”

As a parent, what I care about most is probably my child’s scores in every major and minor exams. However, today's students can be described as "little people but big devils". They "fight wits and courage" with teachers at school, and "frequently fight" with their parents at home. When their grades are not good, they do everything possible not to let their parents know. "We have no exams recently." "I don't know my ranking." Faced with this situation, asking the teacher has become the choice of many parents.

Entrust care

In addition to the examples given by the editor above, in daily life, the most common thing parents say to teachers is probably "Teacher, please take more care of my family." "Children", and this kind of general "entrustment" actually does not have very substantive content. It is more about hoping that the teacher can leave a good impression, pay more attention to or even take care of his own children, and when the children encounter problems Give your child some attention.

Reality丨The burden of parents’ entrustment and love makes teachers very stressed?

From life to study, it seems that the things parents ask teachers for are varied and different. Why has it become a "routine" for parents to ask teachers for help? Are these requests really necessary? Maybe different people have different opinions.

Parents: It’s all for their children

Whether it’s sending text messages, making phone calls, or sending gifts, parents attach great importance to the various “entrustments” to teachers, and all of this is It all shows how much parents care about their children. “There are so many children in a class, and the teacher’s energy is limited. Let’s talk to the teacher, and he can pay more attention to our children.

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In addition, parents’ “powerlessness” about their children is also the main reason why parents need to “ask” teachers. There are some things that parents want to do but cannot do, but teachers can do it. For example: changing seats, analyzing wrong questions, taking on some class work... When parents can't solve the problem, they will naturally think of finding a teacher; there are also some parents who have a poor relationship with their children, and they need teachers to act as bridges and gain their children's understanding. Children are unwilling to communicate with their parents about life and study information. Parents know nothing about their children's status in school and can only ask teachers for information.

Compared with proactive parents, there are some parents who are ". "Passive" actions. These parents "asked for nothing" from the teachers. However, when the parents around them sent messages and called the teachers one after another, these parents couldn't sit still. "It's not that they want the teachers to take more care of their children, but I hope teachers can treat children equally. "Because of the worry and uneasiness of their children being ignored, some parents have to ask the teacher for help even if they think it doesn't matter. They must have a "sense of presence".

Teacher: It is difficult to respond to many opinions and overwhelmed

Faced with various "entrustments" from parents, teachers are under great pressure, and many of these "entrustments" make teachers feel "tired".

Breaking class management discipline<. /p>

"Care leads to chaos." The love and protection of children has caused many parents to make demands that are contrary to the class management mechanism. A class that the teacher originally managed well was "involved" by the parents' demands. It moves the whole body."

Taking changing seats as an example, a teacher said, "Many parents even have to take care of the seats in the classroom and always want their children to sit in the first few rows. They feel that this is more popular with teachers. focus on. "This approach makes the teacher a little helpless. As a whole class, every student has the equal right to enjoy classroom education, and once the seats are formed, the children will establish a relatively stable emotional connection with the surrounding classmates. Adjusting the seats will not only If it affects only one child, it is likely to affect several children, and the learning atmosphere of the entire class will become impetuous, which will instead affect the originally stable class management.

A variety of requirements are in a dilemma.

In addition to breaking the discipline of class management, parents' various demands also cause confusion in the work of teachers and put some teachers in a dilemma. At the parent-teacher meeting, he briefly reported the Chinese language scores of the two classes he taught. One of the classes had a weaker score than the other. Later, a parent specifically called him and told him that it was best for the teacher not to differentiate between classes. In comparison, this will be bad for the child's psychological growth.

Although this parent is not wrong, in an environment where most parents are still "concerned about grades", if the teacher does not emphasize grades, it must be a problem. It will also cause dissatisfaction among other parents and put them in a dilemma.

Personal life time will be squeezed out

“I answer several calls a day, one call lasts for more than ten minutes, and one or two hours is enough. After that, nothing can be done. "As a teacher, have you ever encountered similar problems? Parents' calls or messages come one after another. The notebook is full of parents' requests. If they cannot be solved, you have to patiently explain and comfort the parents.

As a result, the lessons I originally wanted to prepare were not prepared, the room I wanted to tidy was not tidied, and I didn’t have time to spend time with my family... The occupation of personal living space caused the teacher to use the time he originally had to rest after get off work. It is very hard to deal with and solve parents' problems

Measures丨Love and understanding: Another way for parents to feel at ease and for teachers to worry less

In the face of various "pleases" from parents. "The teacher feels pressured, and the parents also feel wronged. Both parents and teachers have the same original intention for the healthy and happy growth of their children. So is there another way? Let parents no longer "entrust" teachers too much. Can you teach and work with peace of mind?

Parents: Change your mentality, be more understanding, and don’t treat teachers as “life-saving straws”

As a parent, when you are ready to ask your teacher for something, , you might as well "think before you act" and think about whether your request will cause trouble to the teacher in class management; whether your request will disturb the teacher's life outside of work; whether your request must be done by the teacher. If you think about it. After that, if you feel that your request is reasonable and reasonable, please ask the teacher. I believe that the teacher will deal with the child's problem in time.

It is also important for parents to change their understanding of the teacher's class management.

"In order to make teachers care more about their children, some parents will even give gifts to teachers. They think that if they give more gifts to teachers, teachers will always take care of their children more. In fact, parents want teachers to give more to their children. Some 'special care' is completely unnecessary, because teachers need to treat children fairly. "Therefore, as parents, we should not think that teachers will favor their own children, but should think that teachers love every child equally. .

It is far better for parents and teachers to communicate and cooperate smoothly and effectively than to "ask" teachers to solve problems alone. When children's grades are not ideal and children encounter setbacks in school, parents should not just worry or ask the teacher to do this or that to solve the problem, but should learn to cooperate with the teacher. Only by "joining forces" can those things you think It doesn't matter if the child is talented.

Teacher: Caring for every child with love

As a teacher, it is very important to be good at distinguishing between the various requests and requests from parents. It is the teacher's responsibility to weigh the parents' requests from the perspective of the overall interests of the class, not forgetting the existence of other children when paying attention to this child, upholding a "loving heart", and treating every child fairly and justly. Responsibilities lie.