What is lovelorn syndrome?

The lovelorn said, "Love is a beautiful thing, but it is the most difficult thing to tolerate. So, if you can't win a good impression, the best and smartest way is to pretend it doesn't exist, and when it doesn't happen, try to get rid of it, even if you don't want to, because you have no choice!

Why is the sun still shining? Why are the waves still beating against the coast? Don't they know that the end of the world has come? This well-known old western song "The End of the World" vividly depicts the sad gray world in the eyes of lovelorn people.

Lovelorn, like an hourglass, tears and heartache are a trickle. Every time you miss it, it will trigger a burst-you will involuntarily go to the old place of dating and find a familiar figure; Similar figures in the street will make you feel scared; At the mention of his or her name, your heart can't help cramping. Facing the anxious face in the mirror, the muscles in the corners of the mouth have long forgotten the feeling of laughing. You are caught in the quicksand of sadness, inferiority and hatred, but you don't know how to break free.

The following three primary lovelorn therapies have been proved by scientific clinical experiments to be effective for ordinary lovelorn people.

Lovelorn therapy 1: stimulation therapy-reducing sensitivity

In the early days of lovelorn love, you were haunted by the past. Deliberate pressure can only make you forget for a while, but the next day you open your eyes again. Don't think. Can you really not think? If you want to forget, can you really forget! The human mind is the most rebellious thing. The more I force myself not to think, the more I can't help thinking. I hope to forget, but I can't forget. Unless you have practiced "inner silence", according to psychological research, temporarily suppressing emotions and thoughts will only make the next wave of emotions more painful.

Therefore, this therapy does not encourage depression. On the contrary, it advocates "fight poison with poison", let tears flow freely, let grief run out, let thoughts and sadness erupt to the fullest, and let people touch things or situations that are easy to touch emotions until they are exhausted and paralyzed. When you feel that there is nothing to think about, sadness has been repeated for hundreds of times, and you will be numb enough to hurt your feelings.

This kind of "stress-intensive therapy" aims to completely expel the inner pain from the country through external rituals, and gradually help you achieve the state of "not being sad" and "not being attacked by various drugs".

Lovelorn therapy II: the method of strengthening crime-thinking about each other's bad.

Love is blind. Lovelorn, keep your eyes open and wake up. Open the criminal diary in Endless Love, think about his (her) evil words and deeds and impetuousness, and brainwash him/her repeatedly, so that he/she hates each other more and more until he/she gnashes her teeth and loses her appetite. (Although the reason for breaking up may be yourself) If this is not enough, you can find some friends who don't like you or are loyal to you and have a "struggle meeting" together. Everyone takes turns criticizing that person, calling him (her) a heinous villain and a big bastard, and letting you vent your grievances.

The best effect of this method is to help you find out that the other person is such an unbearable person while venting your resentment and anger, pick up your nostalgia and completely throw away your worries and reluctance.

Lovelorn therapy 3: comparative therapy-compare who is the worst.

Everyone who cries feels that he is the most unfortunate. Believe me, you will never be lucky enough to be the "most unfortunate" person. I am miserable, and people are miserable, even though you are miserable, there must be someone worse off than you. Find some more tragic cases than you, to smooth out the feelings of injustice and misfortune. Of course, if you think of the disaster video in the Lost Love City again, it will prove once again that you are really a prophet and wise! Hungry people in Ethiopia, beggars in the streets, people worse off than you, why commit suicide?

For the first lovelorn, these three therapies are mostly irrelevant to you. Looks like you'll have to be sent to the intensive care unit. Please see the advanced lovelorn therapy below.

Why is fate always arranged like this: affectionate people are always doomed to be mercilessly hurt. Even if you know this, you can't be affectionate, just as a heartless person can never be affectionate.

Lovelorn, in fact, can be said to be a mental illness, because it not only confuses people's thinking and behavior, but also teaches people to be exhausted; Lovelorn is also a net woven by loneliness, which traps sadness and despair. People in the net often get deeper and deeper and more confused.

The three lovelorn therapies recommended above are suitable for lovelorn patients with mild illness. If you have entered a critical period, the following four special treatments for lovelorn love will definitely bring you back to life.

Lovelorn therapy IV: thinking interruption method-diverting attention

This method is just the opposite of "stimulation therapy", but they can be used together, especially this method, which can also be used to save the excessively decadent mood at the end of lovelorn.

