You are beautiful to begin with

? The reason for writing this article is that one day my best friend sent me a WeChat message saying that she bought a new skirt. She said that she felt good wearing that skirt and felt very confident. I quickly asked her to send her photos, praising her beauty and cuteness, and saying that she should look beautiful every day. She said she really didn’t understand why she had to wear T-shirts and shorts every day. She said she regretted that she didn’t dress herself up beautifully when dating boys. If she dressed up carefully and showed her gentle side every time, maybe boys would You will like yourself more, and you won’t break up so quickly.

After listening to her words, I couldn’t help but feel sorry for her. Maybe every girl will have such moments of lack of confidence in front of the person she likes. She always thinks that she is not perfect enough and misses a lot. In fact, every girl Everyone should be confident and believe that they are beautiful to begin with. The problem is not whether they dress up or not, nor is it because they are not liked by boys. Maybe it is because they do not truly love themselves and accept their true selves from the heart.

When I went to Bali alone two years ago, I happened to see a sign in a coffee shop: Do you know how much effort I put in to stay perfect? At that time, I also thought about myself. Sometimes when I pursue so-called perfection and excellence, I feel unconfident. Think again about how many beautiful and lovely girls have to pay an unimaginable price to maintain a perfect image. Not to mention the Internet celebrity faces that have become popular in the impetuous society. In order to conform to the public aesthetics and win the favor of the opposite sex, girls who are naturally cute choose plastic surgery at high costs to change their appearance and make themselves look beautiful. In order to maintain their figure, they eat very little food, quit sugar and high calories, and some girls even try all kinds of ways to prevent obesity. . .

I really disagree every time I hear this. Nowadays, there is a lot of work pressure, and it can be said that few people can maintain regular exercise. For the sake of universal public aesthetics, it is understandable for girls to learn makeup, dress, and eat healthy meals. Of course, we encourage girls to live a healthy lifestyle, go to bed early and get up early, exercise regularly, and eat healthy food. These are originally just to maintain a healthy body to cope with the busy work and life in reality, not to win the love of the opposite sex.

Perhaps this is a bit paranoid. Many people will say that people are visual sensory animals. Whether it is work or social interaction, people with better appearance will always be more popular. The same goes for women, but in comparison, men have higher requirements for women's appearance and figure than women. To a certain extent, it is like women's requirements for men's basic material conditions and added value.

? But my focus here is not on the issue of mate selection, but more on hoping that more girls will have self-confidence, accept themselves generously, and accept their shortcomings. Rather than being affected by public opinion and the voices around you, you should understand your own uniqueness and uniqueness.

Today’s society is developing at a rapid pace, and there are more and more independent women in the new era. The universal values ????of relying on marrying a good man in the past are becoming less and less accepted. Women in the new era, whether from work In terms of ability and living ability, they gradually began to be equal to or even better than men. In addition, in terms of mentality, women are far more brave, strong, loyal and patient than most men. This may also be the case for women in big cities who choose to be single or unmarried. It is precisely because they have not met the right person. You can truly rely on and rely on. The dependence here refers to more spiritual and emotional dependence than material dependence.

? But often women find that they have very few opportunities to meet men who truly have strong hearts and fulfilling connotations. The rest are ordinary members of the opposite sex. Girls will become unconfident because of emotional failure. They will think that they have done many things poorly and have many shortcomings that have failed to attract the opposite sex.

? But in fact, if society’s requirements for men are the standard of power, status and wealth, and women are only about appearance, figure and family responsibilities, then this may be fair, but the problem is that society’s requirements for women are too high now. Women Not only do you need to be a good partner, you not only need to have a stable source of income and not be dependent on a man, but you also need to have a certain appearance, figure, and good character. If you are a family woman, you must also play the three roles of wife, daughter, and mother. As a wife, you need to understand and support your partner; as a daughter and daughter-in-law, you need to honor both parents and maintain family relationships; as a mother, you need to tutor your children in their homework and extracurricular parent-child activities. . . . The only thing she didn't do was be herself, dressing up beautifully and going on trips with her best friends, going to afternoon tea, and relaxing in a spa. Except of course there are some successful women.

