Why are people always lazy?

Every obstacle to be overcome is inseparable from willpower; In the face of every difficult decision we make, we rely on our inner strength. In fact, willpower is not an innate or unchangeable characteristic, but a skill that can be cultivated and developed. The following will help to strengthen your willpower. Just try it.

First of all, be proactive.

Positive willpower can help you overcome inertia and focus on the future. When encountering resistance, imagine your happiness after overcoming it; If you actively participate in the concrete practice of achieving the goal, you can stick to it. A businessman on the east coast of the United States knows that he has drunk too much, but he is engaged in a very annoying job. Drinking a few drinks before eating seems to relax his nervous mood. But wine and tiring work often make him fall asleep as soon as he finishes drinking. One day, the manager realized that he was drinking to drown his sorrows and waste his time. So he drank again, but let him have more children. It was not easy at first, and I often thought of the mellow wine, but he warned himself that what he was doing now was not worth the loss. It turned out that the more he cared about his family and children, the more motivated he was to work.

Second, make up your mind

James Pross, a professor at the University of Rhode Island in the United States, divided the realization of a transformation into four steps:

1, resist-unwilling to change;

2. Consider-weigh the gains and losses of the transformation;

3, action-cultivate willpower to achieve change;

4. Persistence-constantly changing with willpower.

In order to make up your mind, you can set a deadline for achieving your goal. Maggie Collins, a teacher in California, USA, is very concerned about how to lose weight. Later, she was elected as the chairman of a marketing organization and decided to lose 6 kilograms. To this end, she bought clothes two sizes smaller than herself and will wear them every year in three months. Thanks to perseverance, Collins finally got what he wanted.

Third, the goal is clear

Professor Pross studied a group of experimental subjects who planned to change their behavior from New Year's Day, and found that the most successful people were those with the most specific goals. One of the men is determined to be as kind and equal as his wife every day. Later, he did it. The other party just said in general that he wanted to be nice to his family. As a result, after a few days, he was still the same, still quarreling.

Fourth, weigh the pros and cons.

If you are half-hearted about physical exercise because you can't see the actual benefits, you can't make you wear running shoes willingly just by wishing. Professor Pross suggested that you can draw four squares on a piece of paper and fill in the short-term and long-term gains and losses respectively. If you are going to quit smoking, you can fill in the short-term loss in the top two boxes: "I felt very sad at first", and the short-term gain: "I can save a sum of money"; Fill in the bottom two boxes with long-term gains: "My body will become healthier" and long-term losses: "I will promote a method to relieve boredom". Through such careful comparison, it is easier to gather the willpower to quit smoking.

Five, change yourself

It is not enough to know the harvest. The most fundamental motivation comes from wanting to change your image and control your life. Truth can be convincing sometimes, but only when feelings are aroused can you really respond.

Sixth, pay attention to the spirit.

Toulouse,/kloc-a famous French general in the 0/7th century, is famous for being the first soldier. He always stands at the front of the team in every war. When asked about it, he bluntly said, "I acted like a brave man, but I was scared from beginning to end." I didn't give in to my timidity, but said to my body,' Old chap, although you are shaking, you still have to go forward!' "As a result, resolutely charge before. A large number of facts have proved that acting as if you have a tenacious will helps you to become a tenacious person.

Seven, temper the will

As early as 19 15, psychologist Boyd Barrett put forward a set of methods to exercise the will. Including getting up and sitting down from the chair for 30 times, pouring out a box of matches and putting them back in the box one by one. He believes that these exercises can strengthen willpower so as to face more severe and difficult challenges in the future. Barrett's specific suggestions seem a bit outdated, but his ideas are enlightening. For example, you can arrange what you want to do on Sunday morning in advance and make up your mind not to eat lunch unless you do it well.

Eight, stick to the end

As the saying goes, "Where there is a will, there is a way", which means to fight against difficulties and overcome them. After studying people who quit smoking and started smoking again, Pross found that many people did not seriously consider how to deal with the temptation of cigarettes. So despite the courage to quit smoking, you still can't stick to it. Another man handed me a cigarette, and he took it and smoked it. If you are determined to give up drinking, don't touch the glass in any vocal music. If you insist on jogging, you can exercise indoors as usual even if it rains heavily in the morning.

Nine, seeking truth from facts

If you are required to lose 25 kilograms in three months, or you must do physical exercise for three hours every day, then no matter how strong your will is, it will not help such an unattainable goal. Besides, the consequences of failure will discourage you from trying again. In many cases, it is a good method to break a single big goal into many small goals. Bob, who is going to give up drinking, put up a sign in his room-"No drinking every day". Because the overall goal of abstinence is broken down into concrete actions day by day, I can make my determination clear again the next day. By the end of the week, Bob looked back on his series of "victories" these days with confidence and finally said goodbye to the wine.

Ten, step by step training

Strong will is not suddenly produced overnight, but gradually accumulated, and it is bound to encounter setbacks and purchase failures. We must find out the reason that makes us lose our morale, so as to solve it in a targeted way. When Mary gave up smoking for the first time, she made great determination, but it ended in failure. When analyzing the reasons, she realized that she needed to do something, not take cigarettes. Later, when she wanted to smoke, she bought knitting wool. A few months later, Mary gave up smoking completely and knitted a sweater vest for her husband, killing two birds with one stone.

XI。 Win a victory

Practice has proved that every success will further strengthen your willpower. If you overcome a bad habit with tenacious will, you can gain the confidence to challenge another duel and win. Every success can increase your self-confidence and provide you with a solid "foothold" in the difficult cliff climbing journey. Perhaps the new task we face is more arduous, but since we have succeeded in the past, we will certainly win this time and in the future.