A complete collection of affirming yourself, changing yourself, and surpassing yourself

A person can create a true self through self-affirmation. Believe in yourself fully. The kind of person you think you are will be the way you behave. The two are consistent. You might as well tell yourself often: I am the best! I am the best! When you repeatedly imagine yourself as the most confident in your mind, you will find that you become really confident, and your behavior will also change. Act in harmony with your thoughts.

The most important thing is to believe in yourself

It doesn’t matter whether you are a genius or not, the key is that you have to believe that you are a genius; it doesn’t matter whether you are a successful person or not, the key is that you have to believe that you will one day will make a difference.

A person may be born in a humble background, may have a poor family, may have little knowledge, may be unattractive, may encounter difficulties, may lose the direction of life, but there is one thing that you must not lack, and that is self-confidence.

We are lucky enough to be in this world because of the blessings of nature. Nature created each person with unique qualities. In life, no one's genes will be exactly the same as yours, and no one's personality will be exactly the same as yours. Everyone interacts with and affects others in their own unique way. You have the right to live in this world, and your role in this world cannot be replaced by anyone else. Therefore, you should believe in yourself.

Confidence is an invisible force that supports human life. It helps you defeat yourself and create miracles. It nourishes all aspects of people's lives, not only career, but love is no exception.

Recalling the love between the handsome Jack and the beautiful Rose in the world-famous movie "Titanic" may give you some experience and insights.

Jack, who has nothing, falls in love with a wealthy man’s fiancée, Ruth. Jack has no inferiority complex in the face of wealth and status. At that dinner, Ruth's mother deliberately sarcastically asked because she looked down on Jack, "How does it feel like in third class?"

"That's great, there are no mice!" Jack proudly said explain.

"Do you think it's interesting to live a wandering, rootless life like yours?"

"It's great. Although I have nothing, I can breathe free air and enjoy the bright sunshine. Sunshine, charming scenery, and listening to the music of nature. Two days ago, I spent the night in a bridge. Today, I actually had dinner with the richest people in the world on the luxurious Titanic. Life is like this. It’s so wonderful. Life is given by God, and I don’t want to waste it.”

Jack’s infinite confidence in life finally won Ruth’s heart. Although this love was short-lived, it became eternal in the shipwreck.

However, although we all know that self-confidence plays a decisive role in a person's success, more often than not, it is difficult for us to stick to our own opinions. We always start to doubt ourselves after others deny ourselves, until we deny ourselves. For example: You decide to do something today, and someone tells you that it’s not easy to do, it’s too difficult. Maybe you will give up right away without even having the courage to try. Another example is that you chose a girlfriend, but because of your parents’ objections, you decided to give up and find a new one. In this way, we are always hesitant to decide what we can do.

There are five hundred lunatics in a certain lunatic asylum. These five hundred lunatics are devoted to doing what they want to do. They all think that they are normal and others are also normal. However, one day, a normal person came to the lunatic asylum. Five hundred lunatics said in unison: There is a lunatic. That normal person could still firmly believe that he was a normal person at first, but as time went by, he began to doubt whether he was a normal person after all. After some time, this normal person finally considered himself a "normal person" completely, and there were also 501 lunatics in the lunatic asylum.

If we begin to doubt ourselves amidst the numerous negative voices and thus stagnate, then failure is inevitable. When this failure is mistaken by us as evidence of our own incompetence, our inferiority complex will be aggravated, and this negative thought will bring us a steady stream of negative effects. On the contrary, if we keep telling ourselves in our hearts: I can do it, I will do it. One day, even a small success we achieve will double our self-confidence. When we strive with greater confidence, we will inevitably achieve greater achievements.

The power of self-confidence

Success master Napoleon Hill once quoted from a poem:

If you think you have been defeated ,

Then you are defeated;

If you think you are not defeated,

Then you are not defeated.

If you imagine winning but don’t think you can do it,

then you will definitely not win;

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Then you have failed.

