Develop good habits and send a message to everyone.

I got used to James clear on 20 15. This book has a deep influence on me, and I have formed one good habit after another, thus getting better and better. At the same time, it has a deep influence on a good friend of mine. 20 19 She read a hundred books from a person who doesn't like reading at all. The following is taken from our letter at the end of 20 18.

Dear t:

Two days ago, you emailed me and told me that you admired me for getting up early every day, keeping a diary, reading and exercising for three years. You find that I'm getting better and better ... and you like sleeping late and don't like reading and sports, can you form these good habits like me?

First of all, I want to ask you a question. What kind of person do you want to be?

Please answer this question seriously, because under normal circumstances, changing a bad habit or forming a good habit is challenging and requires great determination and perseverance. We know that character determines fate, and habit determines character. What kind of person you want to be, you will be urged to form what kind of habits from the inside out. So, please tell yourself or yourself what kind of person you want to be?

Just like me, I insist on getting up early, reading, exercising and keeping a diary, because I want to be what I like: love, happiness and peace. And through so many years, I have developed and adhered to some small habits, and I am gradually becoming what I want. As you often tell me, you like being with me more and more, because you always feel warm. ...

Start with how to form the habit of reading.

Step one: put the book in a place where you can see it everywhere.

If you want to develop the habit of reading, you should take action, buy books and put them everywhere (reading e-books is not recommended at first, but you like to brush D so much, for fear that you can't control it), such as on the bedside table, beside the pillow, beside the computer, beside the charger and even beside the toilet. In this way, I can remind you anytime and anywhere that you should develop the habit of reading. Did you read it today?

Of course, you can also write down the words "I want to see" and post them everywhere to remind yourself to read one page before going to bed, one page before turning on the computer and one page when the mobile phone is charging. ...

In short, you should make your goals visible everywhere!

Step 2: Connect reading with what you like.

Jews are the people who pay most attention to reading in the world. It is said that Jews will paint honey on the Bible and let the baby lick the honey on the book, so as to tell the children that the book is sweet and let the children develop the habit of reading.

Don't you like Wu Xzu? You can take out the postcard I sent you before, and you can use it as a bookmark. Every time you open a book, you can see your male god. Think about it. Isn't it wonderful? Do you have the motivation to open books every day?

Of course, you can also associate all the people, things or things you like with reading, so that you will find reading interesting.

Step 3: Set a small goal first: read a page every day.

I know you too well. Growing up, I was sleepy when I touched a book. Now I finally remember to read. Don't set a big goal at once to scare yourself. Like you, I can finish reading a book a day, set a small goal for myself first, and read a page a day so that you can finish reading it anytime and anywhere. Of course, if you want to read more, there is no limit, but one page a day is the bottom line.

Prepare a piece of paper, write the date in the first column, tick or cross in the second column according to the completion, write one page 1 in the third column, two pages 2, and so on. If it's not finished, make a big cross with a red pen and make it up the next day. I hope you remember, try not to let yourself fail to finish it twice in a row, so I will punish you: ignore you for a month!

Step 4: Complete and reward yourself.

I ask you to record your daily completion, so now let's reach an agreement. If you finish your reading goal for 10 days in a row, I'll treat you to a cup of your favorite coffee. If I watch it for 30 days in a row, I will accompany you to watch your favorite action movie; If you finish reading a book, I promise to go shopping with you once. what do you think? Your heart is beating.

Alternatively, you can set your own rewards. In short, you tell yourself that if you finish well, you will get some rewards, such as brushing a play after reading a book. Doing so can make the brain form a conditioned reflex, and reading will be rewarding. Over time, don't really give rewards, just think about it to stimulate your interest in reading. Remember Pavlov's dog? )

Remember, don't worry about the effect at first, keep doing it repeatedly, and suddenly one day you will find that you have formed this habit. And as long as you develop a good habit, you can develop many good habits. Believe me, you will love yourself!

Finally, I look forward to your experience report.

Reply after one month.

Dear Kang:

What kind of person I want to be

I've been thinking about this question you asked me for a long time, and now I'm telling you seriously: I feel that no matter what I've experienced, I can stick to being the best I can be. Instead of being like yourself now, you lose a love and brush the drama, and you are anxious every day in decadence.

I'm on the move.

I moved all the books you left me out and put them at home and in every possible place in the company. I also used the words "I want to study" as the screen protector of my mobile phone computer, and the slogan "Reading makes people progress" was plastered all over the house. I put the Goddess of God you gave me into the book and told myself to read one page every day.

Choose to stick to it after encountering difficulties.

I finished it well a few days ago, because the goal you set for me was really not difficult to accomplish, but one day the company team had a dinner and drank some wine, and I came back late, so I didn't watch it. The next day, I had another meeting. I came back exhausted and didn't want to move at all. When I was ready to sleep, I saw the slogan on the wall and touched the book by the pillow, remembering that you had better not finish reading it for two days in a row. Thinking of my better appearance, I quickly opened the book and read it. That night, I not only finished writing the content of the day, but also made up what I owed the day before and read a few more pages. Finally, I took a look at my male god, ticked the numbers, and when I lay down to sleep, I felt particularly fulfilled. I think I'm beginning to like reading, and I'm beginning to like myself.

Habits began to form.

In addition, I find it interesting to read books while drinking coffee. Later, I started reading books while listening to music. Later, lying down after work will also flip through books. Oh, when my little brother appeared downstairs in the canteen and other companies, I also took a book with me every day. As you said, I associate reading with what I like, and I really find that reading has changed.

Discover the benefits of good habits

Also, your coffee is free, movies are free, and shopping is free. You'd better send me some books. Besides, I know which book you told me about, which is James clear's Mastering Habits, which you put on my bedside table. Through reading, I understand why you always choose to participate in "various reading and writing training camps". You should add your habit of reading and writing.

By the way, I started to work out. Dance twice a day before dinner is arranged. I jumped 17 yesterday. I feel closer to you and your beautiful self.