The 45-year-old nanny confided: the employer is very satisfied with the paid companionship of the nanny, but where is my happiness?

I believe many of us will understand what a "nanny-style paid company" is. Once it appears and is launched, it has been satisfied and praised by more and more middle-aged and elderly employers. After all, employers only need to pay a certain fee to enjoy "high quality" nursing services, and with the general improvement of people's living standards, most employers are willing to spend this money.

We can't deny that this kind of "nanny-style paid company" can really bring different enjoyment and services to our employers, and our employers will feel satisfied and comfortable, but in this process, our nanny provided this kind of "nanny-style paid company" to her employers for her own reasons, which eventually led to a series of things such as family breakdown and marriage failure.

Ms. Liang, aged 45:

I am 45 years old. It turned out that I started my own small business and my husband worked at the construction site. Although our little life is not particularly rich, it is still very stable and happy. But later, my small business got worse every day, and my husband's health got worse and worse because of his manual labor all the year round, so that later, he just carried a little weight and couldn't stand up straight.

At this time, the eldest son is in college and the youngest daughter has just entered high school. Not counting, we still have four old people to take care of. All the burdens and pressures of life are on me alone. At this time, I have no other way to get the money. Later, I heard that dry nannies are easy to use and earn a lot of money, so I went to relevant training and officially became a nanny.

My employer is 65-year-old Uncle Sun, and his family is well-off. Unfortunately, his children are not with him all the year round, and his wife has died for several years. At first, I only cooked for him during the day, mopped the floor and cleaned him at ordinary times, and went back to my house to live with my husband at night. If you have something to do at ordinary times, you can also tell Uncle Sun, and then go about your own business.

In a blink of an eye, I have been waiting on Grandpa Sun for more than three months. Grandpa Sun only pays me 3000 yuan a month. Although I don't earn much money, I am still quite satisfied. One day at noon, I was mopping the floor. Grandpa Sun asked me if I would like to take care of him in the way of "nanny paid company". He can pay me 7500 yuan a month if I like. I didn't promise him in a hurry, just saying that I would think about it.

When I got home in the evening, I told my husband about it. My husband didn't agree. He went on to say, "You are a woman with a family. How can you stay with an old man for 24 hours and live in his house? If an outsider knows where my face is and how much money he gives you can't do it, you can be an ordinary nanny. "

But then I said to him, "Do you think I am willing to do this job? But if I don't do it, where will the tuition for two children come from and where will the money for taking care of four parents go? But don't worry, I will take care of him carefully and will never do anything wrong. " Later, my husband saw that my attitude was so firm that I had to reluctantly agree.

Later, I formally agreed to Uncle Sun's request, and also moved some simple luggage and some clothes to Uncle Sun's house. Although I promised Uncle Sun "nanny-style paid company", I always keep a certain distance from Uncle Sun in my normal life because I know I have a family.

The same man, Uncle Sun is also a person who pays special attention to principles and is particularly decent. He always treats me as a nanny, and he doesn't think that he spends 7500 yuan a month just to make me do something too much or out of line. He has never done this, and I have great respect for him. I always regard him as my elder.

But even so, my work attracted a burst of criticism from my neighbors and my husband. Once I had something to go home, and just walked into the gate of the community, I saw a group of people sitting around. I vaguely heard someone say something like "she is kept by an old man and has to pay a lot of money every month". Later, when they saw me, no one said anything. I could see it in their eyes.

That doesn't count. I just got home and didn't rest. My husband is angry with me inexplicably and provokes to quarrel with me everywhere. I'm not an idiot either. I know it must be an outsider's ear. He has no such condition. But later, no matter how I explained it to him, he wouldn't listen. In a fit of pique, I slammed the door.

One day, Uncle Sun asked me to accompany him to the supermarket, so I agreed to his request. When we walked through the seafood area, the underground was particularly slippery. Uncle Sun almost fell down. He subconsciously hugged me, so he didn't fall down. This was a normal thing, but that night, I received a phone call from my husband.

Originally, I didn't know who discovered this scene in the supermarket. Uncle Sun accidentally told my husband about it, but my husband was biased. At this time, no matter how I explained it, he wouldn't listen and insisted on divorcing me. Later, I really couldn't stand my husband's intrusion and divorced him. To this day, I don't understand where I am wrong.

Small and micro conclusions:

We can't deny that Ms. Liang's job as a "nanny paid company" is actually a normal job. Otherwise, it will not exist and develop like this all the time, and it will indeed enable many middle-aged and elderly employers to enjoy particularly satisfactory and comfortable services. There is no doubt about it.

However, due to the special nature of this job, it is easy to be misunderstood by some outsiders. Ms. Liang's unfortunate experience is the best proof and example. Maybe some of us will think that what Ms. Liang's husband did was all wet and should not divorce Ms. Liang, but there is no absolute right or wrong in many things in the world. Right or wrong depends on how we both understand and choose.

Therefore, it is particularly important to say that some of our women want to work in a "nanny-style paid company", and they first need the consent, understanding and tolerance of their families and husbands. If we women do this job to earn more money, but the family breaks up in the end, it's really a bit of a loss.