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For us humans, there are generally two forces in our hearts. One force makes us feel that we are born to be great men; the other force makes us feel that we are born to be great men. We are constantly reminded that “you can’t do it”. The struggle between such a pair of contradictory internal forces will become more intense when we encounter difficulties and failures. The biggest enemy of any of us is self-doubt and fear of failure. They often hold us back, preventing us from trying, or beating us up when we fail; they drain our energy so that we can only use a fraction of our true abilities.

Many times, during our journey, we will feel that everything is over, like life has come to an end, like the music of life has disappeared from our lives. But the music is still in our hearts. No matter when, no matter where we are, no matter what our circumstances, no matter how unfortunate our experiences, the music of life is always there. It is within our hearts, and as long as we listen carefully, we will discover its beauty. Washington Irving said: "People with shallow ideas will become timid and timid because of the misfortune of life, while people with great ideas will only cheer up." We must always move forward on the road to success. , it is crucial to always believe in your own abilities.

Of course, you are not required to like facing difficulties and misfortunes, but smart people regard them as opportunities for growth. Confident people welcome this struggle because they know it is the best way to develop character. Their understanding of these difficulties helps build courage and magnanimity. If we don't practice and live like a "bed of roses", we will become children who will never grow up. When you encounter difficulties, that is when your success is tested. Confidence is the key to overcoming trials.

In fact, the power of self-confidence cannot be expressed clearly in words. As we grow up, believing in ourselves is always with us. Before we take the first step, we believe we can walk; before we speak the first word, we believe we can speak. Because we believe first, we will accomplish it. On the contrary, if we don't believe it at all, then we won't take action, and many opportunities will slip away quietly like this.

The key to self-confidence is self-discipline. Self-confidence enables us to meet any challenge intellectually and physically, but that can only be achieved when we have complete control over ourselves. Each of us should overcome self-doubt and maximize our potential. We can’t wait for our uncertain self to give us permission to act, we can go ahead and do it.

Get rid of the inferiority complex that surrounds your heart

Each of us has inferiority complex to some extent. Inferiority is not terrible. What is terrible is that we are immersed in inferiority and lose the ability to pursue success. courage.

Once upon a time there was a man in the United States who was so ugly that people on the street would turn around and take a second look at him. He never groomed himself and never cared about his clothes until his death. Narrow black trousers, an umbrella-like top, and a top hat with a high top and narrow brim seemed to deliberately accentuate his lanky figure. His walking posture was ugly and his hands were dangling. He was born in a small place. Although he later held a high position, his behavior remained the same until his death. He still opened doors without wearing a coat, went to the opera house without gloves, and always told inappropriate jokes. He suddenly became melancholy in public and became silent. No matter where he was - in court, in the pulpit, in Congress, on the farm, or even in his own home - he seemed out of place. Not only did he come from a poor and humble background, but he also had a humiliating life experience. His mother was an illegitimate child. He was very sensitive to these shortcomings throughout his life. No one was born lower than him, but no one rose higher. He later became the president of the United States. This man was Lincoln.

If a person has so many weaknesses and does not overcome them, can he still achieve achievements like Lincoln? In fact, Lincoln did not use every strength to compensate for every shortcoming to compensate. Instead, he used his great wisdom and sentiment to put himself above all his shortcomings and place himself in a higher realm. Only in one aspect is to compensate for one's own shortcomings through education.

He overcame early obstacles by working hard on himself. He was very ignorant. Before he was 20 years old, he listened to pastors preaching and they all said that the earth was flat. He read in front of candlelight, lamplight, and firelight, reading until his eyes sunk deeper and deeper into his sockets. He always felt frustrated when he saw that knowledge was limitless and his own knowledge was limited. When he filled out his resume as a member of Congress, under the education item, he actually wrote: "With shortcomings."

It can be seen that Lincoln's life was not immersed in inferiority, but a comprehensive compensation for everything he lacked. He does not seek fame, fortune, status, or a happy marriage, but concentrates his efforts to achieve higher goals in his heart. He is eager to dedicate all the advantages of his unique thoughts and noble personality to benefit mankind.

