How can I make my self-control stronger?

Make plans for next week every weekend, and then the key is to make plans for the next day before going to bed every day. What to do during that time, the more specific the better. There is a problem that needs attention. At the beginning, don't plan too many things, set aside a little more time for yourself to play, so that when you finish what you set for the day, you feel really good. After your self-confidence is established, slowly increase the things you have to do every day. In fact, self-control is the ability of self-discipline. The quality of people's restraint ability can determine their psychological taste, health and intelligence.

Although people's self-control is innate, acquired influence, education and self-cultivation are more important. Self-control, like other abilities, should be cultivated early.

The cultivation of self-control can be carried out through four links: guidance, induction, practice and strengthening, which are inseparable and integrated.

First of all, dredge

The purpose of counseling is to avoid and eliminate the inducement of impulse and trouble caused by students' emotional out of control. This method is especially important for the following students.

(A) congenital low self-control ability

This kind of students' self-control is difficult to cultivate. Time-consuming and slow. Dredge method is:

A. Love melting method is to use the love of teachers and classmates to melt the hard "bumps" of these classmates. Teachers should care about their studies, their health and life, and their interpersonal relationships. We should talk with them more, ask more questions, and educate other students to get close to them, get to know them, study and play with them, so that they are not "hot" or less "hot".

B. Shift the target to vent, that is, when they lose their temper, the teacher skillfully shifts their sharpness to avoid their collision or injury. The teacher can comfort them first and then postpone.

C. Exercise to get rid of qi is to use exercise to release accumulated heat in the human body, consume excess energy, and play a good role in fitness and ambition. It is observed that people will be more calm within three days after experiencing a strong physical activity.

D. Diet choice, that is, choosing certain foods, such as cigarettes, wine and peppers, will make people's blood pressure rise, heart rate increase and excitement, so their self-control will also decrease, so it is best not to touch or touch less.

(II) Endocrine disorder type

There are many similarities and differences between tutoring such students and students with weak innate self-control, mainly as follows:

A. drug therapy or psychotherapy should be combined;

B. It is more important to show love to those students who have lost their loved ones, and we should comfort them more.

C. games or entertainment. If you are a primary school student, you can let them (better than the teacher) play hide-and-seek and the blind touch the elephant.

D to carry out adolescent health education and sex education, and do a good job of unity between boys and girls.

(3) Other types

1. Only child syndrome

This kind of students generally have the following characteristics: bossiness, willfulness, stubbornness, too strong self-esteem, too strong self-awareness, too confident, poor self-care ability, unable to bear hardships and so on.

To cultivate this kind of students' self-control, we must first combine family education and get family support. Therefore, we should visit more families and hold parent-teacher conferences. If possible, let students live on campus and lead a collective life, let students manage themselves and educate themselves; Secondly, we should educate them to set lofty goals as soon as possible and strive for them; The third is to carry out frustration training so that they can withstand difficulties and setbacks; The fourth is to carry out legal education and moral education.

2. Backing effect and its own superior radiation type

The back-up effect refers to that parents or other relatives of students become cadres or have honor or "golden gods", which makes students complacent and supercilious. Most of them have nothing to hide, don't accept the teacher's discipline, don't study hard, and get a little criticism, they will glare.

The education of this kind of students should first carry out legal and moral education; The second is to invite people with status and prestige to assist education; Third, eliminate their sense of superiority, and advise parents to limit their unreasonable demands and pay attention to their types of friends. In case they are criticized, parents should help them, not protect them.

The radiation of self-superiority is the idea that students are superior to others in appearance, posture, sound quality, intelligence and talent. They are self-righteous, supercilious, unwilling to listen to objections, jealous, and some are good at playing tricks on others to find fault with teachers.

The way to persuade is to make the best use of the situation, put more pressure on the burden and make more suggestions. Confucius' words and deeds, "Three people must have a teacher", "saints are impermanent" and "eager to learn and eager to ask questions" are all good teaching materials for such students. In short, we should encourage them to give full play to their advantages and use the right methods to strive for early success.

3. Competition syndrome

Reasonable competition can destroy people, but its side effects should also attract our attention. All kinds of competitions, competitions and exams at school, the ranking of usual exams and the pressure of entrance exams will make students feel different degrees of fear, which will lead to inner pressure, nervousness and irritability, and sometimes some students will feel lost.

The method of counseling is: pay attention to students' emotions before and after each competition and arrange rest reasonably. Comfort and enlighten those students with unsatisfactory grades in time; For those winners, they should be advised not to be too excited to ensure that students are psychologically relaxed and balanced.

In addition, the beautification, purification and greening of schools are also important aspects of counseling, which should be paid attention to.

Second, induction.

The purpose of induction is to let students know the function of self-control, abandon bad emotions and actively and consciously cultivate self-control.

(A) teachers set an example

Most students have the habit of imitating their teachers, so teachers should have elegant and generous manners, calm courage in the face of emergencies, and have an angry demeanor in case of emergencies, so that students can learn from each other and gradually cultivate self-control ability.

(B) to guide students with famous sayings

Famous sayings, aphorisms, aphorisms, proverbs, aphorisms, etc. A considerable part of them persuade people to cultivate their self-cultivation, which, if properly used, can become a signpost for students to pursue the improvement of their psychological quality. Teachers can write these famous aphorisms as slogans as school mottos or let students copy them down as mottoes, so as to refer to practice at any time.

(C) Infect students with stories

In the world, there are many stories about how to overcome rigidity with softness, how to endure disasters and how to take death with violence. Their functions and influences are subtle.

set a good example

All politicians and educators attach great importance to the role of role models, and workers engaged in psychological education also regard them as stimulants and cardiotonic agents. Teachers should be good at observing and understanding, take the tree with strong self-control among students as an example, so that other students can effectively hear and see, imitate their behaviors and thoughts, and at the same time, they can respond to students who take the tree as an example.

The method of induction is as described above. As long as the teacher can properly induce, students' interest will be aroused and practice will be much easier.

Third, practice.

The purpose of the exercise is to guide students to learn to be generous and keep a balance at all times. Methods of practicing self-control can be divided into direct and indirect.

(1) directly

1. Hold a debate. The content of the debate can be rational, routine and informative. The method is that teachers or class cadres ask questions for students to debate first, and those who make mistakes such as mouth-grabbing, rudeness, unreasonable troubles and satire can be deducted as appropriate, and those who don't speak will also be deducted;

2. Anger law. Teachers should pay attention to "gossiping" and "turning black and white" and see how students can correct their teachers. Teachers can measure the score of "Qi".

(2) Indirect method

There are many methods of indirect exercise, which have been mentioned in the section of persuasion, such as frustration training, hide-and-seek and sports, and of course there are many other methods.

No matter which practice method, the teacher should explain its meaning and method, and then grade it.

Fourth, strengthen

The purpose of reinforcement is to keep students' developing mood and form habits.

In order to strengthen students' self-control, we must strive to make students learn to guide themselves, educate themselves and educate them to understand their emotional cycle. Sometimes some criminal cases can be used as negative education to educate students.

Strengthening means can be through inspection, evaluation and calling on students to supervise each other. We should praise and reward those who are excellent, and patiently guide and educate those who are not good until they change.