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Do you want to sleep in separate beds with Dabao after Bauer is born? In fact, whether it is Dabao or Bauer, 3-6 years old is the best time to exercise and sleep alone.

Why should we cultivate children's ability to sleep independently from an early age?

This is because children are curious about gender differences from the age of three, and they also have the ability to sleep independently. Therefore, parents should conform to their children's thinking and let them have a bed independently. This has three advantages:

1, which can let him know his gender role and what are the main differences between men and women? For example, the differences in dress, dressing and behavior make children clearly understand the characteristics of boys and girls and their future missions, while paying attention to the dangers that different sexes must guard against.

On the other hand, you can teach him some sexual knowledge and tell him things between the sexes. Let's talk about how the child was born. It won't be boring, but it is also a topic of interest to children. Now many parents are still afraid to tell their children this kind of knowledge, thinking that premature contact with education is not good for their children, but do you remember?

On September 4th, Xiao Qi (a pseudonym), a 9-year-old girl who was sexually assaulted by her neighbor in Huadu District, Guangzhou, has been bullied by Xiao Qi for three years. Impressively, her mother asked her, "Has anyone touched the place where you pee?"

Xiao Qi nodded in ignorance and confided, "Xiao Rui's father next door touched her. He touched her three times with the place where he peed."

Visible Xiao Qi for this kind of behavior is not cognitive, only know that this is bad, very painful, very uncomfortable, very afraid, but I don't know, this kind of bullying is different from violence by force, but mental and physical damage, when Xiao Qi grows up, it is hard to imagine what kind of mental journey the girl will experience when she recalls this past.

Therefore, sex education should be carried out as soon as possible so that children can better protect themselves. Sleeping in separate beds can clearly let children know that boys had better not sleep with their mothers, because their mothers are women, and girls had better not sleep with their fathers, because their fathers are men. Although there is no need to distinguish father, daughter and mother too much, parents can set an example and get rid of their children's dependence.

Children over 3.3 years old have begun to have independence. In sleeping, they have been able to adjust their most comfortable sleeping position and find the safest angle. It can be said that with the desire to survive, parents can safely and boldly cultivate their children's ability to sleep independently.

Therefore, Dabao, who is more than 3 years old, suggests exercising his ability to sleep alone, with or without Bauer, but tell Dabao:

"Baby, you sleep alone not because of Bauer, but because you have grown up and can sleep in a big bed by yourself. Children your age sleep in the same bed by themselves, and you can still enjoy your own private space. Isn't it great? "

In the second case, Dabao is under three years old. Should he sleep in separate beds? It is recommended not to sleep in separate beds.

This will make Dabao feel hurt and think that his parents only love Bauer and not themselves. The best solution is to remove the extra sundries in the room, and then add a bed on the left and right, so that sleeping two big and two small is not afraid of being crowded, and at the same time, it can cultivate the feelings of Dabao and Bao Xiao.

Parents and children should also pay attention to the following points when sleeping together:

1, it is recommended to stay awake at two o'clock during sleep. This is very painful for parents, because we can't fully monitor the baby's sleep. If the baby sleeps face down and is covered with a quilt, it is very easy to suffocate. Facts have proved that such incidents are really rare.

I believe that the vast majority of mothers, after the baby falls asleep, will subconsciously do an action and feel the baby's snorting, including myself. I am very afraid of my baby's situation during sleep, so it is often difficult to sleep deeply and ensure that the baby's sleep dynamics are always controlled.

2. When parents and children sleep together, it is suggested to put the children aside and parents sleep on the other side. It is said that it is not recommended to let children breathe the breath exhaled by adults. Children are easily infected with bacterial viruses and cause diseases.

3, before going to bed, give each child a hug, the order is to hold Dabao first, then hold Erbao, loving the baby is a very healing thing for children.

In the process of sleeping, parents pay attention to their words and deeds, which many parents don't notice. Although the world outlook and values of children before the age of 3 are not fully mature, they already have the ability to imitate. If parents change clothes or do some bad actions in front of their children, they may think that these things are normal and can be done in front of others. Once this concept is cultivated, it is difficult to change.

