Ambiguous jingle at class reunion

When I was young, I often heard people say: "In life, there are three kinds of friendships that are most unforgettable: the friendship of classmates who went to school together, the friendship of comrades who carried guns together, and the friendship of years when we went to the countryside together." . However, after entering society, as our age and experience increase, we find that many of our feelings gradually fade away, and the original beauty is no longer found. Just as Nalan Xingde, a poet of the Qing Dynasty, said: "If life is just like the first time we met, why is the autumn wind sad and painted on the fan? It is easy to change the heart of an old friend, but it is easy to change the heart of an old friend."

Just take "Classmates" In terms of "reunion", more and more people now feel that "class reunion" has changed! As the ancestor said in "Zengguang Xianwen": "The poor live in the busy city and no one cares about it, the rich live in the mountains and have distant relatives. If you have money, you speak the truth, but if you don't have money, the words are not true. If you don't believe it, just look at the wine at the banquet, and you will be persuaded by the cup. If you are rich, don’t bear heavy burdens. Don’t persuade others if you don’t have money. Don’t seek relatives if you are in trouble.”

Why is this? In fact, it is mainly caused by these three behaviors, and these three reasons are very realistic and very heart-wrenching! Let’s take a look below!

1. Comparing and showing off;

When I was studying, I heard the teacher say: "If you don't study hard now, the gap in your life will widen in 5 or 10 years after graduation." "Everyone's life trajectory is different. Some people do well and some do poorly. This is inevitable. Many years later, the old classmates finally got together, and the most important thing was to reminisce about the innocent campus feelings.

However, some people show off their husbands, children, cars, status, famous brands, etc. at the party. This can easily make the originally simple class reunion become secular and vulgar. .

In the past, there was not much difference between people. But now that the economy is developing at a rapid pace, students who are doing well are prospering, while those who are not doing well can only support their families. It is precisely because the gap has widened that some people like to show off their wealth and status to show their superiority and dignity.

But this kind of behavior hurts the feelings of other students very much. After all, most of them are ordinary people. What's more, when one person shows off, others are not willing to be outdone. In the end, it turns into comparing with each other, and no one is convinced by the other, which really makes the class reunion sour.

2. Dislike the poor and love the rich;

Su Qin, Guiguzi’s apprentice, was in poverty in his early years, and his family looked down upon him. Later, Su Qin successfully lobbied the princes, received the seal of the Six Kingdoms, and returned home in fine clothes. His parents, brother, sister-in-law, and wife knelt on the ground, not daring to raise their heads to look at him. Su Qin asked his sister-in-law: "Why were you so arrogant before and so respectful today?" His sister-in-law replied: "Because brother-in-law, you have a high status and a lot of money now!" So, Su Qin looked up to the sky and sighed: "I am the same person. When I am rich, my relatives respect me, and when I am poor, they despise me, not to mention other ordinary people.”

Through this little story, we can see that it is human nature to dislike poverty and love wealth, even in the most miserable life. The same goes for people close to you, let alone outsiders?

When I was studying, everyone was equally poor, and it didn’t matter whose family was rich, because the competition was about academic performance. But now when classmates get together, things have changed and people have changed. Everyone's social status and wealth have changed, and they are also divided into rich and poor.

As a result, the nature of many people who dislike the poor and love the rich is exposed: students who are doing well like to sit together and talk about business and connections; students who are doing poorly also feel inferior and sit together Hug together to keep warm; after a party, everyone is looking for those students who are doing well to toast, leave their phone numbers, and exchange business cards; while those students who are doing poorly are ignored and ignored, and they can only sit in the corner alone, drink wine, and swear that they will never Never attend again. In this way, hating the poor and loving the rich turned the originally beautiful "class reunion" into a sour one!

3. Playing with ambiguity;

Playing with ambiguity is one of the most criticized things at class reunions. There is even a jingle circulating on the Internet: "Those who are too minded are lying in bed, those who are too minded are nagging, those who are not too minded are touching, those who are minded are singing, and those who are not minded are drinking to death." Although these words sound very prickly. heart, but it is also a reaction to real problems.

When people reach middle age, many people have started families and started businesses, and their work and life are under great pressure. When they meet their first love as a student, it is easy for them to fall in love again. Or, I didn’t have any good feelings before, but now the more I look at the other person, the more handsome and beautiful the other person becomes, and I have developed a good impression of each other, etc. However, these behaviors are very dangerous and irresponsible, because they will destroy two originally happy families.

Playing with ambiguity is not only playing with fire, but also prone to conflicts and disputes. For example, I once saw a news story about a married woman who attended a junior high school class reunion and was beaten by another male classmate. The reason given by the male classmate was ridiculous: he saw that the female classmate was beautiful, so he took the initiative to say hello and ask for his contact information, but the female classmate ignored him; the male classmate felt that he was being looked down upon and drank some more wine. , so he took this drastic action.

When I was studying, the feelings between my classmates were very simple; after many years, people have changed, and their motivations for making friends are not simple. Some people like to play ambiguously, and a mouse droppings spoils the pot of porridge, making the classmates confused. The party changed. More and more people believe that doing more is worse than doing less, and they start to stay away from class reunions.

Conclusion: People are changing slowly, and time will dilute everything. It is the wisest way to retain the original simplicity and beauty in your heart! Why have the current “class reunions” changed? The main reasons are the above three reasons - showing off by comparison, hating the poor and loving the rich, and playing ambiguously. If we want to continue our friendship as classmates, please remember to avoid doing the above three behaviors! Friends, what do you think of class reunions?