Girls angrily tore up the slogan of Hong Kong independence.

In the eyes of China people, getting a license is not a marriage, but only a wedding reception is considered as a marriage.

For the couple, the wedding reception is not only the recognition of each other's feelings, but also the attention to each other's families.

Zhao He even has children. Recently, the news of a new wedding was reported, which shows the girl's persistence in the wedding and the importance of the wedding to the girl.

It is precisely because the wedding is so important that once the newlyweds turn against each other at the wedding, it is very likely that the marriage has come to an end before it officially begins.

A friend got married and I was in bed, so I was absent.

I guess he was busy in his new house at night, so he didn't call to say hello when he was free.

The next morning, I called to wish him a happy wedding. I didn't expect him to say to me, "Happy fart, I have to find a new wife to divorce these two days."

The reason for marriage and divorce is that the bride put forward a condition on the condition of the face of the groom and her husband's family at the wedding-let her husband's family transfer 200,000 yuan on the spot, otherwise she will break off her marriage in front of the guests.

In the end, friends and parents didn't satisfy the bride's wishes and drove the bride and the wedding procession out of the hotel.

This phone call makes me look embarrassed.

As one of Dalin's close friends, I know the outline of the relationship between my friend Dalin and his girlfriend Xiaolan.

Dalin is two years older than me. We met in an adventure of a donkey friend, and only after chatting did we find that our home is very close.

Because of similar interests and hobbies, we will get very close in the future, often eating together and hiking together.

Dalin's marriage partner was only after we met, and Dalin still asked me to accompany them on a blind date.

The girl has a good appearance and a petite figure. For Dalin, who is full of protective desire, the two complement each other.

On the day of the blind date banquet, I saw that the two of them were a little interesting, so I didn't have the courage to continue to be a third wheel. I took the initiative to retire after a long time.

Later, I heard from Dalin that when we first met, the girl didn't ask about the house and car, but about his emotional experience. On the whole, they had a good talk.

Their relationship is progressing rapidly. Every time they meet Dalin, they can feel that their feelings are slightly warmer than before.

Colleagues whose feelings are warming up gradually deepen their understanding of each other and their families.

Dalin is a straightforward person. To put it mildly, people with this temper are fierce, thoughtless and straightforward.

After he thought Xiaolan was good, he turned his little money upside down.

There are three demolition houses in the urban area, a scooter with hundreds of thousands, parents and employees, and all kinds of insurance are complete.

Dalin's mother has retired with a monthly salary of four or five thousand yuan, and her father will reach retirement age in two or three years.

Parents' retirement benefits are not low in a fourth-tier city.

Xiaolan is a suburban girl who came to the city to make a living. Most suburban families in a small city like ours are not very rich.

Xiaolan's parents are not well educated. They farm at home during busy farming hours and go out to do odd jobs during slack farming hours, so their income is very limited.

But there are three children at home.

Xiaolan is the boss, and there are two younger brothers of similar age behind him.

At the moment when the bride price rises, the marriage of Xiaolan's two younger brothers who barely finished high school has become a long-standing problem.

Relatively speaking, the life of girls who work hard in cities is much better.

Inevitably, some parents who prefer sons to daughters will put their thoughts on their daughters.

No matter whether she is embarrassed or not, Xiaolan always leaves some money for her parents to supplement her family every month. Over time, her parents got used to Xiaolan setting a date to give money. Sometimes, it's late, and her parents will call home and ask for it.

This situation was known two months after Dalin and Xiaolan talked about friends, because once they went home for a date, they happened to meet Xiaolan's parents who came to the city to "visit" their daughter.

As a prospective son-in-law, the next day, Lin invited Xiaolan's parents to eat a newly opened Mongolian dish, took two old people to the shopping center and bought a suit for them.

Dalin and Xiaolan's parents met soon after the blind date. This is the second time they met.

Compared with the first meeting and the second meeting, Xiaolan's parents are a little rude, and they are not soft in choosing clothes. Two people who often wander in the fields chose two expensive suits and dresses.

And Dalin has never seen two people wearing these two sets of clothes, even the day he married Xiaolan is no exception.

Before leaving, the prospective mother-in-law said to Xiaolan in front of Dalin: "Daughter, there is no money to buy fertilizer at home. Has this month's salary not been paid yet? "

Xiaolan seems ready. As soon as her mother opened her mouth, she took out a whole two thousand dollars from her purse and handed it to her.

My parents left with new clothes and money.

Dalin opened two stores, one dealing in outdoor products and the other specializing in western-style cakes.

The business of outdoor goods store was bleak, and it broke even after one year, but because it was his interest, he has been struggling to maintain it; Because of its unique taste and good business, western pastry shops can also record a net profit of more than100000 a year.

For Dalin, 2,000 yuan is not much, but there is nothing to say.

Dalin asked Xiaolan if she should give money to her parents every month, and Xiaolan replied that she should.

