Can't the son-in-law go to her ancestral grave?

There has been a son-in-law since ancient times, that is to say, although the son-in-law is not a son and has no blood relationship with himself, he is recognized as a partner of half a son and daughter in status. However, since ancient times, the water poured by married women has been circulated. After marriage, the daughter is an outsider and going home belongs to the guests. What is a guest's lover? Just a guest, actually.

Funeral culture, in fact, began to form in the Shang Dynasty, was basically complete in the Zhou Dynasty, and was basically finalized in the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. It has been circulated for thousands of years, and basically the etiquette has not changed much, even if there is basic etiquette. Speaking of funerals, I have to say that Five Blessingg represents a relationship between distance and distance. The son-in-law is actually a guest with a foreign surname, not in Five Blessingg.

But the daughter is a garment in Five Blessingg, and the son-in-law, as her daughter's companion, is naturally a half-garment relationship. Five Blessingg decided the etiquette of Dai Xiao, a horse. What was the position of the son-in-law in Dai Xiao's funeral? The son has to mourn for his parents for three years, which is the most expensive position, while the son-in-law is in March. In Dai Xiao, Five Blessingg, the son-in-law belongs to the lightest kind and belongs to friends, while the son-in-law is with friends.

This is the real situation in funeral culture and etiquette. Of course, it is not clear how many son-in-law can abide by this. In the funeral culture, the son-in-law is arranged among friends, dressed in filial piety, and his status is actually sidelined. Of course, status is higher than friends. The real reality is that behind children and daughter-in-law, they belong to outsiders. Although it was not explicitly stated, it was basically done.

At the funeral, especially at the wake, children should actually kneel on both sides of the mourning hall and wait for relatives and friends to come to mourn, while the son-in-law standing outside the mourning hall actually plays the role of receiving relatives and friends who come to mourn, and also represents another meaning. You are a foreign guest, not from your own family, because your family guards the mourning hall and foreign relatives watch the door, which represents the ranking of relationship status.

In fact, these are all manifestations of traditional culture. Nowadays, many people actually don't follow it at all. Times have changed a lot. The argument that the son-in-law does not enter the mourning hall has been blurred. In ancient times, it was the family who could wake in the mourning hall, which represented the recognition of your identity. What is received outside the door is an outsider, who is closer than other relatives and friends. Of course, if they are on-site sons-in-law, it will be different. In fact, the door-to-door son-in-law in some places may wake up.