Many psychologists believe that inferiority complex is an emotional experience of feeling ashamed of oneself due to excessive self-denial. Its main manifestations include low evaluation of one's own abilities, knowledge, quality and other factors; fragile psychological endurance and unable to withstand strong stimulation; cautious, sentimental, often suspicious; timid behavior, hesitant behavior, etc. Inferiority mentality can occur in people of any age and in all kinds of people. For example, those with mediocre political integrity and talents, but whose life has not yet shown its brilliance and splendor, are often prone to sighing after seeing through the world of mortals and feeling helpless that the flowers will fade away and the spring will pass away. Pessimism and disappointment have become the main theme of life; after hard work, you have achieved results in your work and created brilliance in your career, but you are always worried that your glory will no longer be there, and it is easy to lament that your future is bleak and everything is in vain; as you grow older, your youth will never go away. Looking back, it is often easy to lament the ruthlessness of the years and the helplessness of the red sun turning to the west... This inferiority complex is a heavy mental shackle that suppresses the self, and is a negative and bad state of mind. It wears away people's will, softens people's beliefs, dilutes people's pursuits, dulls people's energy, and shrinks from moving forward. It starts with self-doubt and self-denial and ends with self-burying and self-depression, making people fall into the abyss of pessimism and sadness. It is really harmful to extricate yourself.

Inferiority is a negative self-evaluation or self-awareness. Inferiority is a negative emotion in which an individual has a low evaluation of his own abilities and qualities. The feeling of inferiority arises not from differences in understanding, but from differences in feeling. The root cause is that people do not like to measure themselves with realistic standards or measures, but believe or assume that they should reach a certain standard or measure. Such as "I should be like this", "I should be like someone", etc. Most of these pursuits are divorced from reality and will only breed more troubles and low self-esteem, making oneself more depressed and self-blame. Inferiority is the enemy of success in life. Since ancient times, how many people have been deeply troubled by low self-esteem, and how many people have struggled to find ways to overcome low self-esteem.

Strong people are not born, and strong people are not without weakness. The reason why a strong person becomes strong is that he is good at overcoming his own weakness. When Pele, the football king of the generation, first arrived at the most famous Santos football team in Brazil, he was afraid that the big stars would look down on him, so he was so nervous that he stayed up all night. He was a leader on the court, but he doubted himself and feared others for no reason. Later, he managed to forget himself on the court, focus on playing football, and maintain a calm mentality. Since then, he has scored more than 1,000 goals with an unstoppable momentum. The process of overcoming inferiority complex by football king Pele tells us: Don’t doubt yourself or belittle yourself. As long as you move forward bravely and take action, you will definitely achieve success.

The question now is: Suppose you have one or two inferiority complexes and want to take advantage of them and turn them into strengths. Can you do it? Of course, it's not easy. But it can’t be done? Not really. The lives of several great men are a history of struggle, showing how possible it is to achieve success through compensation. If you read the biographies of Darwin, Keats, Kant, Byron, Bacon, and Aristotle, you will understand that their characters and lives were all formed by personal flaws. Like Alexander, Napoleon, and Nelson, they were born with short stature, so they aspired to achieve brilliant military achievements; like Socrates and Voltaire, they were ashamed of their ugliness, so they worked hard in their thinking to shine. .

The only obstacle is not that we cannot change ourselves, nor is it difficult to change, but that we do not want to change.

As long as other people or other things change, you will see how well we adjust ourselves.

Now is the time to start. Everyone has times of inferiority, but we cannot let inferiority affect our lives. We can live a better life. We should not let our inferiority complex cause trouble and embarrass ourselves. We should make full use of the original function of our inferiority complex like successful and happy people. Although we are unsure at first, we will find that we are no longer driven by it, but are using it to make our lives more exciting and richer.

Have confidence in yourself, and others will have confidence in you

In July 1900, a psychiatrist named Lindemann sailed into the The rough Atlantic Ocean. He is conducting a psychological experiment that has never been done before in history, and the price he is prepared to pay is his own life.