Dalin also asked for it after marriage. Xiaolan mumbled something, saying that the parents were old and the two younger brothers had nothing to gain. In the future, their parents will still have to support them, so it is natural to give them alimony.

Dalin was silent for a while. He calculated in his mind that 25,000 yuan a year is not too much, so he said it is right to be filial to his parents. After marriage, we will share this 2000 yuan every month.

Xiaolan said "thank you" to Dalin with a peach blossom on her face.

Dalin has always told me that Xiaolan is a measured girl who knows how to advance and retreat, because in the process of getting along with each other at ordinary times, she never asks for anything beyond her ability.

They have been together for more than half a year, but because of Dalin's lively personality, they haven't thought about getting married for some time. He is in no hurry.

Accurately speaking, the girl's family was very anxious and urged many marriages.

Dalin asked Xiaolan for advice. Xiaolan said Dalin should make her own decision.

Dalin went back to ask her parents for advice, and their parents said, You are a big girl, and it is rare that this girl looks good. Let's go

So the two families began to contact.

This connection is full of contradictions.

Dalin's parents feel that their children's feelings can develop freely, and it's time to get married. According to local customs, their family is prepared to "get married without moving", even if they get married at home, it will end.

However, Xiaolan's parents disagreed and tactfully said that there was less money.

According to the local market, a man needs to prepare a house to marry a wife, at least a town car, at least about100000 yuan. You also need to book necklaces, gold rings and bracelets for the woman, plus a bride price of 50 thousand yuan.

This sentence was accepted by Dalin's family and has been prepared for his son.

But Xiaolan's parents think that they are only children, and their looks are not bad, as beautiful as flowers and jade. It is not cost-effective to get married according to the general market.

They offered a sky-high price of 200 thousand bride price.

This is unacceptable to Dalin and his parents. Although his family can get the money, getting it and taking it are two different things.

Because of this incident, the two families were once very stiff.

During that time, Dalin was the most frequent time to hang out with me after talking with Xiaolan.

Then one day he told me that he was getting married.

He said: "Fortunately, with Xiaolan mediating in the middle, her parents were willing to let go and promised to let us do things only by giving us100000 bride price."

On the wedding day, Dalin got up early, and got up early to empty the clothes to be worn that day.

After friends, bands and motorcades arrived, the motorcade marched to the future parents-in-law's house.

Everything is going well in my parents-in-law's house. After I get my wife back, I will hold a wedding in my hotel.

The host on this side of the box said the opening remarks, and Xiaolan in a dress on the other side of the box suddenly put forward another condition.

She said that her parents said that they would ask Dalin's family to transfer another 200,000 yuan to them before the wedding, otherwise she would not be allowed to get married smoothly, and even if she got married, her life would not be easy.

Dalin looked very angry and asked her what was going on. Xiaolan said that the two younger brothers in the family are old and their parents have no skills. So far, they haven't given them a brick or a tile. When two younger brothers marry a daughter-in-law, they all point to her marriage.

Dalin was furious, and this scene was seen by his parents not far away, so he went forward to ask about the situation.

Xiaolan frowned and didn't speak. Dalin even said and scolded, which made Dalin's parents almost angry.

Dalin's mother is a violent temper. She was about to get angry on the spot, but she was suppressed by Dalin's father.

He asked Dalin, "Son, what are you going to do about this? After all, you will live with her in the future and you will spend more time dealing with their family affairs in the future. You have to make up your mind. "

When has Dalin been hugged so tightly? He tore off his red coat and said to Xiaolan, "Today's marriage is not over yet. You have to spit out everything you eat at home, or we'll see!"

He took the host's microphone and was not afraid of losing face. He introduced the starting price of Xiaolan's family to the guests under the stage in detail.

The crowd cheered.

Xiaolan's farewell party looked awkward and was unceremoniously driven out of the auditorium by Dalin's relatives and friends.

Dalin lost face, and his mood was naturally not much better! This is the scene when I called.

I asked him, what about the 10 million bride price and jewelry?

Dalin said savagely that he must come back. If they dare to cheat, I will sue him!

Bridal gifts have existed since ancient times, but they are generally accompanied by the market. After all, there are still a few people who use their daughters' marriages to collect money and extort money.

Existence is reasonable, and some folk customs have their own reasons, but while respecting folk customs, we should also distinguish right from wrong and not blindly follow them.

Everything must be measured, and some bottom lines must be kept. Once you cross the border to meet you, most of them are bad results.

Just like Dalin and Xiaolan, if Xiaolan and her parents don't know how to advance and retreat, maybe Dalin will lend a helping hand to the two brothers-in-law after marriage, and the current wild price will lead to a dead egg.

Although Dalin has no face, I am afraid it is not so glorious for Xiaolan's family.

Sometimes excessive calculation will only make the way narrower and narrower, keep a long-term vision, and also leave a way out for yourself.