Calm down, everything will be fine: there is no noise in the outside world, but your heart is in chaos.

Buddha said: People live all their lives and cultivate their minds all their lives. How to achieve "not indifferent, not calm, not far away" is the answer we have been looking for all our lives.

Because in life, we are always tortured by being busy, blind and at a loss. Trap your heart in a dark cage, dominated by fear and depression. Then hysterically ask God why happiness is so far away from me.

In fact, learn to take a step back from being busy, blind and at a loss, let your heart return to peace and look at people and things around you in a quiet state. We will find that the dust of the soul will be brushed away and the scenery of life will be clearer if we put it down at the right time.

As the book "Calm down, everything will be fine" says: When you are in pain, calm down, you can explore the root of pain and cultivate a happy mood; Calm down when you are upset, you can get rid of distortion and misunderstanding and experience freedom from bondage; Calm down when you are confused, you can abandon your persistent expectations and share the happiness of the moment.

Calm Down, Everything Will Be Fine was written by Tao Shangyun, a female writer, and published in 214. Although I checked her information, there were few introductions, only that she was an inspirational writer, literary translator, film and television screenwriter and some novels and literary works.

There isn't even a photo of her art on the website, but that doesn't stop me from sharing this book. Because I think a good book can help people, and it has nothing to do with the author's reputation. I hope this book can bring you a moment of peace and new enlightenment to your understanding of life.

Next, I will explain the contents of the book from three points: life, love and work.

There is a story about an angel who looks for people in need and brings them happiness. One day, it saw a family having dinner. The man is a magnificent man, his wife is serving him soup, and his daughter is clever enough to hand him a pair of chopsticks.

The next day, the angel came to the man and asked him if he was happy. The man said that his life is not happy at all, and every day is a constant life, which is very boring. He wants to be the happiest person in the world. So the angel cast a spell and took away everything he owned.

On the third day, the angel asked the man again, do you still want to be the happiest person in the world? The man immediately replied, I just want to go back to my old life.

This story reflects many people in real life, because we always focus on the things in front of us and ignore the beautiful scenery around us, so we can't feel the warmth of happiness.

In fact, we always decide what kind of life we want to live. The book says: People who often complain about life will think that life is a mess, all tangled knots. Those who enjoy life will regard it as a blank sheet of paper and can paint their favorite colors at will.

Now, let's ask ourselves whether the following experiences have ever been encountered;

we have been chasing the life we want all our lives, and we are tired of running around for it. However, people's desires are endless. Those who have no money want to have money, and those who have money want to make more money. Those who rent want to buy a house, and those who have a house want to change to a better house; New employees want to be promoted, and later they want to be their own bosses.

All this is understandable, because no one wants to spend a mediocre life. However, do we forget in this chasing battlefield that there is always a long distance between the ideal in an alternating state and the reality that can't be realized?

the backwardness of the sense of distance will make us panic. So the hole in our hearts keeps enlarging, which makes us just run forward and catch up, so we ignore the scenery around us. Such a hurried pace makes us more and more distant from our own happiness.

Just like Charlotte, the protagonist in the comedy movie goodbye mr. loser, she has a chance to reinvent her life because of an unexpected crossing. He pursued his dream class flower, became a singer who attracted the attention of thousands of people, and gained countless wealth.

But he found that he was getting farther and farther away from happiness. It was not until he saw Xia Dongmei again and ate the bowl of fennel noodles with gravy that he once disliked that he realized that the taste of happiness was so simple. It's just that I used to chase after the ideal road blindly, ignoring the people who have always given me warmth and happiness around me.

The chaos of life is actually not the tumultuous changes in the world, nor the dream bubbles that appear constantly in life, but the flat waves in our hearts. Therefore, depression and anxiety are always around, which makes our life overwhelmed.

Therefore, learn to calm your mind, so that you can live a noisy life without being influenced by circumstances, so that you can have nothing to do and be calm. If you have something to do, you can settle your mind.

You will find that life is like four seasons from another angle: after experiencing the warmth of spring, we must wait for the fire test of summer, and after harvesting the fruits of autumn, we must endure the cold of winter.

there is a kind of love called "once", which makes people trapped in the past memories, just like a meteor falling at night. Although it is bright and beautiful, the final outcome can only be missed. Then, there is a silent sky that people often think of.

I have read such a story. There is a bee sucking sweetness on the same rose every day, but one day, the rose has withered, so honey sucks bitter taste instead of sweetness. So it angrily complained to God why the taste changed.