Dr. Lindemann believes that as long as a person has confidence in himself, he can maintain mental and physical health. At that time, the whole country of Germany was watching the tragic adventure of crossing the Atlantic in a single boat. More than a hundred warriors have successively crossed the Atlantic Ocean by boat, but all failed and no one survived. Dr. Lindemann believes that these victims were not physically defeated in the first place, but mainly died of mental breakdown, fear and despair. In order to verify his point of view, he conducted the experiment himself despite the objections of his relatives and friends.

During the voyage, Dr. Lindemann encountered unimaginable difficulties and nearly died many times. He even had hallucinations before his eyes, and his sense of movement was numb. Sometimes he was really desperate. But as soon as this thought arose, he immediately blamed himself loudly: "Coward, do you want to repeat the same mistakes and be buried here? No, I will definitely succeed!" The hope of life supported Lindemann, and finally he succeeded. When looking back on his experience of success, he said: "I believe from the bottom of my heart that I will succeed. This belief has become one with myself in the midst of difficulties, and it has filled every cell in my body."

If a person is not disappointed in himself, his spirit will never break down.

There was a girl who worked in a hotel and was responsible for registering tourists. At some point, the girl contracted a problem. Her hands trembled when she wrote in front of everyone. She was so trembling that she either wrote in confusion or simply couldn't write anymore. However, the degree to which a girl's hand trembles when writing depends on the person. When she meets someone with a higher education level than her, such as a college student or a graduate student, her hand will shake especially violently when she has a sense of inferiority; The level is not as good as hers (the girl graduated from high school), but she has gained "confidence", and now she can write much more easily.

In order to overcome negative and negative attitudes, we should try to adopt a positive and affirmative attitude. If you think you can't do it and ignore the things around you, the situation will gradually become what you think. When we lack self-confidence, we should encourage ourselves.

It is said that when Napoleon personally leads the army into battle, the combat effectiveness of the same army will be doubled. It turns out that the combat effectiveness of an army is largely based on the soldiers' respect and confidence in their commander. If Napoleon, when leading his army across the Alps, had just sat and said, "This is too difficult." There is no doubt that Napoleon's army would never have crossed that mountain. Napoleon's confidence and strength increased the combat effectiveness of every soldier he commanded. Therefore, no matter what you do, unwavering self-confidence is the necessary and most important factor to achieve success.

Once, a soldier was riding fast to deliver a message to Napoleon. Because the horse ran too fast, it fell sharply before reaching its destination, and the horse died. After receiving the letter, Napoleon immediately wrote a reply and gave it to the soldier. He ordered the soldier to ride on his horse and send the reply away as soon as possible.

When the soldier saw that the strong horse was so ornately decorated, he said to Napoleon: "A gorgeous and strong horse is not worthy of a lowly soldier like me." Napoleon replied: "There is nothing in the world. , something that French soldiers do not deserve.”

There are people like this French soldier everywhere in life. They think that their status is too low, that they will not have the happiness that others have, and they do not deserve it. It is precisely because of this mentality that they often do not strive for progress and settle for mediocrity, and gradually they really do not deserve to enjoy things they will never have.

See yourself as a successful person

Your thoughts determine whether your mentality is positive or negative. Use a positive attitude to direct your thoughts, control your emotions, and thus control your destiny.

Seeing yourself as a successful person can help break the habits of self-doubt and self-defeat that a negative mindset can develop over a period of years in a certain personality. Another reason, just as important, is to help you change your world.

Now consider the case of Irvine Ben Cooper, one of the most respected judges in the United States. But this image is very different from Cooper's image of low self-esteem when he was young.

Irvine Ben Cooper is the most respected judge in the United States. He bravely overcame his low self-esteem in childhood to achieve success. Cooper grew up in a quasi-ghetto in St. Joseph, Missouri. His father was an immigrant who made a meager living as a tailor. In order to heat his home, Cooper often carried a coal bucket to the nearby railroad to pick up coal cores. Embarrassed by having to do this, Cooper often slipped in and out of back streets to avoid being seen by schoolchildren.