5. Don't cover the children with the same quilt. You can prepare suitable sleeping bags for two children to avoid being covered.

Therefore, for Bauer, whether he should sleep in separate beds with Dabao needs to be analyzed according to the actual situation. Remember, before the age of three, you can sleep in separate beds with your children, but after the age of three, you can cultivate the habit of sleeping independently, even if you don't have separate rooms.

Tingting has been sleeping with Dabao and Sambo's husbands before, and she still sleeps like this after pregnancy. When Tingting was going to have a baby, she let Dabao and grandma sleep, while Bauer often got up to nurse after coming home from the hospital at night. Bauer often cried, fearing that she would disturb Dabao, so she let Dabao and grandma sleep. Dabao said with tears, mom, I want to sleep with you. I don't want to sleep with grandma.

Tingting's words made Dabao dare not speak out: You should be obedient, and your brother is still young. If you are so disobedient, your mother will not like you.

Dabao followed his head and went back to his room with grandma.

After Bao Xiao was born, he ate and drank Lazar. Tingting and her husband are at war, but at this time Dabao joins in again. He has eaten by himself and insists that his mother feed him. Dabao, who has been able to pee himself, often wets his pants and even bites his fingers. Tingting is confused and is consulting Jingjing's mother.

Jingma told Tingting that Dabao was a normal transsexual activity, because Dabao felt that her mother didn't want her, so Tingting must squeeze out some time to play with Dabao every day and tell Dabao: You are really good, even my brother can't do this. You can also ask Dabao to help his brother with things.

And when you buy something, you should also give a copy to Dabao, and give it to Dabao first. After all, Dabao came first.

Later, Tingting communicated with Dabao in my way, which was really much better.

Dabao had been sleeping with his parents before. What should I do after Bauer is born? These common treatments

1, let Dabao sleep with grandma, and Bauer sleep with his parents.

In this way, for the child, Bauer invisibly robbed his parents, which was too harmful to Dabao. What should I do?

Or get back at Bauer. If mom is not here, hit Bauer and pinch Bauer.

Or try to get mom's attention: wet the bed, skip meals, suck your fingers, lose your temper, and try your best to get your parents' attention.

So if this method is not handled properly, it will do great harm to Dabao.

Dabao sleeps with his father and his mother sleeps with Bauer.

It seems that everyone brings one, but mother brings two treasures herself. If I take it well, if I don't take it well at night, then my mother will be very tired. If the mother wants to nurse, coax or change diapers at night, then the mother doesn't have to sleep all night. If she doesn't sleep well, the milk secretion will be greatly reduced. So pay attention to this.

If Dabao is always brought by his father and Bauer is also brought, then it is ok for the time being. It is suggested that dad can help mom when Dabao falls asleep, but it is not recommended that dad and mom be separated for too long. The relationship between husband and wife in the family is greater than that between parents and children.

3. A family of four sleeps

A mother said that with Bauer, she immediately widened the bed and became like a deep pit in the north, so that she could sleep enough. This is indeed a way.

Moreover, attention should be paid to this method. Bauer had better not affect Dabao's sleep, otherwise it will be detrimental to Yu Dabao's growth and development.

4. Take the opportunity to let Dabao separate beds or rooms.

If Dabao is under 3 years old, he can consider putting a small bed in the big room, so Dabao can sleep in the small bed by himself and Bao Xiao can sleep in the small bed by himself. This is fair. Eldest brother and second brother have never slept with their parents.

If Dabao is 5 years old, you can consider housing allocation, but you must make it clear to Dabao that this is not because you have a younger brother, but because you must have your own independent space when you grow up.

News from Ma Jing: After giving birth to Bauer, you can consider a family of four sleeping together, or separating Dabao from Bauer. My mother inevitably gave Bauer most energy, but she also considered Dabao's feelings as much as possible.

Topic: How do you divide your bed?

