Dad always asks me for money. What should I do?

Money is an unavoidable topic in our life, and so is family. But when money meets affection, parents reach out and ask their children for money. As children, how should we deal with the financial problems with our parents?

Recently, a netizen was caught in a dilemma between money and family. The netizen described his current situation with the title "What should I do if my family asks you for money in this tone". He said that he works in a first-tier city, but his salary is not high and he can't save money. He has transferred more than 10 thousand yuan to his parents during the Chinese New Year. However, now his father is still looking for an excuse to ask for money and then gamble. He thinks this kind of family relationship is abnormal, but he doesn't know how to deal with the economic problems with his family.

According to the chat records posted by netizens, when the father asked his son for money, he was cautious and scheming. He said "I'm sorry" and "thank you" after accepting the money under the guise of giving birth to a child, and said a lot of things, such as Happy May Day, pay attention to diet, don't eat spicy food and so on.

As can be seen from the specific chat records posted by this netizen, his relationship with his father is too different. It doesn't look like a normal father-son relationship at all, and it has no family tone at all, giving people a particularly strange feeling. At best, like a close relative who doesn't contact often.

For this netizen's distress, some people bluntly say that this is a legitimate pua, and it is acceptable if it is in need of help in life, but this netizen's father is gambling, and giving money is the same as losing at cards. The next time my father makes an excuse to ask for money, he says he has no money and learns to refuse, no matter who he is. The closer we get, the less we talk about money. You should be nice to him, he is your ATM. Too considerate, I won't keep asking you for it, not pua.

However, some people expressed strong opposition that as children, they should take the initiative to give money to their parents. He said, think about when we were at school, when we got married, when we were unable to earn money to support our families. Who gave us the money then? When our parents gave us money, did they talk about any terms? If we understand this, we will know that now we can make money and our parents need our support. What do we do? All virtues: filial piety comes first. People should know the basic gratitude. Parents usually don't spend much money. Thousands of dollars are given to them every Spring Festival, but every time parents don't want them, they always give them hard.

However, many parents actually only have the name of their parents, but they don't really assume the responsibility of their parents. Raising children is also about seeking rewards. Qinghe, a girl, empathizes with the experience of netizens and says that her parents are the same. When chatting with her, she hinted that she would buy things for money. Her parents haven't given her money since she graduated last year. Now she has changed her parents' mobile phones, and then she has to spend money on cosmetics during the holidays. Her parents pretend to care and ask for money. Qinghe was puzzled and claimed that she was the only child in the family. It was strange to say that the family conditions were not bad. Her parents think that the products I invest in should have a return, no matter whether I live or die, which makes her feel helpless.

In fact, human nature can't stand the test, especially in this impetuous society centered on money. Family ties gradually faded from the sacred aura in front of money.

So, how to deal with the money relationship between children and relatives? I think the first and most important thing is communication and understanding.

Money is the reward of hard work. Affection refers to the special feelings between relatives, who will love each other no matter what, with the emphasis on love words. It can be seen that money is a material return after paying, something that can be seen and touched, and family affection is an intangible spiritual level. There are two channels to get affection: one is blood relationship, and the other is mutual affection. Neither of these can be obtained by your hard work.

In short, don't let money blind you. Remember, family is the most precious intangible wealth. In order to keep this wealth, we must communicate more and be reasonable. Especially when you meet parents who love gambling, communication is absolutely indispensable. Let parents know that it is not easy to make money, understand their own situation and express their true thoughts. Don't hinder the so-called "filial piety" face, thinking that parents will give money unconditionally. This behavior is only filial piety, and even encourages parents to gamble.