How Western parents educate their children

How do Western parents educate their children?

How do Western parents educate their children? We know that the methods of educating children in each country are different. Some parents want to know how Western countries educate their children. How. The following is about how Western parents educate their children. I hope it will be helpful to everyone! How Western parents educate their children 1

Many Chinese parents recognize the core concepts of liberal and democratic education in Western countries and feel that adults should treat children with a fair attitude and give them complete love and freedom. Is that really the case?

What parents in Western countries call "liberal democracy" is based on clear, fair, and effective standards, and these standards have already begun to be established as early as kindergarten.

Moreover, the standards for overseas education are so detailed that they far exceeded Aibengjun’s expectations. It ranges from unspoken behavioral norms such as not fighting, swearing, or damaging things to things as small as how to wash your hands, how to sit when playing games, knowledge of dining table etiquette, how to place each small toy, how to walk on the stairs, etc. .

When you see this, you may say that this is similar to my usual rules for children. However, the way teachers in Western countries set standards is actually quite different from ours.

In the first few weeks or one or two months of the new semester, teachers will spend a lot of time explaining and demonstrating behavioral standards to students, and even cancel or postpone the assigned tasks. Classroom teaching activities and temporary class meetings are held to allow students to discuss and reflect on some poor behaviors.

The head teacher did not teach any "serious lessons" at all in the past few weeks, but spent a lot of time "setting up rules."

For example, the class practiced how to walk on the stairs until no one looked around or made strange noises; the teacher issued a slogan that everyone must learn to put down any activities at hand and stare quietly. Teacher: When students stand up and leave their seats, train them to push the tables and chairs back under the dining table gently and steadily.

This is what is lacking in Chinese education at this stage. The vast majority of schools and parents in our country are too concerned about their children's academic performance, and then ignore the shaping of children's old rules.

Many parents of only children are reluctant to educate their children. They don’t know how to let go when it’s time to let go. They have raised their children to be a mama’s boy and a mama’s girl. In the end, they accuse the child of being a “heartless child”. ".

In our country, every family had its own rules. Clan rules will be engraved on the ruler, and if the children violate them, the ruler will serve them. Ancient people understood that without old rules, there would be no rule, and rules must be punished.

Without punishment, the old rules exist in name only. The rules are free to ensure that everyone abides by the rules of speech, listens attentively, takes turns to speak, and does not cut off or interrupt. Only then will there be a safe environment for everyone to express their opinions, thus forming real and active teaching and training. The spirit of democratization.

In many cases, we only see the fair relationship advocated in education in Western countries, but we do not see the seriousness, strong sense of time, and the letting go of adults in Western countries when teaching children. A child's determination to make up for mistakes and take responsibility.

What Europeans call "casual" means random under the standard, and "fair" means that adults value the child as an individual with ideas and feelings and want to listen. , understand and trust him, instead of completely integrating with him and letting him do whatever he wants, losing his authority and identity as a leader.

Parents have always hoped to give their children love and freedom, and freedom and democracy must be established within the standards, that is, let children have a clear sense of boundaries from an early age, so that they can try to prevent various bad behaviors. produce.

Note: Learning scientific research and correctly guiding children to grow up happily is far more difficult and important than shaping a god of learning.

How Western parents educate their children 2

How do you educate your children? Is it according to the traditional method? Or is it based on educational concepts from Western countries? Due to differences in historical traditions and social and cultural backgrounds, there are huge differences in family education concepts between China and the West. Among them, there are many concepts and practices that Chinese parents should learn from.

Seeing a child who had just learned to walk accidentally fall down, he cried "Wow!" Parents in different countries will have different reactions:

American parents: Instead of helping their children up, they encourage their children with firm eyes: "Baby, you will be brave, get up!"

Russian parents: No matter how crying, don’t help your child up, let the child solve it on his own.

Chinese parents: Immediately stepped forward to help the child up, and while banging the ground, said to the child: "The baby hurts after falling, right? If you don't cry, mommy will beat it!"

Looking at Chinese-style education, children become pampered and become flowers in the greenhouse. This often makes children weak and unable to withstand the setbacks of life.

Then let’s take a look at how foreign parents educate their children.

Western parents believe that children are independent individuals with their own independent wishes and personalities.

Parents in Western countries believe that neither parents, teachers nor relatives and friends have the privilege to control and limit children's behavior.

In most cases, do not make choices for them, but let them know that they are their own masters. No matter what they do, parents will respect and understand their children's psychology. Most Chinese parents require their children to be submissive, obedient, and act according to their parents' wishes!

Western parents believe that children have the ability to self-reflect and educate.

Children in Western families should work and live by themselves, get happiness from working, and acquire various knowledge and skills from hands-on work. Let the child do what he can do. This is respect for the child.

For example, in the West, there are many situations like this: the father or mother walks in front, and the child who has just learned to walk follows behind. They think this is very important for cultivating children's independence.

Chinese parents are afraid that their children will bump into each other, so they often hold or pull their children around. They rarely let their children run and play on their own.

Western parents have not forced their children to succeed

Western parents do not take great pains to design their children's future, but focus on their free development. Efforts are made to cultivate children to become social persons who can adapt to various environments and have the ability to survive independently.

Family education is based on cultivating children with a pioneering spirit and the ability to become self-reliant.

Many families in Western countries attach great importance to their children’s self-training from an early age. Therefore, children’s self-reliance and ability to live independently are cultivated and exercised from an early age.

For example, let children know the value of labor from an early age, let them repair and assemble various machinery by themselves, and share the responsibility of mowing lawns, painting houses, and simple carpentry repairs at home. In the cold winter, when Chinese children of the same age are still sleeping soundly in hot quilts, Western children have already gotten up and delivered newspapers from door to door.

This may seem a bit "cruel" to Chinese parents who pamper their children, but it is this seemingly "cruel" education that has created the independent and self-reliant life skills of Western children, allowing them to gradually grow into citizens with independent viability and social responsibility.

Chinese parents are eager to see their children succeed and have high expectations for their children. In the process of children's growth, in addition to being more concerned about life, parents are most concerned about their children's learning.

Parents do not allow their children to do anything other than studying. It seems that good study is omnipotent, but they are concerned about their children's ability to live independently, social adaptability, mental health, moral sentiments, and civic consciousness. Very little.

Western parents pay more attention to the cultivation of children's healthy psychology

Western parents pay great attention to emotional communication with their children and care about their children's psychological needs.

Western parents implement happiness education as an important educational content. They often discuss problems with their children, and their children are willing to discuss things with their parents when they encounter problems.

Psychological research shows that a healthy psychology is crucial to the growth of children and the shaping of a healthy personality.

Many parents in our country do exactly the opposite. Their concern for their children in daily life is basically concentrated on the physical needs of the children, and they pay little attention to or even ignore the psychological needs of the children and ignore the children's psychological health. The cultivation and tempering of character and will.

As a result, many children have no ability to withstand stress. Even a trivial matter can make them depressed, decadent, self-defeating, and often run away from home, or even commit suicide and become world-weary. Such incidents have been frequently reported by various media in recent years. Most of these are tragedies caused by parents' neglect of cultivating their children's psychological health.

Message:

No matter what method is used to educate our children, whether it is the Chinese way or the way of Western countries, as long as it is suitable for our children, it is a good education.

Sima Qian once said: "Gather the strengths of many schools and integrate the thoughts of hundreds of schools." Everyone knows that parents are their children's first teachers, but how to be a good and successful teacher is a headache for many people. In fact, we might as well learn more from foreign education methods to achieve more effective goals.