After Bauer was born, the sleeping style of our family has changed three times, which is estimated to be unprecedented.

The first change: 3 = "2 ="1:2

The current housing conditions in our family are two bedrooms and one living room. Before I was pregnant with Bauer, three of us shared a room, and the other room was used as a guest room, which was usually empty. The bed we slept in was only 1.5 meters wide. As Dabao grew up, I felt a little crowded. He doesn't want his father to sleep in the other room. He said that sleeping alone is not only lonely, but also feels like two families, which makes me very happy.

Who knows that after I was pregnant with Bauer, I woke up frequently to go to the toilet because of severe pregnancy reaction, which affected my father's sleep and led to his lack of energy at work the next day. Later, he took the initiative to sleep in another room, but Dabao slept with me. However, in the later period, his stomach became bigger and bigger, and Dabao slept dishonestly. Once I slept in a daze in the middle of the night, and Dabao stepped on my stomach, which made me sweat. The next day, I drove her to sleep with her father.

Friendly reminder 1: pregnant mothers, when pregnant with a second child, it is best to sleep separately from Dabao to prevent the pregnant belly from being kicked by Dabao. Being frightened is a trivial matter, but being injured is not good.

The second change: 2: 2

The family slept until Bauer was born. In fact, it is not suitable for babies to share a bed with adults when they are young. First of all, they are afraid that adults will roll over and kill their babies. Secondly, the vital capacity of adults is definitely greater than that of infants, which will suck all the oxygen, and all the discharged carbon dioxide will be inhaled by infants, which is harmful to their health. Therefore, I bought a crib for Bauer in advance, put it by the bed, and put him back in the crib after he fell asleep, so that I could go back to bed to sleep.

In this way, Bauer and I slept in the same room, and Dabao and his father slept in the same room, which began the second round of sleep in my family.

Friendly reminder 2: when the baby is still young, don't sleep with adults. First of all, prevent adults from holding the baby down without knowing it. The second is to prevent adults with large lung capacity from absorbing more oxygen, and the discharged carbon dioxide is inhaled excessively by the baby, which affects the baby's health. But you can sleep in the same room and in separate beds.

The third change: 2 = 3: 1

After a family of four lived in such harmony for half a year, Bauer's night milk frequency interrupted their lives. A hundred days later, Bauer basically slept through the night. Who knows that when he was half a year old, he often woke up at night to eat night milk, and my sleep was always interrupted. I kept getting up to nurse him, and then I put him back in the cradle bed to sleep. Going back and forth like this for one night caused me to have a bad rest at all.

So, I just carried him to bed and slept with me, lying down and nursing him. But I usually watch him fall asleep after dinner, so I can rest assured to sleep on one side. The reason why I chose to share a bed with Bauer is that my sleep time is very short and I will wake up at the slightest sign. Second, the bed is big enough and the sleep stage is quiet enough. What is your posture when you are asleep? The most important thing is that Bauer and I are both quilts.

As Bauer grew up, the problem of night milk was also solved. At this moment, Dabao came running to sleep with me and Bauer. I asked her why, and she said that her father snored so loudly that she couldn't sleep. I was dumbfounded, so we slept together, leaving Bao Da to sleep alone.

Friendly reminder 3: lactating mothers must pay attention to it. When choosing to lie down to feed the baby, they must be careful not to let the breast squeeze the baby's nose and mouth, causing suffocation accidents. Be sure to keep a little distance from the baby before going to bed after eating and loosening the nipple.

This is how our family of four sleeps. Do you have the same family?

There are two children in my family. Let me answer! I hope it helps you.

When Dabao was five years old, we wanted a second child. Our family has a bed measuring one meter eight by two meters. The bedroom goes to the place where the bed is put, and there is still room. My father and I discussed buying a crib. First of all, the big bed can't hold four of us. On the other hand, babies are not suitable for sleeping in beds that are too soft. For three reasons, I am afraid that sleeping will crush the children.

