Inspirational insights: Stop and go is life, work and rest are life

Article author‖Wei Jinhan

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As the saying goes: Stop and go is life, work and rest are life.

In this era of rapid development and fierce competition, if we want to have a better and more outstanding life, we must work hard and run fast on the track of life.

Especially for young people working hard in big cities like Beijing, Shanghai, Guangzhou and Shenzhen, their brains are running at high speed, their bodies are working hard, their lives frequently turn on multi-tasking mode, and their willpower is working hard again and again. Between consumption and recovery, growth is tempered.

In this life, at the age when we should work hard, we had better not choose comfort and ease. This era is rewarding those who "endure hardship and stand hard work."

For example: you can endure the hardship of reading and studying, you can endure the hardship of thinking and studying, you can endure the hardship of squeezing on buses and subways, you can endure the hardship of running around in the scorching sun...

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However, long hours, high pressure, and ultra-intensity working conditions are sometimes detrimental to our life efficiency. We cannot let our brains be as tense as a string all the time, nor can we let our bodies be overdrawn and exhausted year after year.

Work when you should work, relax when you should relax, this is the most correct rhythm of life for a person.

Life not only has a "go" button, but also a "pause" button. Truly smart and intelligent people always have a "rest" pattern that suits them, allowing their body and mood to relax and recuperate.

In fact, the so-called "rest" mode is not as simple as doing nothing and sleeping, but a kind of survival wisdom of streamlining, meditating, sorting, making choices, and letting go.

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——01 There is a kind of rest, called streamlining goals

"Xunzi·Cultivation" wrote: "One step forward, one step back, one step left. One right and six horses cannot reach the destination. "If you move forward now, then backward, now to the left, now to the right, then even if you have six thousand-mile horses, you will not be able to reach your destination.

In life, the reason why many people are tired and unable to get time for rest is because they have too many plans and goals and have too many desires - they want to get everything and pursue everything. As a result, everything is half-hearted and everything is superficial.

On the surface, they appear to be working hard and conscientiously, but in fact they are inefficient and exhaust themselves at the same time.

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Sister Fan is a strong woman in our company. She is as good as any woman in her work. She has ranked first in performance for two consecutive years and has become a backup candidate for the department manager.

However, in daily work, we rarely see Sister Fan staying up late and working overtime, and we rarely see Sister Fan complaining about being tired. With the same task process, she can always save a lot of time than others and avoid the exhaustion of working overtime.

Young colleagues often ask Sister Fan for advice and how to improve their work efficiency.

Sister Fan answered generously, pointed to the plan list posted on the table, and said: "Every morning, I always list the five most important tasks of the day on the list, and the number will not be too small. , of course not too many, and then just concentrate on completing these five tasks.”

In Sister Fan’s survival rules, if you should give up some things, just put them off, and if you should postpone some tasks, just postpone them. Things should be put into action immediately, immediately, and with full concentration. If you do the most important 20% of your work to the best, you can get 80% of the results.

This approach reminds me of a story about the stock god Buffett:

Flint is Buffett’s personal pilot, and has also flown airplanes for four U.S. presidents.

Once, when Flint and Buffett were discussing career goals, Buffett asked him to do such a thing.

First, Buffett asked Flint to write down the 25 most important goals of his career. Flint thought about it and spent some time writing down these goals. Buffett then asked him to review the list and circle the five goals he considered most important.

Flint fell into deep thought, and then found the five most important targets among the 25 targets.

In this way, Flint now has two goal lists: one is the five goals that he considers the most important in his career; the other is another 20 goals that he also feels are more important.

Buffett asked Flint: "Do you know what to do now?"

Flint replied: "I know. I will start to implement these 5 steps immediately." As for the other 20, they are not that urgent, so you can do them in your free time and then achieve them slowly." After hearing this, Buffett said: "No, Flynn. You're mistaken. Those goals you didn't circle are not things you should slowly accomplish in your free time. They are things you should avoid doing at all costs. You should avoid them like the plague. No. Spend any time and attention on them. ”

In the context of diversified and fast-paced life, we always schedule our time to the fullest, and often even attach “multiple plans and plans” to ourselves. "Multiple Goals" mode to keep yourself busy.

At this time, we must be good at reducing the burden on our plans, goals, and life rhythms - focus on important things and let go of unimportant things. For example:

Give up unnecessary and ineffective social networking: It is not necessary to attend all gatherings, and it is not necessary to have close friendship with everyone. Try to make your social network as simple as possible;

Give up unnecessary Necessary extravagant consumption: Thinking about buying this and buying that, the strong desire to consume will undoubtedly increase our physical, mental and financial burdens.

Abandon unnecessary exaggerated enjoyment: Many people always pursue a refined and bright lifestyle, setting many plans and pursuits for themselves in terms of "food, clothing, housing, transportation and entertainment", such as weekend travel, afternoon tea parties and snacks, evening Advanced fitness classes... In fact, although many enjoyment plans can bring us short-term enrichment and happiness, they will also bring us a lot of burden and consumption in a fast-paced and diversified lifestyle.