However, those children often saw him, and a group of children often ambushed Cooper on his way home from the railroad and attacked him for fun. They used to scatter his coal all over the streets so that he would come home in tears. At this time, Cooper was always living in a state of fear and inferiority.

One thing happened, the kind of event that always happens to break up a failed lifestyle. Cooper was inspired by a book he read and took positive actions in his life. The book is "Robert's Struggle" by Horatio Alger. In this book, Cooper reads the story of the struggles of a teenager like himself. The young man suffered great misfortune, but in the end he became a brave man. Cooper hopes for this kind of courage and strength.

Cooper read every Horatio book he could borrow. When he reads, he enters the role of the protagonist. He spent the winter sitting in the cold kitchen reading stories of bravery and success, unknowingly developing a positive mindset.

A few months after Cooper read Horatio's first book, he went to the railroad again to pick up coal cores. Not far away, he saw three figures running behind a house. His initial thought was to turn around and run away, but soon he remembered the brave spirit of the protagonist in the book that he admired, so he held the coal bucket in his hand. He held on tighter, striding forward as if he were a hero in a Horatio book.

A fierce battle broke out. The three boys rushed towards Cooper. Cooper threw away the iron bucket and waved his arms tenaciously to resist, which surprised the three bullying children. Cooper's right hand struck a child on the lips and nose, and his left hand struck the child in the stomach. The child turned and ran away, which also surprised Cooper. At the same time, two other children were punching and kicking him. Cooper managed to push one child away, knock the other down, kneed him, and struck him in the stomach and jaw in a frantic manner. There was now only one child left, and he was the leader, who suddenly struck Cooper on the head, and Cooper managed to regain his footing and drag him aside, where the two children stood and stared at each other for a moment. Suddenly, the leader retreated bit by bit and ran away. Cooper picked up the coal and threw it at the retreater, perhaps in a sign of righteous indignation.

Until then Cooper knew that his nose was bleeding and that his whole body had become black and blue from being punched and kicked. It's worth it! This was a momentous day in Cooper's life, as he overcame his fear.

Cooper is not much stronger than he was a year ago, and his attackers are not not as strong as before. The difference lies only in Cooper's own mentality. He has nothing to fear anymore, and he has decided that he will no longer be at the mercy of bullies. From that moment on, he was about to change his world.

The kid imagined an image of himself, and when he beat up the three bullies on the street, he was fighting not as a frightened, malnourished Cooper, but as a Bold and brave heroes are fighting.

Another particularly important success tip that can change your world is to see yourself as an image that will inspire you to make good decisions, such as a slogan, a picture, or anything that speaks to you. Meaningful symbol.

Like Cooper did, if you were asked to compare yourself to a successful person, who would you choose?

Confident people are closest to success

We don’t need to show our confidence to others all the time, and we show our hopes and worries all the time. Our reputation and how others view us will be closely related to our success. If others do not believe in us, if others think that we are incompetent and timid because we often show lack of self-confidence, negativity and weakness, then it will be impossible for us to gain the trust and support of others and achieve success as a result.

If we develop a habit of being assertive, people will think that we will be more likely to succeed than those who lack self-confidence or who come across as weak, incompetent, or timid. .

Almost everyone knows about Hilton, a high-end hotel chain with branches all over the world. But did you know that its founder, Hilton, the world’s hotel king, only had US$200 when he started his business. Then you may ask what made him achieve such great success, and the answer is only two words: "confidence."

When Hilton first started his business, he set his sights on the hotel industry. But he had almost no start-up capital, but his strong self-confidence gave him a premonition that he would succeed. So he lobbied with his confident words and deeds, hoping that bankers and venture capitalists would inject funds into his project. In the end, inspired by Hilton's strong self-confidence and the feasibility of his project, many financiers invested in it.

With funds as a foundation, the project was quickly launched. But halfway through the construction of the hotel, an investor became suspicious of Hilton because he believed the rumors and clamored to withdraw funds. Anyone with a little bit of financial knowledge knows that if someone suddenly withdraws their capital at this time, it is likely to cause an avalanche-like chain reaction. When the situation is not good, all investors may make such requests. Since a lot of money had been invested at that time, Hilton no longer had the ability to repay all the money. He would likely be sued if he became insolvent by then.

