Would you choose to use a mobile phone or a tablet to appease your child?

Recently, Malaysia has been fully opened, and many restaurants that were originally empty began to be crowded with people.

I don't know if you are aware of the phenomenon that many young parents are sitting at the same table with a bunch of babies. The first thing to do is to take out their mobile phones, put them on the baby's desk, and then turn on the video.

Another scene is even more exaggerated, that is, parents push strollers to go shopping, and older children drive strollers to play mobile phones and watch Youtube cartoons. It is observed that the ages of these babies range from less than 1 year to 6 years old.

I was also surprised to find that many Malaysian parents have comforted their children in this way. ! The first method is "I'll count to three …", and the second method is "open coconut melon or small shark". Is that you?

Any similarity is purely coincidental.

In another scene, many parents are dual-employed, and they will choose to let nannies or grandparents take care of their children. Most of them don't know what education to give their children, so as long as the children can listen, don't make noise, eat and sleep, and don't get hurt. Most of them will choose to watch TV with their children from morning till night, which is simple enough to achieve the purpose of "taking care of children".

Seriously, it's okay to watch it for a few days, but if you watch it for a year or so, or even watch it enter kindergarten from an early age, after the golden age of brain development, parents will worry about how their children's progress is worse than their peers, or how their children are nearsighted. Then what should I do?

I chose to write this article because I have seen too many examples in recent weeks. Some children have put on glasses at an early age, which is really pitiful.

Think about it, if the baby cries, will you just use your mobile phone to keep the baby quiet?

If you really want to do your own thing, and you choose to let your baby watch TV, watch mobile phone and watch iPad?

Do you feel sad when your baby cries? If you don't understand, you can go to Google to find out why the child is crying. In fact, there are only a few answers coming and going.

Yes, the baby is really quiet because of "something to do". You can also achieve the so-called "quiet" goal, temporarily let go of your hands and get the time freedom to satisfy me.

You may think you are smart enough to find a magic weapon to calm your child down, but in fact, you don't know that your baby is eating a lot of DHA now. Once this works, the baby will know how to control you, just like remote control.

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It is worth mentioning that research shows that 0 ~ 3 years old is the stage of rapid growth and development of brain nerves, at which time benign external stimulation can accelerate the connection of neurons. Premature exposure to electronic products will not only lead to language retardation, impaired concentration, obesity, myopia, poor self-regulation ability, but also other hazards.

The words, pictures and sounds of video or animation are all mixed together. Children don't need to think at all, but passively accept what is good and what is bad. In the long run, children will lose the ability to think and explore actively, destroy their concentration and limit the development of creativity, imagination and thinking ability. Being alone often can also cause obstacles to psychological development, such as fidgeting when not watching TV and poor control ability.

Experts suggest that electronic products should be used as little as possible under the age of 6, because that is the key period of visual development.

If you are a parent and really don't know what to give your child except electronic products, then you really have to think about it.

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0 ~ 3 years old is the golden age of children's brain development, and the brain in this period is in an abnormal "hunger" state. Basically, children's brains eat whatever adults give them.

Parents can play all kinds of small games, read picture books, sing, count, do puzzles, draw pictures, dress up as family wine, do housework together, and even go out for a walk.

If your starting point is to open your children's eyes through TV and video, you can take your children to forests, beaches, museums, farms, zoos, libraries, playgrounds and other places to get in touch with real things.

Although there are many educational videos on the market, I still don't recommend watching them for babies before the age of 2. And now many educational videos are mixed and poisonous. 2-3 years old may be given 20-30 minutes, provided that parents accompany them.

In fact, at the age of 0-3, when the brain is growing at a high speed, it is best to give all kinds of "stimuli", including the five senses.

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Children nowadays are very lucky. Maybe they never saw a real chicken until they graduated from middle school. Is this an exaggeration? This is a fact.

Parents should grasp every "chicken" meeting of education. Recently, children have been educated like chickens.

Vision: first know the chicken in the picture book, see the chicken in other photos or videos, and then see the real chicken on the farm. Teach children the difference between virtuality and reality.

Listening: How do chickens crow? We demonstrated "bok bok geh", and then the children heard the live version of "bok bok geh". Tell the children that chickens are called chickens in English and ayam in Malay.

Touch: You can point it out in the book, but don't touch the soft and silky deep memory of the real chicken on the spot.

Taste: Tell the child that this is chicken when eating. Then think of eggs, eggs are also stimulated by the "five senses."

Smell: Smell the smell of cooked chicken and live chicken.

Along the way, how do you view children's experience of a seemingly simple "chicken"? What is your memory? What do you remember? How do you feel? What are the basic cognition?

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When I went to the farm to see the real Ayam, I kept saying "Ayam...Ayam" forcefully from a child of 15 months.

Now we ask her, "How do chickens crow?" She said, "buck buck buck".

Then the rooster crowed in a very loud voice!

I am both excited and happy.

Such Ayam is vivid, concrete and meaningful. These memory points will come in handy when you meet something related to Ayam when you grow up.

The next morning, the child woke up to see his parents. The first sentence was "Ayam" instead of "father or mother", and then he said "Bok Bok Geh". At that moment, we burst into tears with laughter, but we know that this experience is definitely worth it!

One day a week later, I asked her, "How do chickens crow?"

She even said, "Corner!" I was very surprised. Then seize the opportunity to teach her the difference between a rooster and a hen.

After another week or so, one day we found her playing on the swing and humming. Listen carefully, there are bursts of birds singing nearby. She is imitating a bird! Wow, sister paper is really a talent.

As the old saying goes, parenting comes first. If adults don't know what to do, let alone children? It is difficult for a parent who loves to watch mobile phones to educate children who love reading. For novice parents, "parents" is a blank area, and parents who don't study are really terrible.

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I am a parent who seldom buys toys, because I think toys are everywhere, and they are usually made from local materials and recycled.

It is also educated with the "five senses" mentioned above. When I was about one year old, I used all kinds of fruits, bread, eggs and even ice to educate my five senses.

Recently, I used an onion to keep my child focused for half an hour. She studied onions carefully, touching, pulling, smelling, pinching, tearing, throwing, pressing, biting and listening. Then in 30 minutes, she repeats onions and onions at least 3-50 times.

This is the first time she heard onions and onions. For the next two days, continue to repeat onions and onions. Do you think it's worth learning the real thing like onions?

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Matters needing attention

? -parents must be around, encouraging and affirming, but don't interfere.

? -children can play whatever they want and give them their own experience. Parents just guide them.

? -Samples such as beans are not recommended, so as not to put them in nostrils, ears or mouth, and the consequences are unimaginable. I saw a child crying in the emergency room of the hospital just because a red bean was stuffed in his nose.

We are not perfect parents, but we are still studying hard and improving. It's up to you to watch mobile phone or TV. There is no right or wrong. I'm just sharing my educational ideas and experiences.

I think it's harmless to watch it for ten or twenty minutes a day, but our parents need to check it out.

In fact, you don't have to envy how all other people's children are angel babies. It seems that your own children are missing. In short, parents must raise themselves and set a good example. Children will develop according to their nature.

Children are curious about everything in the world, including seemingly insignificant garbage. Why limit them to mobile phones or videos? Doesn't that limit the development of children?

Adults can be addicted to mobile phones day and night. Do you think that children who have no self-control will not be addicted?

Dear, thank you for your efforts. Happy mother's day. ?

Note: The Malay name of chicken is Ayam, and the English name of Onion is Onion.