When girls reach a certain age, there are few girls who have not been troubled by the pressure on marriage from public opinion and family. At the same time, there are also many girls who have not broken down and cried late at night due to the pressure of work and interpersonal relationships. After crying, you still have to face the new day with a smile as if nothing is wrong. Many girls live very tired lives because of so-called values ??and standards, and always feel that what they do is not perfect enough. In fact, I want to say that at a certain stage in life, you must learn to reconcile with yourself, admit your imperfections, and believe in your own uniqueness. A truly wise person must value your soul and inner self more, so he must prioritize enriching his inner self.

Appearance will definitely lose its youth with the passage of time, but a beautiful and kind soul and a positive attitude will never be replaced.

The happiness of life often comes from inner thinking about life and life, how to manage every day seriously and enjoy all the good things in the moment, instead of getting entangled in some problems that should not be entangled. It is so important to make yourself happy. Life is short and it is a waste of time to think about meaningless things.

? You should believe that you are inherently beautiful. As long as a girl is not sloppy and careless, has bad living habits, and uses vulgar words, healthy and normal girls will have their own cuteness as long as they are clean and refreshing. A girl is beautiful in a hundred ways.

?Don’t think you are not good enough when you meet someone who is not suitable for you. Of course you can summarize the problems you find to avoid some bad situations, but you still have to choose to believe in yourself unconditionally, because if you don’t believe in yourself , then it is even more unreliable to increase your self-confidence through the recognition of others, because the only one in this world who can accompany you through the long night of loneliness is yourself. The only one who chooses to believe in you when encountering difficulties is yourself, and only you can save you. Own. No one can help you get through the difficulties, and you have to figure out many things by yourself before you can get through them.

Another best friend has been divorced for more than a year. Her husband cheated on her and left her alone with the child. However, she has not disclosed it to the public because of her dignity or for the sake of her children, and continues to live a happy family of three. In fact, her husband has not returned to the family for a long time due to a long-term business trip. Today, she finally admitted openly and frankly on WeChat. The fate between her and her husband has come to an end. From now on, we are no longer together. She is also grateful to her ex-husband for taking care of her over the past ten years. I was a witness all the way from the beginning of dating to marriage. After marriage, she returned to the family to prepare for pregnancy and stayed at home. She quit her decent job and stayed at home with her children. Her ex-husband often went abroad due to work reasons. After her affair, she faced the problem of gaining weight after pregnancy. Her best friends dislike her in various ways, saying that her figure has changed, she has no knowledge, and she is out of touch with society. And he himself had never even changed a diaper for his child. Think about it, my best friend was the first to get married among our group. Before her ex-husband cheated on her, she was obedient and responsive to her every request. But in the end, she couldn't resist the temptation of the impetuous society. She thought she could restore the harmony of the family for the sake of her children, but the cheating really happened. Except for zero times, there are countless times. After the divorce, the ex-husband who was emotionally empty will still care about the children. After recently getting a new girlfriend, he has left the family behind. You will never imagine that the good husband in everyone's eyes will become He doesn't recognize his relatives and his values ??are distorted. Is it the pressure of society or his own lack of self-control to control his desires?

? What I want to say when I talk about this is that my best friend, who comes from a privileged background and has a good appearance, was once proud and confident. After her ex-husband betrayed her and disliked her, she began to become unconfident and started to diet and exercise. Just to make oneself look thinner, isn't this torture of universal values? A woman must regain her figure in a short time after giving birth, take care of her family while not being out of touch with society, and enrich her life. There is really too much pressure on women in this society. We have to be perfect in every role so as not to be disliked by our husbands, family members or even people around us. But we can't really just be ourselves and live the life we ??want after we are tired.

Self-disciplined people do live a wonderful life, but they also have to exert more willpower than ordinary people to regain their figure, life, and work as if they were single. And all this requires a strong heart to support it so as not to collapse. At the same time, we must also accept our imperfections and allow ourselves to relax. There are many moments where we are doing ourselves and spending some time according to our own wishes. Many of what we do are simply for our own happiness. , do it to make yourself feel good, rather than doing it for the eyes and evaluations of others and exhausting yourself. ,

?The advice given by many elderly people to young people is never to say that you should work hard to make money and stay perfect. It is more to tell young people to be themselves and do what they want to do. Leave regrets in life. Go try everything possible. So, girl, you have to believe that you are inherently beautiful and you deserve all the good things. The premise is that you have to learn to truly love yourself.