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In this way, when it’s time to give up, we must know how to give up. Although our life is much simpler, it will undoubtedly be relaxed and comfortable.

Make life simpler, make plans more detailed, reduce the self-consumption of "choice differences", increase the self-efficacy of "focusing on certain things", and thus win yourself time to rest and relax.

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——02 There is a kind of rest called meditation in solitude

There is such a sentence in "Cai Gen Tan" that I deeply believe: "In the dead of night, people are quiet, When you sit alone and observe your mind, you will begin to realize that your delusions and truth are revealed, and you will often get great insights from this."

It means: in the dead of night, when people are quiet, a person sits alone and reflects on his own heart. You will often feel that all your delusions and desires seem to have disappeared, and those sincere and simple feelings hidden deep in your heart will burst out naturally. Only at this time will you truly understand the true meaning of life and enjoy the joy of life. pleasure.

In life, when we are exhausted by work, disturbed by trivial matters, and troubled by interpersonal relationships... At these times, we can use the method of "solitary meditation" to Let your body and mind relax and rest.

One of my hobbies is to enjoy the atmosphere of "alone and quiet", such as wandering alone on the way home. Although there are people coming and going in front of me, my mind is empty.

I like to hide on the balcony and listen to music and drink tea. My favorite songs are playing in my headphones, and my mind is wandering around, thinking about some things. Either planning for the future or summarizing the past.

I like to lie in bed and read e-books, discover interesting knowledge, experience a different kind of life, and gain new insights. Meditating alone is a way to fall in love with everything in the world. Stop and break through all the noise, so as to adjust and recuperate your body and mind.

For many tired people, if they are too busy at work and don’t have much vacation time, we can use fragmented meditation time to relax and recuperate. For example, when taking the bus, when walking, when taking a shower... these fragmented times can put us into a meditative state.

There are three important factors in solitude meditation:

1. Being alone: ??being alone, no need to talk, no need to socialize, no need to worry about the existence of others, truly allowing yourself to reach the "free" mode.

2. Meditation state: Let the brain enter a divergent state, with both purposeful thinking and aimless searching. A lot of inspiration often comes from this time.

3. The method that suits you: Choose your own meditation process according to the most suitable place, time, method, and scene.

In this way, meditation can not only help us improve work efficiency, but also allow us to relax, clarify our thinking, relieve stress after a tiring day, and gain a rare opportunity to rest.

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——03 There is a kind of rest called looking for patterns

For most people, whether in the workplace or in daily life, They are all in a mechanical and repetitive cycle.

Day after day, many people are immersed in this state of following the steps step by step, drifting with the flow, and are lazy to think, plan, and summarize, making life bloated and complicated.

With this attitude, if the pace of life is slow, people will feel bored; if the pace of life is tense, people will feel tired, which is also called a state of soft fatigue.

The so-called soft fatigue state is a state of being routine, aimless, and gradually tired and bored.

An ancient saying goes: Know what it is, know why it is. When we put aside the things themselves and find the patterns, we can achieve a more efficient and relaxed lifestyle.

I have a colleague, A Wei, who has made great progress after only 2 years of working. For some business work, he learned it once or twice and was able to practice it himself, which amazed his colleagues and leaders.

In fact, the secret of Ah Wei’s growth lies in the habit of “taking notes”. He will record in his own language the processes, instruments, standards, safety matters, etc. that he comes into contact with at work. Over time, the work that was not difficult in the first place became more manageable under his dismantling and analysis.

For some employees, they are only satisfied with the work itself, lack in-depth thinking and summary, have high ambitions and low ambitions, and are too ambitious, thus falling into a vicious cycle of "learning by doing, forgetting after learning, and forgetting mediocrity".

Just as there is a saying circulating on the Internet: You don’t have 10 years of work experience, you just put one year of work experience through 10 years.

Many people always feel that they have a heavy workload and a tiring life. They are often satisfied with superficial work, do not think about summary, do not look for patterns, and thus fall into a repetitive state of soft fatigue. As the saying goes: knowing how to work is worse than being able to work, and working skillfully is worse than knowing how to work.

When we find certain patterns in life, life will naturally become simpler, giving us the opportunity to rest and adjust.

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——04 The words written at the end of the article

In "Cai Gen Tan", there is such a sentence: "Worry and diligence are virtues, too "Being diligent and dedicated is a good virtue, but if you are too busy and exhausted mentally and physically, you will not be able to feel happy and energetic, and you will lose the joy of life."

In life, we cannot procrastinate and slack off, but we cannot be harsh on tension. Using appropriate rest methods to reduce the burden on our lives will undoubtedly make our lives more effective with half the effort.

For many smart and intelligent people, making their lives simpler, more orderly, and giving themselves more opportunities to meditate alone is a good rest process.