Faced with this sudden change, the confident Hilton remained calm and collected. He prepared a large amount of cash and checks in advance, then invited the investor who was clamoring to withdraw his capital, and asked him frankly: Do you want cash or checks? After seeing Hilton's drawer full of cash and checks, the visitor remained unmoved. Hilton said to him again: "When you leave, if you still insist on withdrawing your investment, then you can choose a cash check." Undoubtedly, Hilton's confident words played a certain role. The man stopped talking about returning the investment for a while, seeing that he had stabilized the other person's emotions. Then, Hilton pursued the victory, but did not directly refute him to make him take back his decision to withdraw the investment, but responded to him in a reasonable and reasonable manner. The analysis said: "Look, now that the project has been launched, if it proceeds according to the predetermined plan, you will definitely be able to get the return on investment you deserve. But if you announce the withdrawal of investment at this time, then not only will you not get the benefits, but also He will also have to pay compensation for breaking the contract, which will make the loss more than the gain." That person was eventually infected by Hilton's confidence and optimism, and decided to continue investing, and the construction of the hotel went smoothly, and Hilton's business began to prosper.

Confidence can infect the people around you and bring achievement and wealth. If you are a leader or initiator, your confidence will directly affect the confidence of your subordinates and followers. Especially at critical moments, you should show your confidence and calmness. If you yourself have lost confidence, others will be even more confused and at a loss.

In other words, self-confidence is almost as important as Thaksin. To make others believe in us, we ourselves must first show strong self-confidence and a winning spirit.

People who think of themselves with a confident mentality, people who live with a winner's mentality, people who walk proudly in the world with a conqueror's mentality, and those who lack self-confidence, grovel, and obey orders. Compared with those who live with a conqueror mentality, their life paths will be very different.

The world will favor people who are extremely confident and have a winning attitude. They always like people who give people confidence to win and always look forward to success.

It is that magical power of self-affirmation within us that is convincing and gives a vibrant image.

If your mentality cannot provide you with spiritual motivation, then it is impossible for you to leave a reputation as a confident and positive person in the world. Some people always wonder why they are so humble, so unworthy, and so insignificant in society. The reason is that they cannot think and act like confident people and conquerors. They do not have the mentality of a confident, victor or conqueror, and they always give the impression of being weak and powerless. You know, people with positive thoughts are attractive, people with negative thoughts are disgusting, and the winner always has the upper hand mentally.

There are also some people who tend to leave us with this impression, although they are not very sure of success. However, they can rely on their extraordinary self-confidence and positive attitude to perform exceptionally and win unexpectedly.

Cai Zhenhua, a Chinese table tennis player, seldom loses in competitions abroad and is respected as the "table tennis magician". Ordinarily, his skills are not the best, and there are many foreign opponents who are stronger than him. So where did he win? According to people who have watched him play, he always pumps his fists to encourage himself during the game. Whenever he serves, he will stamp his foot hard. When he hits a good shot, he will run around the court. Several laps. In his match against Swedish star Linde, he was already behind Linde with a score of 15 20, but when Linde served, Cai Zhenhua pointed at Linde's head and glared fiercely. Looking at him, his actions made Linde suddenly nervous. As a result, Linde lost to Cai Zhenhua 20 22 due to nervousness.

It turns out that he won because of his self-confidence. There is no doubt that his dogged confidence played a vital role in his eventual victory.

If we have an unparalleled self-confidence, if we show others a confident, brave and fearless image, then our career will surely achieve great success.

Affirm yourself. If we begin to doubt ourselves amidst the numerous negative voices and thus stagnate, failure is inevitable. When this failure is mistaken by us as evidence of our own incompetence, our inferiority complex will be aggravated, and this negative thought will bring us a steady stream of negative effects. On the contrary, if we keep telling ourselves in our hearts: I can do it, I will do it. One day, even a small success we achieve will double our self-confidence. When we strive with greater confidence, we will inevitably achieve greater achievements.