May I ask about the wedding customs of Jinjiang people?

1. Giving a gift

The first step of "giving a gift" is for the matchmaker to send the man's birth date to the woman, and the woman's birthday number to the man. After receiving the red invitation, Afterwards, you should ask a fortune teller to calculate whether the "birthdays" of both parties are consistent. If not, the marriage must be reconsidered.

2. Explore family traditions.

If the two meet successfully, the woman will usually go to the man’s home to “explore the family atmosphere”. On that day, usually more people will go to the groom's house that day, so that they can have a detailed understanding of the groom's family, and then listen to each other's opinions after returning home. If you are still worried, you can ask friends or relatives to find out. Let’s talk about the background of the man’s family and some situations of the young man.

3. Discuss the bride price, money for clothes and trousers, and send red envelopes.

If you feel that there is nothing wrong with the man after "exploring the family style", the matchmaker will play an important role again at this time, that is, negotiating the bride price and the money for clothes and trousers.

The bride price is generally about 3,888 yuan, and the price for clothes and trousers is generally about 10,000 yuan. If the bride price and money for clothes and trousers are almost the same, then the man will choose a day to go to the woman's family to collect red envelopes. Usually, he will first give part of the money to the woman's parents. In the local dialect, it is called "tying three belts". Girls have to use a small part of it to buy new clothes for their parents, brothers and sisters.

4. Find a date and send it

After the "Three Belts", the man will prepare to find a happy day according to the birth dates of both men and women. After determining which day, Then they send the red sticker of "Happy Day" and a small basket of sugar cakes to the woman's house. This is called "sending the day". After the woman knows the date, she will prepare the dowry, and the man will be busy inviting people and preparing Banquet etc.

5. Put the pallet on top and hold the wedding ceremony

The bride, accompanied by the groom, must also serve "black sugar tea" to her parents and immediate family members. Generally, the order in which tea is served is in order of elders and younger ones. Usually, father-in-law and mother-in-law will prepare a gift when serving tea.