Me; the daily illustrated guide of a deep sociophobe

As a patient with deep social phobia, I believe that you, who are also suffering from social phobia, should be the same as me. In daily life, just doing a very simple thing requires a lot of effort and countless psychological struggles. Then let us take a look at the daily life of social anxiety:

1? I believe that for most patients with social anxiety, if they can choose to send WeChat or text messages, they will definitely not choose to make phone calls. Even for most people, sending WeChat is a very tangled matter. After a long conversation, they still don’t have the courage to send it. Sometimes, I even ask my friends to log in to their WeChat account and help me click send!!! I finally clicked send, but I worry about whether my message is correct and whether the other party will pay attention to me.

2 Whenever the phone rings, or mobile phone messages and WeChat messages vibrate, patients with social anxiety will feel tense, their heartbeat will speed up, and their whole body will even tremble.

3. When answering the phone, practice it many times. But when it was actually connected, my mind was confused and my speech was incoherent. Sometimes after answering the phone, I suddenly feel: I'm stupid, I don't remember what I just said.

4. Every time I receive a sales call, I don’t know how to respond, and I can’t bear to hang up, so I can only say nothing. Just wait for the other party to say: Hello, can you hear me? Hello? Hello? Hello, are you there? ...Okay, I won't bother you anymore, I wish you a happy life. At this point I finally breathed a sigh of relief.

1? Sunglasses, hats, and masks are standard equipment when going out. To not let people recognize me when I go out, even to say hello and start a conversation. Every time I go out, I wear a hat, sunglasses, and a mask. In this way, I can easily walk on the street without being recognized by colleagues, leaders, and acquaintances.

Two? When you see an acquaintance from a distance on the street, you immediately turn around and sneak into a nearby alley, wait for the acquaintance to leave, and then return.

Three? When I go out to buy groceries, I like to go to the supermarket the most. Because there is no need to ask the price! ! No need to bargain!!! It’s really cool whether it’s tied or not.

Four. When you go shopping in a shopping mall, you are most afraid of a shopping guide following you and asking you if you need anything.

One. Most people don’t like rainy days, but I prefer rainy days. Especially on days when it rains heavily, because I know it is inconvenient to travel on rainy days and not many people will come. Even if you are walking on the road, holding an umbrella, not many people will pay attention to you. Rather than going out, I prefer to close the curtains, turn on the heater, and bring a box of snacks on a rainy day. While listening to the rain outside the window, sit on the bed and watch a drama or read a book. Don't be too happy at all.

Two? You cannot go out during the epidemic, which is simply a relief for patients with social anxiety. No more walking around the streets, no more visiting relatives. Wearing a mask when going out makes it much easier to communicate with colleagues or friends, and it seems that you feel more confident.

I believe everyone has experienced this. It is obviously three people hanging out together, but I cannot have a name. I could only watch the other two people chatting animatedly, and I could only stand aside and watch the conversation. Finally, when an even number of people went out together, thinking of chatting in pairs, I finally had someone to talk to. However, it turned out that there were three of them, five of them, chatting very high, and he was the one left.

For social fears, dinner parties are a particularly scary thing, especially when leaders are present at the dinner table. Watch others pour tea and wine for the big boss, thank the leader for their blessings, and say some words to adjust the atmosphere. Looking at the people at the dinner table, one by one they made toasts and said toasts, and were praised repeatedly by the boss. On the other hand, patients with social fear will only bury their heads in eating without saying a word, just like a fool and an alien.

It would be okay if you were ignored the whole time and no one cared about you. If an enthusiastic friend feels that you are being left out, he says: Why don't you say anything? Come on, I'll toast you. At this time, the socialist could only hold up the cup, and with his mind going blank, he reluctantly said with a smile: Thank you. Or what you are most afraid of is that your leaders and bosses will say to you with disdain in public: Why are you so introverted and stupid?

Then I felt that I needed to get rid of my Tiehanhan problem, so I took countless social eloquence books and classes, but in the end I failed. Well, it’s good to be a tough guy.

If you see it now, you will find that you have won every one. Congratulations, you have found an organization. You are not the only one who is afraid of society, and you should not feel sad because you are afraid of society. You are awesome and you are normal.

I don’t want to delve into the reasons for the formation of social fear. After all, living with social fear is too tiring.

I believe that everyone with social anxiety has experienced: denying themselves, hating their own character, feeling that their existence is superfluous, like an empty person.

Then work hard and accept your social fears. Improve your abilities in other aspects. Even if you are a social fear, it will not hinder your excellence. Only if you are good enough can you be qualified to choose and be yourself.

If you are excellent, it doesn’t matter if the society is afraid.

by? I am julian