Later, we bought a small bed in the maternal and child store, which can probably sleep until the child is 6 years old.

At first, we never slept separately, especially when Bauer was young. Bauer's night scenes are all coaxed by us in turn! Besides, I didn't let Dabao sleep with me separately. First of all, she didn't do it. Second, she was afraid that Dabao would not like her if she had a sister.

Later, when the two children grew up, it was not good for the girl and her father to always sleep in the same room, so I led the child to sleep in a room and his father slept alone! Occasionally, the two children didn't sleep honestly, so I couldn't turn over. I will sleep in the same room as my husband when they fall asleep.

Dabao is 9 years old and Bauer is 5, so they can sleep alone.

Regarding how the whole family should sleep after giving birth to the second child, the most important thing is to consider Dabao's physical and mental health and Bauer's needs. Let me elaborate.

With the opening of the second child policy, many families have also welcomed the second treasure, so this sleep has also become a problem.

Take Qin Xiao in our community as an example. The first child is a daughter and the second child is a son. The difference between the two children is more than two years. Because one person can't take care of two children, their grandmothers come from the countryside to help, but the sleeping conditions of the two children put Qin Xiao in a dilemma. My daughter is only three weeks old now. Although she has been in kindergarten, she never sleeps with her grandmother, because she was brought up by Qin Xiao herself. She must sleep with her parents.

And four people are crowded in one room, and the bed is not enough to sleep. What the hell should we do?

Qin Xiao's husband suggested that he sleep with his daughter, let his mother and son sleep, and grandma sleep in a small bed in the living room.

The daughter began to get emotional and asked her mother why she couldn't sleep with her mother when she had a younger brother. Qin Xiao couldn't tell how bitter she was. She couldn't bear to see her children sad, so she decided to put a crib next to the big bed and sleep with her two children.

Because the child's father works hard, Qin Xiao wants to build a small bed next to the big bed, so that his son can sleep in the small bed with himself, his daughter and her husband. Now my daughter finally agreed.

In fact, like Qin Xiao, I was worried after having my second child. How should I sleep?

The main reason is that children are usually only with their mothers, but their mothers have limited energy and cannot take care of two children at the same time. Next, we will slowly analyze whether the whole family should sleep together or in separate beds after the birth of the second child.

1. Decide whether to sleep separately according to Dabao's age.

Whether to sleep separately from Dabao after giving birth to the second child, the first thing to consider is Dabao's age. If the age difference of the second child is more than three years old, try to let Dabao and his parents sleep in separate rooms. If the age gap of the second child is relatively small, try to sleep with the whole family to make the child feel safe enough.

For the situation that Dabao has been in kindergarten since Bauer was born, parents can sleep in separate rooms as far as possible, so that the mother can accompany the child before he goes to bed and stay until he falls asleep, which can give the child enough sense of security, and at the same time, let the mother take care of Bauer at night, which is helpful to cultivate the independence of Yu Dabao.

For the situation that Dabao is still young after Bauer was born, it is suggested that the whole family sleep together, so that the father can take part in child-rearing, the mother can reduce the burden, and at the same time give enough care to the two children.

2. Decide how to sleep separately according to Dabao's gender.

Sometimes, considering that the bed at home is not enough to sleep, or dad has to work during the day and can't take care of Bauer at night, Dabao needs to sleep with his father. At this time, we must consider a question, that is, Dabao's gender.

In fact, once a daughter enters primary school, it is really not suitable to sleep with her father, which is not conducive to the formation of children's gender awareness. We should tell children the difference between men and women from this moment on, even if that person is their own father.

So in general, if Dabao is a girl and has gone to primary school, she should be trained to sleep by herself. If Dabao is a girl but still young, try to let her sleep with her father. If Dabao is a son, it will be easier for him to sleep with his father, which will not only ensure Dabao and his father to rest, but also let his mother concentrate on taking care of Bauer.