Finally, one day, the bee stopped clinging to the rose and fluttered its wings to fly. At this time, it suddenly found that beautiful flowers were everywhere around the withered rose.

The rose is the love that we swore to each other at the beginning. That kind of feeling, such as sweetness, makes people want to stay. Therefore, after withering, it will become memento mori that is hard to give up. Because people always think that what they lose is the best, they will ignore the happiness around them.

In real life, we always like to compare our past emotional experiences with our present ones. Taking emotional happiness as a comparative level, compared with the previous love, the immediate happiness is always unremarkable, and the beauty in that memory is always memorable.

In fact, it is also mentioned in the book that people who like to recall are often a reflection of their current emotional life. Because if a person's feelings are not smooth and his marriage is not happy, then he will often think of the good times.

For example, in the famous Japanese writer Duankangcheng's classic "Dancer of Izu", the old professor met his beloved dancer Xunzi when he was young, but due to the restriction of social class at that time, their identities were very different, so he had no choice but to leave, which became the knot of his life.

The lonely old professor is always disappointed in his past memories because of his loneliness and misfortune. Just like Venus with a broken arm, it is precisely because of her imperfection that people are left with infinite reverie.

please remember that all the memories will eventually face the life of today and tomorrow. If we always indulge in the thoughts of the past, then this idea has laid a roadblock for our happiness.

because persistence is tiring, infatuation is hurtful, and memories are grinding. The most precious thing in the world is not "unattainable" and "lost", but happiness that can be grasped at the moment.

as the saying goes, do one thing and love another. But the true portrayal of today's society is that you are tired of doing one line. It is mentioned in the book that a "survey of happiness index at work" shows that only one in ten people is currently working happily. It is conceivable that how many people regard work as a kind of torture.

actually, when I saw this data, I wasn't too surprised. Because my friends around me are basically dissatisfied with their current jobs. If life didn't force me, I believe many people would tell their bosses that the world is big and I want to go out and have a look.

But you know what? One third of a person's life is spent at work. If we regard it as a burden and pain, it means that one third of our life is doomed to be a tragic experience.

Therefore, how to have fun at work has become an urgent problem. Psychologists have found in their research that the motivation of happiness comes from the satisfaction of the bottom of my heart, not from the external temptation.

if we go to work every day, we just have the mission of doing it for money, then our work will be as repetitive as mechanization, with neither breakthrough nor promotion. Cycle after cycle, endless cycle, and finally fall into helpless sorrow.

This reminds me of an American inspirational movie, Facing the Giant. Taylor is a football coach in colleges and universities. During his six-year coaching career, he never won in the season. Complaining and stress became his companions in his daily work.

When the team's best player is ready to transfer to another school and the top management of the school is ready to expel Taylor, he chooses to emancipate his mind, treat every player wholeheartedly and be grateful for what he has now.

slowly, when he found himself looking at the problem from a different angle, the previous difficulties were not so bad. Finally, Taylor not only regained his confidence, but also gave the team cohesion and won the championship of the season.

Just because your job is not easy doesn't mean you are a failure. It is even more important not to get bored or escape from the workplace. In the movie, although Taylor experienced six years of failure, he didn't give up, but devoted himself to his work, which made him rekindle his love for his work, and because of this love, he stopped complaining and being empty, and gained great happiness and achievements from it.

The book shares two ways to teach us how to feel happy at work.

Maybe now you are lamenting all kinds of disappointments in your work. Although the purpose of work is to make money, we will work harder and more efficiently when we focus on having fun.

So, be quiet, work with a good mood, let work enrich our lives, and get real happiness.

today's world is very fast-paced, and the hectic pace always makes us fall into endless anxiety. It seems to be an epidemic, which is gradually eroding everyone.

This kind of anxiety makes us focus on striding forward in the noisy city, but ignores the happiness that beckons to us around us. Just like the Alps, a world-famous tourist destination, there is a slogan hanging on a scenic avenue, which says, Go slowly, please pay attention to appreciation.

this sentence tells the true meaning of life. If we just come and go in a hurry in the journey of life, then not only the pressure of work, but also the burden of life will add heavy burdens to our hearts, so that happiness and happiness will be fettered by impetuous hearts.

Therefore, peace of mind can bring people peace and enrich the feelings of life. Remember, the destination is only prizes, and the wealth is along the way.

Quiet yourself properly, let the flowers of life bloom in time, and use its fragrance to drive away the tension and bewilderment in life until one day you climb the cloud of happiness.