Is it really right to teach children to fight violence with violence when they are bullied?

Introduction: school bullying, ginseng attack and other bad events will attract everyone's attention. If you are a parent and friend with children, this is simply a problem that you must know and understand.

Families with children will be very sensitive to this matter. After all, when children reach the appropriate age, they need to go to school and have the necessary social interaction. At this time, children need to leave their parents and come to a strange environment. Parents want their children to enjoy and play with them in the new environment, so parents will naturally feel more at ease.

However, after all, children are still young in age and thinking, and they have no experience in dealing with many things. When they encounter something, they will feel flustered and powerless. These are also places where parents should not be too optimistic.

Recently, there was a murder case caused by a dispute between children on campus. Suddenly, parents who are worried about getting along with their children on campus will pay more attention to such events and their children.

Let's take a look at how unreliable it is to stab a classmate and teach children to "fight violence with violence" because their daughter is bullied.

A murder case caused by school bullying.

This campus murder case has just happened, but because of such a painful result and influence, it has always remained in the hearts of the victims, the abuser's families and the teachers and students present at that time.

Now we can't know the general process and details of this tragedy before it was caused, but just from the result, it is really too heavy.

A fifth-grade boy in Shangrao City was stabbed on the spot by the father of a female classmate at the same table, and eventually died because of ineffective rescue. Now the parents who stabbed the boy are also detained in the police station. This seems to be a conflict and bullying incident among children on campus, but it eventually turned into an unbearable revenge.

In fact, we all know in our hearts that solving problems with such "violence against violence" behavior will not have a good result, but it will often bring a result of both sides. Then, some parents will want to say that if they don't tell their children to fight violence with violence, their children will be bullied forever, and eventually their children will have to bear the consequences of making mistakes alone.

This is the question to be discussed. In the actual communication between children, how should parents guide their children to deal with bullying in communication?

Second, how to respect each other and protect yourself in communication.

1, the model of "fighting violence with violence" is very unreliable.

The mention of "fighting violence with violence" inevitably reminds me of a campus tragedy I encountered when I was young. It happened suddenly, but two boys had an argument in the bathroom, which can be said that one wouldn't let the other. Finally, one of the boys took a knife out of his pocket and stabbed him to death.

At that time, it was also said that there were fierce discussions inside and outside the campus, and it was really terrible to encounter such a harmful event on campus. After that, schools and families will pay great attention to this problem and give timely guidance to children with problems to help them face problems in growth and study.

Therefore, if you take extreme measures when you can't bear it, you might as well deal with it in time when things appear and you can't accept them. Don't let things get worse, so the injured party will suffer more losses.

2. On weekdays, parents should do a good job in children's emotional counseling.

Some parents don't communicate enough with their children. Many times, children's emotions have already had problems, but parents don't care. Regardless of the size of the matter, parents are advised to care about their children's thoughts.

There is no need to take children's small grievances too seriously or completely ignore them, especially when children have just come into contact with new environments and made new friends. Parents can chat and ask their children what they did today. Are there any interesting things and unforgettable friends?

When the child is in a bad mood, it is necessary to help the child to look at the problems encountered reasonably, and of course, to provide some tips for getting along, so that the child can try to do it in the way you provide. If you get something, make persistent efforts next time. If the effect is not good, you can try new methods and try to find a hobby with your child.

Key Tip: Children should respect their choices when they get along. Parents should not only let their children try to face and deal with the troubles they encounter, but more importantly, let their children know that their parents will help them at any time, and they will not leave their children in an isolated situation.