In the early days of lovelorn love, you were addicted to the idea of missing each other. After crazy thinking, you were tired of sadness and exhausted your thoughts. After several months, if you still can't get rid of emotions, nightmares and lovelorn pain, it proves that you need this therapy to pour cold water on overheated thoughts.

Find a box and put everything that causes sadness or memories in this "Pandora's Sadness Box" to avoid seeing things "in heat". Once you realize that you are addicted to the past again, you should immediately do sports, sing military songs, even shout once or twice, pat the table a few times, or play some inspiring songs to curb or cut off this trend of thought. This is a commonly used "thinking interruption method" in psychiatry, which is quite effective in dealing with psychological diseases such as lovelorn.

Lovelorn therapy V: Situational distance method

Farewell! Maybe it's not just some things that cause sadness, but some places.

In your "love cabin", there is still that person's clever smile everywhere, which has become a "sad post" for you to walk in the street. Some familiar smells or the small shop you dated with him (her) will touch your deepest heartstrings. No matter how reluctant you are, you must choose to change, change your house, move to a new home, or travel and run around the earth several times to avoid these sad situations as much as possible, so that your sad mood can be fully breathed and expressed. Otherwise, being autistic in the space with too much memory will only make you more stubborn.

Look at the world, broaden your horizons and mind, and you will feel that your temporary love is very stupid and insignificant compared with it. If you can't afford to travel or move, you can also repaint the house, change the furniture and erase the traces of your memory.

In this way, by changing the environment, give yourself a "psychological cleaning" and start over.

Lovelorn therapy six: rain and dew soaking method-sharing weal and woe.

Losing love is a great opportunity for you to "frame" your friends. Announce to your best friend: "I am lovelorn!" " "In the following months, it entered the" martial law period ".

They and their lovers are forbidden to appear in front of you, and those who commit accessory crimes are blacklisted for entry and exit management. Get friends' understanding first, and you will find that most true friends will lend you a helping hand without hesitation. These friendships are like trying to refute your disappointment with human nature because of lovelorn love.

Strangely enough, after the tragedy is shared by the rain and dew, the pain will really be alleviated. Don't worry that your friends will turn against you because of your willfulness. Who will be angry with a psycho? Besides, who told them to make friends carelessly? Knowing you is their life's fault. Tell them to accept their fate!

Lovelorn therapy VII: confidence-building method-self-hypnosis

To treat the inferiority and self-pity symptoms of lovelorn, we should start with the appearance, thoroughly wash our hearts (mood) and turn over a new leaf (face). Indulge yourself in buying several sets of luxurious clothes, try to wear bright and colorful clothes to make yourself feel happy, even if it's just for yourself, order a glamorous one. Cheer yourself up in the mirror every day: "Look how handsome you are. It's really unlucky that he (she) doesn't want you! " Or, the same classmate who studied facial cleanser advertising: "I really like my face."

The night is long and sleepless is the loneliest and most sleepless night. At this time, drinking, taking sleeping pills or muscle relaxants are not the fundamental solution. The best countermeasure is to keep yourself busy during the day. A great Japanese writer, Ryunosuke Akutagawa, once said, "What can free us from love is not so much the reason as the busyness." Don't lie in bed with your eyes open, try to make yourself too tired to open your eyes, and then "crawl" into bed.

When you get up in the morning, it is the weakest moment of psychological defense. Remember to lecture yourself once: "It's not easy for you to live one more day." Pick it up, shout three hooray, and cheer for yourself. Don't think about the future for a while. In the days of lovelorn love, everyday life requires considerable ability. So, every day, praise yourself: "It's not that serious. Yesterday passed, and today is no problem. " You will find that it is getting better every day.

In addition, constantly praise yourself, write your own advantages as "posters", and pay tribute several times in the morning and evening, and you will find: "I am really, really good." Or when you have a good performance, give your friend a hug of affirmation and praise.

Losing love has hit your confidence. Now you have to do everything you can to restore your lost confidence and revive the past male (female) style. Remember to love yourself and feel sorry for yourself. Since he (she) doesn't love you, you should love yourself more and "handle" what the other person should love you. Even if you are lonely occasionally, convince yourself that a person's life is not too bad! At least, you don't have to accommodate each other's likes and dislikes, and you don't have to worry about each other's emotions.