Comment on "Step Forward" (9) Almighty woman is a myth.

"Everyone is always making choices, such as: career and family, exercise and relaxation, being with others, and giving yourself time alone. Being a parent means making timely adjustments, compromises and sacrifices every day. For most people, such sacrifices and efforts are not options, but necessary. "

This is a fact.

"What is the rudest question for a woman? No matter how old you are and how much you weigh. The worst question is, how do you take care of everything? "

How should I handle everything? What is the method?

"If you want to do everything and expect yourself to be super perfect, you will inevitably fail. Perfectionism is our enemy. Gloria's words are apt: you can't do everything. No one can hold two full-time jobs at the same time, not only taking care of children, making three meals a day, but also enjoying the climax in the early hours of the morning ... The women's movement opposes superwoman.

Today, I sorted out what I saw yesterday and found that I also have this subconscious mind. I feel that I can do anything, I am strong, and I pursue perfection. Just realized.

"Dr. Laurie of Cornell Medical College in the United States believes that the key to pursuing a career while raising children is to learn where you should focus. We must decide what is important and what is not, and strive for perfection in those things that are really important. ..... She reminded us not to be too obsessed with unimportant things. "

What is important and what is not important to me? How to help people around you, such as aunt Shi and in-laws, distinguish what is important and what is not?

I like many posters and slogans on Facebook very much, one of which is printed with big red letters: completion is better than perfection. ..... The best result of pursuing perfection is new frustration, and the worst result is complete numbness.

"McKinsey's demand for our time is endless, so the decision-making power of our work is actually in our own hands, and we have the responsibility to draw a line. The best way to make room for life and career is to make a conscious choice, set boundaries, and then strictly abide by these boundaries.

Flexible working hours. "

How can I safely choose the boundaries of time? What is my time plan?

"General Powell said in his new book that in all my administrative work, I strive to create an atmosphere of advocating professionalism, high standards and strict requirements. When I have to finish a job, I hope my subordinates work hard. If they don't have to finish that day, I hope they can work normally, go to work normally, go home to play with their children and enjoy the time with their family and friends. When you are free, read novels, sort out your thoughts and daydream, so that you can combine work and rest. I want employees to have their own lives outside of work. My salary is based on the quality of their work, not the working hours. Therefore, the working atmosphere I create can usually achieve the best work performance. "

"He comforted me that he would bear more burdens at home, and he was willing to work with me for this family."

"Not everyone is close to their families, both geographically and emotionally. Fortunately, my family can rely on each other and provide such support to each other. "

Jiang and I get too little support, too little emotion and too little region. Family members are the most difficult people to get along with and the people who give us the most trouble and energy. These aspects are really confusing and slow to move. I think the most effective way to get rid of the entanglement is to let yourself move forward, so as to get rid of the entanglement.

"A report published in 2006 said that there is no difference in individual development between children cared for by their mothers and children cared for by their mothers and others at the same time. There is no gap between them in terms of cognitive level, language expression, social skills, establishing and maintaining interpersonal relationships, and wooden sense. Parents' behavioral factors, including a responsible and optimistic father, a mother who advocates children's independent actions, and a high degree of marital intimacy between parents, have 2-3 times the influence on children as any form of care. One of the findings is more worthy of study; Mothers have no reason to think that choosing a job will be bad for their children. "

"The psychologist told me that when I began to feel anxious because I was not with my children, this sense of separation anxiety actually originated more from my mother than from my children."

"If anyone can find a woman without guilt, then I can prove to you that she is actually a man."

"What we need to ask is not, can I do everything, but can I do something important for me and my family? The purpose of this is to make children grow up happily and healthily. It doesn't matter whether they wear green clothes on St. Patrick's Day.

If I have to define success, it is: success is to make the best choices for yourself and accept them.

Other women also have this experience. It is helpful for them to share your difficulties frankly.