3. Can Dabao sleep with the elderly and can Bauer sleep with his parents?

Many parents think that this practice is very worry-free, which not only allows Bao Dad to take care of Bauer at night, but also allows Ma Bao to sleep well, and will not make his family uncomfortable because the bed is too crowded.

Yes, parents are relieved to let the children sleep with the elderly, but the children are sad. Children who are also parents, why don't they sleep with Bauer but with Dabao?

Let Dabao sleep with the old man. First of all, it is not good for children's health. Old people will inevitably get sick and have poor breathing. At this time, it is easy to give children a disgusting smell; Second, it is not conducive to children's mental health and gives them a feeling of being left out, isolated and abandoned, so this practice is definitely not desirable.

Dabao can't sleep alone. It's better for the whole family to sleep together.

The palm of your hand is covered with meat. As a parent, don't give your child a feeling of favoritism. Since Dabao is too young to leave his parents, try to remove the sundries in the bedroom and leave enough space for the bed.

If the bed is big enough, put the crib aside, let Bauer sleep in the small bed, and others sleep in the big bed; If the bed is not big enough, put a small bed on one side, with parents sleeping in the middle and two children sleeping on one side; If Dabao depends on his mother, then Dabao and Bauer will sleep next to his mother, and his father will sleep in a single bed.

In fact, regarding how the whole family should sleep after the second child, the most important thing is to consider Dabao's physical and mental health and Bauer's needs. Even if it is difficult, it will take a year or two. Parents can give their children a happy childhood and a happy life as long as they persist!

This problem is what we will face at present, because Bauer will be born next month. The result of our discussion is that Dabao sleeps in separate beds, but because Dabao is still relatively young, he sleeps in separate beds with his father in the early stage, and then gradually sleeps independently in the later stage. Share my reasons for doing so.

Advantages of sleeping in separate beds in Dabao

1. Cultivate independent consciousness. When the baby's consciousness is gradually developing, sleeping in separate beds can let the baby have his own independent space and personal privacy, let the baby realize the inevitability of doing things, and form the baby's ability and experience of independent thinking, decision-making and handling things over time. Sleeping alone can also increase the courage of babies, which can prevent many parents from becoming overly dependent when they grow up. The experience of being alone in childhood will help him adapt to his surroundings more quickly.

2. Correct gender cognition. 3, 4-year-old children's gender awareness is relatively vague, if there is no correct guidance, there will be the phenomenon of loving father and Oedipus complex. Many parents have the embarrassing experience of being caught by their children when they are married, which has a great adverse effect on their children. If they separate as soon as possible, such a thing can be avoided to some extent.

3. It is beneficial to the relationship between husband and wife. Many couples either "separate" after having children, or several families share the same bed, which seriously affects the emotional communication between husband and wife. After letting the children sleep in separate beds, there will be independent communication space and time between husband and wife. It is conducive to stabilizing the relationship between husband and wife.

This is good for taking care of Bauer. This will help Ma Bao to take better care of Bauer, and at the same time save some time and energy to recover her body, which is beneficial to the adjustment of Ma Bao's psychological state.

Sleeping in separate beds with your baby, you must pay more attention to your baby's psychological changes. Parents should work out a flexible way to work and rest according to their children's characteristics, and don't force their children to sleep in a way they don't like. The result of this is likely to be that parents are physically and mentally exhausted and their children are psychologically hurt, but it is not worth the loss.

Not sure about your Dabao's age and upbringing, give me a general suggestion.

First of all, couples must not sleep in separate beds and rooms, which is very important to maintain their feelings. Moreover, taking care of children is a matter of two people, and dad cannot be excluded from taking care of children.

If Dabao is over 6 years old, it is recommended to sleep in separate rooms as soon as possible, and it is best to prepare his own independent room for Dabao. When the child's sense of security has not been established, he will be afraid to let him sleep alone. Especially in the anxiety period of castration at the age of 3-6, children often think that ghosts are very scared. In fact, because of the Oedipus conflict, they subconsciously want to kill their opposite sex parents. The children think that sleeping in separate rooms is his punishment.

Children should not sleep in separate rooms until they are three years old. They can sleep in separate beds, and their crib is next to the big bed. If family conditions permit, prepare a room for the child, which can be beautifully dressed or decorated according to the child's own wishes, so that the child can know that he can sleep in his mother's room and have his own independent space. By the time I went to primary school, my children were already familiar with their rooms, so I suggested that they start sleeping in separate rooms. At this time, I must get out of the Oedipus period.

After Bauer was born, we shared two beds. Bauer and I sleep in the same bed, and my husband and Dabao sleep in the same bed.

Before we gave birth to Bauer, we rented a big single room with three people in one bed. The room was wide enough to play with Dabao. After Bauer was born, the original 1.5-meter bed couldn't sleep, so we added an extra bed to make the original room full. My husband put two beds together, which looks like one bed. Bauer and I sleep inside, and Dabao and my husband sleep outside.

The back room was too crowded, so we moved to a room with one room and one living room. There are two beds in the room, and then we separate them. Dabao continued to sleep with her husband and Bauer continued to sleep with me. Now that Bauer has declared sovereignty, Dabao and her husband will not be allowed to sleep in our bed.

Although sleeping in separate beds will affect the relationship between husband and wife, it is also a helpless move. It is inconvenient to take care of the baby because he is too young. For example, when the baby is hungry and crying in the middle of the night, you must get up and put him on the bed, and put him back after feeding. This is inconvenient, and it is easy to catch cold in winter. If the baby sleeps with his mother, he can turn over when he cries. Some people say they are afraid that adults will crush their babies, but in fact they won't. When they become mothers, all they think about is their children. Sleeping at night is very shallow. If you can wake up with a little exercise, how can you crush your child?

Others say it is unwise to let Dabao sleep alone while Bauer sleeps with his parents. Giving birth to Bauer will have an impact on Dabao. If Dabao is sleeping separately, Dabao will feel unbalanced psychologically. Why can Bauer sleep with his parents and I can't? This was originally my position. Therefore, in order to make children's psychological balance, they can only sleep alone. If you really don't want to be apart, you can widen the bed.

Regarding the bed source distribution of your family of four, I will nod:

First of all, in this big square bed, your big treasure must be "taken away" from this bed first. No matter how old your Dabao is, it must be an older child (except twins), at least one or two years older and still awake at night. If you sleep with the newborn Bauer again, your sleep quality will definitely be affected. Dabao is growing up or has gone to school, so sleep is very important. 4-5 years old, let alone separate beds.

Second, your husband, I think he can have two choices.

1 means that your husband is the main earner in the family. He is usually tired and needs a rest. You can do it yourself at night, Bauer. Ok, let's wake dad up from bed. Where does he sleep? If there are many beds in your house, he will sleep by himself. If there is no extra bed and Dabao is young (less than 3 years old), let them go together. Dad can take care of the older one at night. Some people may sleep on the sofa.

Yes, his energy is ok, but you are tired and need someone to take care of Bauer for you. Or you two are too intimate to sleep separately. He is not afraid of being disturbed by Bauer. Well, let him stay in this big bed.

Dabao and her husband are not in bed, which will bring Bao Xiao safety when sleeping. After all, the family is a bit crowded and chaotic.

Third, you all need the best care of each other. For example, Dabao doesn't want to be alone and her husband doesn't want to sleep in separate beds. You have to take care of the children, too. There are not so many places at home. The safest and warmest way is to continue to increase the area of your original bed! An extra bed, from the original 2.5 meters to 4 meters, maybe your bedroom is really big. Because your little Bauer's noise at night may not be so loud, you all like this warm, harmonious and relaxed picture! !

What do you think of my plan? Are you asleep? I am sleepy, too. It's time to rest. Does the snoring of your family ring a bell? Good Night!

I am particularly curious about why I have to sleep in separate beds. Many of them are shared by my father. What is my father's role in the family? Put a small bed next to the big bed and sleep for four! It is normal for a child to wake up while sleeping. The baby is his!